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Ok so I know I know, 2nd trimester is different for everyone and while I do feel better & more energetic (although not THAT much) I have absolutely ZERO desire to "do it". I feel so so badly for DH, he's so supportive and wonderful! And he wants me sooooo badly. It's hard to feel sexy, however, when you have atomic level gas and headaches for days. It (my gas) was so bad last night he slept on the couch. It's so depressing. What's even worse is how supportive he is of not getting any, all he says is "I understand & I love you no matter what!" I can't remember the last time we "did it". Anyone else in this conundrum?

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    I felt like poop the entire first trimester.  Honestly, we haven't DTD since March, when I found out I am pregnant.  Apparently I have a UTI now so I'm scared to even attempt it and make that even worse.  Thank god he's so supportive.  I still feel like such a terrible wife.  The absolute last thing I want is to be intimate right now.
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    I spent the entire first trimester wanting it so bad, and it was SO good. Now that I'm in second tri (and oddly feeling better) I am rarely interested.... 
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    My queen Victoria hurts. I was just telling my friend if I get aroused it's accompanied with pain and cramps. And nothing is even near there! I still suck it up and do it because I start having really weird dreams about DH hating me, which is totally not the case, he never says anything to me about it. I just give myself weird guilt trips.

    But if it weren't for the weird guilty dreams I would be a-ok waiting until January.
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    Thanks y'all!! Feels SO good to know I'm not alone!!!! Y'all are the best!
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    I'm usually good to go first thing in the morning these days, but after that not so much. When I am in the mood though there's basically no warm up required, and I'm getting off during the actual deed with awesome regularity so that's fun. :)
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    nesenotes said:

    My queen Victoria hurts. 

    BAA HA HA HA.  Sorry- not about it hurting part, I've just never heard that term before.  Love it.


    I know! I just cackled out loud when I read that too! That's a good one @nesenotes‌ =)) and on the thread subject we've only DTD once since THE time and it was kinda uncomfortable. I think either my cervix is super grouchy or it is somehow lower down since pregnancy, is that even possible?
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    We did yesterday. Only because I was laying there with my pants off on the bed and I said might as well. My ladies parts are just not interested. I told him if he ever really wants to to let me know and I will, but that doesn't appeal to him. I'm aiming for once a week since I'm past the horrors of first trimester. To be nice.
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    Me! I spent most of our four year marriage fighting endometriosis and sex was extremely painful. Now that we don't HAVE to do it, I'm perfectly fine with not. I could probably go without until after the baby is here. While my DH is really supportive I know he hates the fact that he won't be getting any for a while. I'm a horrible wife (hangs head in shame).

    Another endo sex avoiding couple!! I'm not alone in the world! For me, sex equals pain, so it isn't something I enjoy unless it's after I've recovered from surgery. Sad really, but you understand. I'm quite okay if we don't do it for the entire pregnancy, especially since my ovary is currently stuck to my pelvic wall and as my uterus grows, it pulls. Fun times. You're not a horrible wife! You have a horrible disease that makes you look at normal things as awful!

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    First tri, nothing. I was a ball of sad hormones. Now he's deployed and I neeeeeeeeed him home like yesterday! Ugh. He gets home around the end of 2nd tri, I hope I'm still this... Energetic!
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    We are definitely doing it less, but for us that just means 2-3 times a week. 
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    Once a month. I'll probably put out this weekend. We haven't done it in our new house yet! What's crazy is I have all of these Amazing sex dreams, then I wake up and all of that mojo disappears.
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    rshamos said:

    Once a month. I'll probably put out this weekend. We haven't done it in our new house yet! What's crazy is I have all of these Amazing sex dreams, then I wake up and all of that mojo disappears.


    Yep. Me too.
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    12/09/14: EDD

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    Sex? Hmm doesn't sound familiar.
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    Eh, we've done it once. Thats it. Even the occasional sex dreams arent helping. Im planning to put out this weekend i think :/
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    I couldn't do it first trimester due to bleeding issues and I was fine with that. A couple weeks ago, I "gave in" and I'm so glad I did! I've been able to O in record speed, so it's pretty amazing!!

    When we weren't doing it, I still took care of DH with the occasional BJ or hand job. Just lay there naked and let him look at your lady parts! Even if he has to give his own hand job.
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