You're Eating Sushi??

ritzgrrl

The cafeteria at work sells fully cooked (but cold, obviously) California rolls that I like to partake in occasionally. I always microwave them first to kill off the listeria because I'm paranoid like that; but every time I do, I try to kind of hide what I'm eating. Otherwise, I get to have a sarcastic conversation similar to the one I just had.

Male Coworker: You're eating sushi??

Me: Hey, I don't want any judgment! Besides, I microwaved it.

Male Coworker: You just couldn't resist. It's OK - your kid will just come out with antlers.

Me: That's fine.

Male Coworker: You can decorate them.

Me: Builds character.

Oh banter. I know sushi from a reputable place is usually fine, but a corporate cafeteria probably doesn't fall under that category. Well, guess I'll see if I have an antlered baby in 2 months!

Anyone else get any judgy comments lately?

Jenner37

I was in line at the coffee bar at work the other day and THREE different people told me I wasn't supposed to be having coffee, freaking coffee! I just smiled. Enjoy your sushi!

wrightpalomo

I was pretty sure the barista at Starbucks gave me the side eye the other day but Hubbs said I was just being paranoid. 

I got some weird judgement from my husband's cousins who reallllllly wanted me to have a beer at the family reunion 2 weeks ago... um, no thanks! If I was going to indulge in an occasional alcoholic drink it certainly wouldn't be in front of his whole family!

LTMama

I think I give off a "don't talk to me" vibe, so strangers don't say anything to me LOL.  I actually kept eating sushi (actual sushi, not just California rolls) up til around week 24, when I became huge and felt weird going and getting it and getting looked at. 

Mostly my sushi embargo is because I had a bad experience with some "fresh" salmon I got at the grocery store a few weeks ago.  Salmon is my main sushi love, so I've been avoiding it from being a bit grossed out.

ritzgrrl

wrightpalomo said:

I got some weird judgement from my husband's cousins who reallllllly wanted me to have a beer at the family reunion 2 weeks ago... um, no thanks! If I was going to indulge in an occasional alcoholic drink it certainly wouldn't be in front of his whole family!

Wow yeah, I'm sure chugging a beer in front of the whole family would've led to a lot of judgment going the other way. DH asked me if I wanted to try his beer the other day, but I shot him down, too. I've done the sips of wine, but beer seems...different in my mind for some strange reason. Even though it's lower in alcohol.

megs2011

Screw them. California rolls have artificial crab in it anyways and veggies. Nbd. I've had sushi quite a few times already. Mind you I don't eat the raw stuff or fish eggs even when I'm not pregnant. I stick to the cooked shrimp and fake crab.

MrsLaLaBug

I sit my pregnant ass in the sushi restaurant HAPPY AND PROUD!!  I wish somebody WOULD tell me something, so I could nonchalantly gaze over at them and ask, "sooooo.... you gonna eat that?"

kmbk27

"You were so small before! Now, You look like you're having twins."
"You're due mid September? You won't make it through August."

And I definitely got a side eye while buying NON ALCOHOLIC beer. I was like - really guy, really?

braybee

Hahah @MrsLaLaBug‌, me too, and everything I order is raw!

wrightpalomo

Also, am I the only one who thinks a microwaved California Roll sounds super gross? I mean there's mayo in those things! Girl, get yourself some real sushi and don't go eating microwaved mayo. 

trebekastan

I had a delish sushi dinner last night with all sorts of raw fish. Can somebody please enlighten me how a whole culture manages to have kids without antlers while eating this stuff? 

dal2aus

Sometimes playing the "sideye" card can work in your favor.  Last week, I was at the store, and my husband called to ask me to pick up a couple packs of beer so he could make a Black & Blue.  I said, "Do you really think a woman in my condition should be seen in public buying 2 packs of beer?"  He said, "Yeah, you're right, never mind." 

I didn't want to tell him that I just didn't feel like walking over to the beer section. 

ritzgrrl

wrightpalomo said:

Also, am I the only one who thinks a microwaved California Roll sounds super gross? I mean there's mayo in those things! Girl, get yourself some real sushi and don't go eating microwaved mayo. 

Haha, it's actually good! Hot rice, good. Hot imitation crab, good. Hot avocado, why not. Although to be honest, I didn't know there was mayo in it. That does sound gross.

