Anyone not having a traditional shower? Maybe moms w/ multiple children?

Richardsmom_817

I am having baby #4.  I don't want a full out shower, or to register even, but to maybe have some sort of celebration/get together where everyone can meet the baby after he/she comes...I'm due 11/12, so it will be in the dead of winter if I decide to do it 1-2 months after the baby arrives...thinking Dec is too crazy for people, but feeling like January is so far out (baby will be 2 months old), but time-wise, it makes more sense than trying to have something like that during the month of December....then you have to worry about germs/sickness too.....thoughts?  

Also, it would obviously make more sense for my mom to send invites out AFTER baby comes, right?  So we can at least put a name on the invite?  I only had 1 big baby shower & that was w/ my first, who will be 9 by the time this baby comes.

emoxymoose

A meet the baby party is typically casual, so you don't need formal invites.

Melissa2216

Ugh, DH has a HUGE extended family, so the thought of having a "meet the baby" event makes my skin crawl. Not sure yet if I will bring the baby to the big family Christmas gathering. We probably will, but I will have to figure out how to nicely tell everyone that we will NOT be passing the baby around. I am not having a shower (this is our 2nd boy) but I created a registry just so I can get the completion coupon.

Maelara

My mom insists on throwing me another baby shower. Even thought these babies will only be 16 months apart and both girls. But she insists that every baby be celebrated. So I'm not doing a registry and I'm going to tell people that gifts are not required. I still might try to convince her to do a meet and greet, that way it truly is about the baby!

pennyandandy

I like @WildFlower810‌'s idea and I might steal it. Maybe that will take some of the pressure off of feeling like people need to see the baby at Christmas, too, if they know they will get to meet the baby a little later.

shindylahoe

We are having baby #4 and I have made sure my sisters (who would normally throw me one) know that I didn't want one.

At this point I feel like if someone really wants to bless me with a gift they will wether I have a shower or not. Then the people who would just feel obligated because of the shower are off the hook.

lil_shocker

I didn't, really. My cousin and godmother threw one with my grandma my two aunts and my mom. It had a total of 8 people there,myself included. My friend organized dinner and pedicures with a small group of friends. And for my husband's family, we did a meet the baby after I gave birth because we don't see them often and figured it would be more ezciting for them to see the baby, not my stomach.

I am not really a shower person. Don't get me wrong, I love having gatherings, but showers and bachelorette parties? Not really my style, because I feel so awkward.

ccam

I don't think invites are necessary for a meet and greet type party, I would just make a few phone calls.  Sending out an invite makes it seem like a gift giving event. 

And yes, you will have to worry about germs in the middle of January, especially since people will expect to hold the baby.  The most you can do is ask that everyone wash their hands.  I hope people that are sick would have the sense to stay home!

This is #2 for me and I won't be having any type of shower, meet and greet, etc.  Whatever way you label these parties, they all sound gift grabby to me.  We had super generous people at our shower for DS and anything else we need, we'll buy ourselves.  I'll be discharged from the hospital on Thanksgiving but we'll be bringing the new LO to Christmas on both sides of the family so everyone will meet him or her then.