Parties

one2andnow3

Anyone been to parties or bbqs this summer and had to fake drinking?

Last night I drank club soda and lime the entire night. It was an awesome party but didn't enjoy as much because I was not drinking. I also was so tired by 10:30 I was begging DH to go home.

This week I have work convention and I may blow my secret at happy hour because everyone knows what a big wine drinker I am or was.

Suggestions on how to keep my the pregnancy a secret for a few more weeks?

angelg3134

I just simply say I don't feel like drinking. I get teased for like 5  minutes but people will move on.

sleeepybunny

You could always go straight to the bar and order a cranberry juice with lime so you can meet up with people with your drink already in hand.  I've been drinking water out of beer bottles because not drinking alcohol would totally blow my cover, too. I haven't been busted yet!

HerHighness

I was a bartender for a long time so im used to being the only sober person in the room. Get into the music, do trivia or to make something into a game. Or you could always use your phone to take blackmail photos of your friends. If you are out make friends with the bartender and ask her/him to hook you up with different mocktails all night.

snooks721

I went out with friends a few weeks ago and told H when he ordered my drink (sprite) to just ask the bartender to put it in a cocktail glass with the cocktail straw so it still LOOKS like I'm drinking.

I've also used the excuse that I have a really bad headache and I know drinking will just make it worse.

Nvywife

If you don't want to fake drink say you are on a medication you can't drink with.

jennjilljo

I told people that I was staying sober for 6 months just to prove to family that I wasn't an alcoholic and didn't need help. Everyone who knows my mom understands that and alcoholism runs in my family so no one questioned it.

mommy5point0

I had juice mixed together to look like sangria in late June. :-( what sucks about being early pregnancy in the summer is not having scarves to cover up the tummy bloat. That was my trick with other pregnancies.

Laurnawin

DH's 30th birthday party was last night and a couple friends questioned why I wasn't drinking.  I ended up pouring some of DD's apple juice in a wine glass and that got people off my back.

court860810

I work for a wine and spirits distributor and on Fridays we have several supplier meetings. We had a couple of wine meetings and then kicked off a new liquor product. I tasted in the first meeting, but spit everything out and rinsed and spit with water as well.

The other meetings I just passed, people kind of asked me but I just brusehd it off and said I dind't feel like drinking this morning, I was too busy, etc. I was worried they'd make a big deal of it too, but they actually took my simple answers. I think if you try not to make a big deal out of it most people won't. Good luck, and I know what you're going through!

one2andnow3

Thanks for all the tips. We will see what happens the next 4 days. I know everything will be fine.

febmom4

I would just say you're trying not to drink alcohol a lot of people take a break from alcohol just to be healthy or lose weight or other reasons. Especially people that normally do a lot of it. Good luck!

Angeldcf

I've been having lots of "vodka"-sprites w/lime.  DH makes them for me, or I alert the bartender. 

modernfairytale8709

I thought this thread was called "Panties." I am now oddly disappointed.
That is all.

GeekBeagle

I just empty out a beer can and fill it with water. It's worked three times so far.

Maple403

Ever since our BFP I haven't really felt much like going to parties. I felt sick a lot, and tired, but mostly I didn't feel up to fake drinking or lying either. So we have spent more time with close friends who knew we were trying (we stopped drinking in Feb, when we started trying). Since our close friends knew we stopped drinking in Feb, there's no pressure to have to hide anything or lie about it. It's been hard keeping the pregnancy a secret though- some know, but most don't. I'm really looking forward to the big reveal in another 2 weeks or so! And then I will feel more comfortable going to parties again without having to lie, make excuses, or fake drink.

AnotherSun

It seems like every time I go out with a large crowd someone isn't drinking because they are doing a cleanse. You can claim that and then stick to water and juice for the night.

themacguffin

I'll bring a drink to my lips pretending to sip, and then when no one's looking, DH takes a big gulp. Easier for a bottle than a glass,but still tricky! I've also feigned a cleanse or alcohol-free challenge like jenwilhoite.

lalans

Most people know now, but I had a few ways: Order wine and have DH drink some periodically, order seltzer and grenadine with a lime, or say I'm on a low carb diet (I was on one before my wedding so that one is realistic) 

agm04

We moved recently, so I'm in a new office.  I rsvp'd for a happy hour before getting my BFP and have skipped so many social events that I couldn't back out.  We had a table and a server, and I showed up after everyone else.  I immediately got up to go to the bathroom and found our server while I was up.  I explained that I couldn't drink right now but didn't want my coworkers to know (didn't think I had to spell out the pregnancy thing), so asked if she could bring me a club soda and lime that looked like a vodka soda.  She was like "sure, no problem!"

Went to the bathroom and then back to the table, where the server showed up with a wine glass full of club soda and lime with no ice...looked nothing like a cocktail...and she says, "here's your sparkling water, ma'am."

I was like ARE YOU FREAKING SERIOUS?  So of course everyone asks why I'm not drinking.  First thing I thought of was medication so I said that.  Then they asked what kind (I said antibiotics), which ONE (I made something up) and they proceeded to tell me that I could still drink as long as I waited 4 hours to take the next dose.  It was a nightmare.

michelle142

Club soda and lime - tell them it's a vodka tonic.

Done. No questions!