I asked FTB if MTB had a few very close friends who should be invited to the shower and he provided me with a list of 27 people! I think it included every woman she had ever spent time with, lol! I told him that our venue couldn't accommodate all of the family guests plus the people on the list and that by a few I meant maybe 3-4. Originally I asked him also to use his discretion as many of her friends have already been invited to a shower that her side of the family is holding. He replied that none of those on the list were her close friends but hadn't been invited to a shower yet - more to the point, acquaintances, friends of friends and some co-workers. And he also said he couldn't narrow it down as he didn't really know many of them (???) My question: Why on earth would you then expect these people to buy you gifts? I told him if he wasn't able to pick a few we would probably just have to skip it. He said he would talk to her sister who is hosting the other shower and see if she can have them at that one. I guess it will be her problem then, poor girl. Nothing should surprise me anymore, but really, where do you draw the freaking line??? I don't know if MTB had a hand in creating the list - silly, but traditionally family showers are kept kind of hush-hush - Mom always knows the date but the particulars are always a surprise.