I feel like I'm a sumo wrestler, and when it comes to sex my husband just wants me to be on top.. How do I get him to try other positions? I know how to take charge and everything but I'm afraid I'll get mean with all my hormones. Advice?
I was hoping this was a thread on what sex positions were working for some of the ladies. It's awkward trying to change positions and trying what works for both of us (more me than him)
Sex.....what's that? My DH is so freaked out he hasn't touched me since positive test! Was same way with DS pregnancy. Counting the days till we are cleared after LO arrives!
It has been a few weeks since DH and I have had actual intercourse. We both just feel very awkward, especially since our baby moves a lot. We've been doing lots of other things to keep each other happy
I have had zero sex drive since the start of this pregnancy so we have had sex maybe 4 times in these 34 weeks. I have no advice since the only position somewhat comfortable for me is from behind which DH likes so...
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Sex.....what's that? My DH is so freaked out he hasn't touched me since positive test! Was same way with DS pregnancy. Counting the days till we are cleared after LO arrives!
This!! Holy crap I'm so happy my husband isn't the only one! And we had an amazing sex life before this pregnancy. I finally got to the point of just relieving myself. He is so freaked out by having my belly touch him or the idea that baby knows what's going on, we've had sex once in the last month.
We've had luck with me laying at the edge of the bed and him standing. No smooshing the belly. I also fold a body pillow and lay across it for doggy. Baby gets support.
We are still having sex, mainly from behind, or spooning or him standing on the bed while I lay. However we are doing lots of other things besides intercourse more.
My frustration is my drive is there but I cant finish for the life of me. Even on my own unless there is a toy involved then it takes forever if it even happens. Its never been like that for me and my husband usually has it going on. So hes so let down by the whole thing he hardly initiates anymore haha. Hoping its a hormonal thing and once the baby gets here Ill be back on track.
DH and I Married 11.12.10 First BPP 1.24.14 EDD 9.26.14 Baby Cooper John born on 9.24.14 6lbs9oz
@PumpkinNHunny- Im glad someone can relate! Its been frustrating, I seriously hope it goes back to something close to how it was after the baby comes and we get back to buisness after that 6-8 weeks.
DH and I Married 11.12.10 First BPP 1.24.14 EDD 9.26.14 Baby Cooper John born on 9.24.14 6lbs9oz
We spoon or i'm on my side & he's on his knee's. I like to have sex at least once a week but we have to be careful as I have a weak cervix. My dh started to get a little freaked as I got bigger. I told him having a very pregnant sexually frustrated wife is 10x worse than any of his fears he has so he better screw me.
Sex.....what's that? My DH is so freaked out he hasn't touched me since positive test! Was same way with DS pregnancy. Counting the days till we are cleared after LO arrives!
This!! Holy crap I'm so happy my husband isn't the only one! And we had an amazing sex life before this pregnancy. I finally got to the point of just relieving myself. He is so freaked out by having my belly touch him or the idea that baby knows what's going on, we've had sex once in the last month.
Us too. I guess it's not that uncommon, but it is getting annoying! I feel like he should be able to ignore these concerns, but am trying to just accept it.
And my hubby was complaining about only once or twice a week grrr sorry hunny I'll just throw up on you so you get your kicks . And I find doggy the most enjoyable .
Lol u ladies are hilarious. Well I've been having a problem, not really positions but here goes: My DH has this idea that pregnant women don't need stimulation. He juuust pushes himself inside of me and by the time my body adjusts it's done. I've tried explaining but he doesn't get it. To him the preg moisture means I'm ready to rock n roll. So these days I just don't do it. I pretend to b sleepy or just change the subject once he starts. But I miss intimacy
Is sex just painful for anyone else? It's been like this since second tri - i want it, but any kind of penetration hurts...Almost like when you have so much sex that things get sore, except that we haven't. I'm So Frustrated!!
I asked my midwife about it (so awkward for me, btw, I'm just kind of a private person), and she just recommended different positions, which didn't really help. I'm so jealous of those of you who have been able to keep going!
You ladies have helped me out a lot. I should have explained more about my situation for the others who had rather rude comments. My husband is a very reserved person, where I am a much more blunt and up front type. So when it comes to sex I'm usually the one that makes thes decisions on things and some of those things don't work for him because he served over seas and has injuries. When I talk to him about it he listens but doesn't take any action and I'm afraid that my hormones will react negatively. I'll figure something out though. Best of luck to you girls!
Lol u ladies are hilarious. Well I've been having a problem, not really positions but here goes: My DH has this idea that pregnant women don't need stimulation. He juuust pushes himself inside of me and by the time my body adjusts it's done. I've tried explaining but he doesn't get it. To him the preg moisture means I'm ready to rock n roll. So these days I just don't do it. I pretend to b sleepy or just change the subject once he starts. But I miss intimacy
Have you tried talking to him about this or going about this a different way? If it were me, I would probably take charge and instead of allow him to enter, I would stop him and tell him what to do to me to get me simulated first. Gotta keep the pregnant DW/S happy!
Sex.....what's that? My DH is so freaked out he hasn't touched me since positive test! Was same way with DS pregnancy. Counting the days till we are cleared after LO arrives!
OMG! My DH is the same way! Won't touch me. Not as far back as positive test-- but as soon as I started showing --- he got all creeped out! The weeks or so before that it was very G rated as he was worried about causing a miscarriage!
But jeez! I'm so hormonal and "charged" up--- he catches me ogling him all the time. The other day he said "my eyes are up here! And don't even think about it! My daughter is in there!" Kinda understandable-- DD does start jumping around whenever she hears him around but still... Miss the love!! Counting the days....
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My frustration is my drive is there but I cant finish for the life of me. Even on my own unless there is a toy involved then it takes forever if it even happens. Its never been like that for me and my husband usually has it going on. So hes so let down by the whole thing he hardly initiates anymore haha. Hoping its a hormonal thing and once the baby gets here Ill be back on track.
First BPP 1.24.14
EDD 9.26.14
Baby Cooper John born on 9.24.14 6lbs9oz
First BPP 1.24.14
EDD 9.26.14
Baby Cooper John born on 9.24.14 6lbs9oz
I asked my midwife about it (so awkward for me, btw, I'm just kind of a private person), and she just recommended different positions, which didn't really help. I'm so jealous of those of you who have been able to keep going!
But jeez! I'm so hormonal and "charged" up--- he catches me ogling him all the time. The other day he said "my eyes are up here! And don't even think about it! My daughter is in there!" Kinda understandable-- DD does start jumping around whenever she hears him around