So, I briefly posted about this in the Monday thread...but my position is being eliminated. My manager told me last week but couldn't give me any details. Today I learned a little more: I'll be given 21 days notice of the official date and I will be qualified for some sort of severance. My manager seems to think it'll happen sometime in September or October, but no one knows for sure so it's just a waiting game at this point. I told DH when I found out and he rightfully started freaking out. Originally, I was thinking about going back to my part time position for a little while so we could go without day care...but now that's out of the question and we'll be loosing about $1000/month in income. The hardest part about this is we can't plan since we don't have a date and I can't put a lot of money away b/c I'm paying my student loans and my car loan.
Today, DH texted me and asked if we were telling anyone that I was losing my job. I thought it was kind of weird...I mean...I just found out about it and I don't want to broadcast it. Also, it's really stressful for me to talk about since we don't know what will be happening; and I know that if we go telling family, then they'll ask 50 million questions about it that I just don't feel like answering. I asked DH why he was asking and he said that we've been telling people that I'm taking 6 weeks off and am planning to work right up until labor, but for all we know, I'll be unemployed before that. I told him that we'd talk about it when he got home...but I don't understand his need to tell people right away. It's personal and still very much up in the air. We don't know WHEN I'll be out of a job and it could be while I'm out on maternity leave. We also don't know what kind of severance I'll be getting. I also don't want the pity party...or have to give people updates whenever they ask.
I guess my question is, am I being unreasonable about not wanted to tell people just yet? Am I making this out to be bigger than it really is? TIA for the advice, ladies :-)
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Maybe DH is trying to get the word out so you can find another job opportunity. I agree with PP, don't do anything that is going to make an already stressful situation worse. DH should be understanding to what you are going through so tell him what will be best for you.
Sorry you are going through this. I hope you get to know more soon so you aren't hanging out there for to long.
What were you going to do for maternity leave? Sounds like you work for a larger organization it would be worth speaking to HR about what your options are especially this close to having to go on leave.
You will definitely find a new job, and in the meantime, I would just focus on LO even if it means being a bit cash strapped for the next few months.
Have you considered trying to babysit/nanny while you are home with LO? Even a few days a week would provide some income.
Good luck and hope everything works out.
Your DH could have been asking because hes worried about money and wants to see if friends/family would offer to help if you guys absolutly needed it. Also he could be thinking it could be a good way to network, if people know you are going to be out of work and they know of a position that youd be a good fit for they can put in a good word for you.
I dont think its being unreasonable to not want to tell anyone. Id just have a conversation with your DH and let him know that this is so new and you havent even had time to process it and come to terms with it yet, so you sort of just want a little time to digest it a bit before telling everyone.
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But of course if you don't feel comfortable sharing the info then that is totally justified. I can agree with not wanting to be faced with all sorts of questions that might induce even more stress.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this, we're surviving on one income with student loans looming as well. I would suggest contacting your loan service and attempting to defer payments due to loss of job if that can help you in any way. Good luck!
i don't think it is at all unreasonable to not want to tell other people at this point. perhaps you should ask your DH why he wants to tell, and make it clear the reasons why you do not. maybe he is just hoping for some support for you.
i'll be thinking of you and hope you get the support and help you need. take each day as it comes and don't be afraid to have some bad days due to the stress. good luck...
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My DH was laid off in May, and of course we were both starting to panic. We bought our first house in January and a LO on the way. He only told his parents, and I told my best friend. I knew our families would just freak out so I didn't want to say anything because it would in turn stress us out even more. Luckily, DH was able to find something else quickly and started working about 1.5-2 weeks later. I hope you have a happy ending as well. Sending good luck vibes your way.
I am going through something similar. My DH received a job promotion and transfer, which will bring us closer to my family. We were hoping that my company would let me work remotely but we found out this afternoon that it's not going to happen. I am freaking out about not having a job anymore. We planned to cover my pay when I was on leave since I get no maternity benefits. But we did not except to have an extra 6-8 weeks without my income. So we now have to figure out how long I will stay here alone, while my husband moves without me.
I have not told anyone at work, other than my boss, that I will be leaving. Maybe knowing the exact date I will be leaving will help but I am having a really hard time coping with it.
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