Extremely long cycles, rare ovulation, erratic temps, cervical cysts, OBG blames "underweight"

gisellenewman

I'm 30 years old, went off the pill in December and have been actively trying with my husband since.

What frustrates me, more than not getting pregnant, is feeling that there is barely even a chance.  I've only had 2 seemingly normal cycles where I appeared to ovulate in the past 7 months.  The rest have been anovulatory and extremely wrong.  In fact, I never known when a cycle is going to end.  All of them have been anywhere between 29-58 days.  Despite not knowing when or if I will ovulate, my husband and I have been regularly having sex during my entire cycle (usually every other day or every other two days).

I've been using OBK's, Vitex, Maca, Prenatals, Fish Oil and even essential oils more recently.  My doctor had me do several blood tests but everything seemed to be fine.  

Every time I go to the OBG, for the past 10 years, I have had cysts on my cervix.  I guess this is pretty normal, she never seems to be concerned, but now that my cycles are so irregular, I can't help but wonder if they have something to do with it.

What really has me down is that I printed out all of my charts from Fertility Friend and took them to my OBG the other day to discuss my concerns, but she didn't even want to see them saying that there's nothing else she can do other than refer me to a specialist to have them do fertility testing and that maybe I wouldn't have so much trouble getting pregnant if I wasn't so underweight.  I am 4'11 and I weigh 98 pounds.  Granted I'm not overweight, but I'm not underweight either.  My BMI is smack in the middle, and being so short, my weight fluctuates greatly between 98 and 106 throughout the week especially depending on whether I have eaten or not and whether I am dehydrated.  I tried explaining this to her, but she told me to come back when I'm 120 pounds and then maybe she could help me.  I feel beaten down over this.  I have been trying everyday to stuff myself with food after this encounter, but at 4'11, I don't think I need to be 120 pounds - I know plenty of people that are half a foot taller than me at that weight.  

I am just so frustrated and feeling very depressed.  I think I need to go try another doctor but at this point, I feel so dejected that I'm not sure I can handle it.  Plus the time off from work and money for visits like this (which are quick, unproductive and hurtful).... I just don't know what to do.  I am extremely hesitant now to go see anyone because it's getting me nowhere.

Any advice?

BethKate2

My advice would be that you need to see a RE (reproductive endocrinologist). OBGYNs are not specifically trained to help you get pregnant which is probably why she wants to refer you to a specialist. If you're having very long anovulatory cycles, there's likely a diagnosis there that your current doctor isn't pursuing.

The only thing to keep in mind, though, is that if you're under 35 many insurance companies won't cover testing/treatment with a RE until you've been TTC for a year.

cupcake122

Also your strange cycles may still br affected by birth control. I was told it takes a year for your body and cycle to adjust after going off.

BunnyBerry

Hate it say it, but your OB is right, it's time to see an RE.

Your OB clearly doesn't know what they're talking about for something as simple as BMI, so I wouldn't trust her to figure out your cycles and get you pregnant.

Getting full testing, for you and your partner, from an RE will give the best possible info to choose an effective treatment. I also wonder why your doctor is ignoring your cervical cysts - I would want that checked by a specialist, too.

gisellenewman

Thank you - I really appreciate everyone's advice!  I am going to make an appointment to see a RE.