T&HLove

Haha I made a face at the microwaved sushi, too. But I've been eating it my entire pregnancy. (Nothing raw, but I know it's not the only concern. And fwiw, I avoided everything while pg with my first.) I got a comment about coffee yesterday. I asked a coworker if there was any coffee and she replied, "decaf???" I was like "no? Regular." Then she acted like I'm a crazy person.

ashaw512

I got a side eye from a lot of ppl when I went to a restaurant/bar with DH, SIL and her husband. I was 8 mo pregnant and walked to the bar, I felt so uncomfortable, I wouldn't now but I did then. It's not like it was 2 in the morning at a club, it was a restaurant that closed at 11! It's ridiculous how ppl judge what pregnant women do.

amom2four

This is making me think I need to get up and make a coffee run! I really wanted a slurpee yesterday but with this stupid GD I have to go sugar free and the only SF was watermelon. Gag.

slowmo

I think what I find most annoying about unsolicited advice from people is the assumption on their part that I haven't bothered to pick up a book or talk to my doctor about what I should/shouldn't be doing during this pregnancy. I'm not a moron, so BACK OFF. I try to be gracious about it, like "Oh, thanks, I'll keep that in mind," but it's not easy.

Case in point: I had a patient this weekend who told me I should be rubbing aloe on my stomach to prevent stretch marks because "men find stretch marks really unattractive." WTF.

nilvero

Haha! I had sushi today and noticed a couple giving me the side eye! All I had was a spicy California roll and a shrimp tempura roll. I made sure to look at them everytime I took a bite.

trebekastan

slowmo said:

I think what I find most annoying about unsolicited advice from people is the assumption on their part that I haven't bothered to pick up a book or talk to my doctor about what I should/shouldn't be doing during this pregnancy. I'm not a moron, so BACK OFF. I try to be gracious about it, like "Oh, thanks, I'll keep that in mind," but it's not easy.

Case in point: I had a patient this weekend who told me I should be rubbing aloe on my stomach to prevent stretch marks because "men find stretch marks really unattractive." WTF.

It's true. DH told me that for every one I get he is going to divorce me a year sooner and also, that if I don't keep my bush trimmed he'll take the cats and leave. Silly boys.

JulyMomma2U2

Now I want sushi.  Like, stat.

BRITTANYN83

Haha me too! Headed out to get some sushi now. dr says it's totally fine to eat as long as from reputable place..and I say let them stare!

kateitho

My OB said a good rule of thumb for anything raw, including salads and sushi, is to go in the bathroom first.  If you wouldn't drink a glass of water from the bathroom sink, then don't eat raw foods there...

cls0602

My mom and friends gave me a hard time about helping DH paint our sons nursery. It really annoyed me because I'm PGaL and paranoid about everything... I obviously did my research first!

bainidhedub

Arg I totally got side-eye while picking up something for DH at the liquor store last month. Where we live, the grocery stores don't carry any alcohol and only the county stores sell liquor, but they put them right next to the grocery store so I went while I was running errands. So mad.

JD83

I have never gotten any these reactions, but I think part of that is because so many people don't realize that I'm pregnant, they just think I'm really fat.

MrsLaLaBug

ritzgrrl said:

wrightpalomo said:

Also, am I the only one who thinks a microwaved California Roll sounds super gross? I mean there's mayo in those things! Girl, get yourself some real sushi and don't go eating microwaved mayo. 

Haha, it's actually good! Hot rice, good. Hot imitation crab, good. Hot avocado, why not. Although to be honest, I didn't know there was mayo in it. That does sound gross.


I think I just threw up in my mouth.

MMason12

I must give off the "don't even comment to me" look. Although I've had plently on people make wacky comments about other pregnancy topics -- besides my Mom -- no one has said anything to me about what I eat or drink. I would probably be pretty sassy to anyone if they did. It's really no one else's business.

I agree though -- it is amazing how people think it is okay to be rude to pregnant women.

courtney4425

I'm just over here eating my ego waffles and jimmy dean sausage biscuits and laughing.... And pretending its sushi.

ritzgrrl

kateitho said:

My OB said a good rule of thumb for anything raw, including salads and sushi, is to go in the bathroom first.  If you wouldn't drink a glass of water from the bathroom sink, then don't eat raw foods there...

That sounds like a good rule of thumb. I guess I can stop being so paranoid now. And stop grossing you all out, haha.

ConversationFear

kmbk27 said:

"You were so small before! Now, You look like you're having twins." "You're due mid September? You won't make it through August." And I definitely got a side eye while buying NON ALCOHOLIC beer. I was like - really guy, really?

Yeah - this. I get all of this. (Except the "You were so small before". That was not the case, lol. But I still get the twins thing. Or rather - "How many are in there?")

RedBaramid

knovitski I did the beer run for the family for a birthday party Monday.. because I was sober. 3 six packs and a bottle of wine and a bottle of champagne. The girl at the check out counter looked at me like I was a monster. I got a little nervous she was going to try some BS refuse to sell thing. 

LexiT88

MrsLaLaBug said:

wrightpalomo said:

Also, am I the only one who thinks a microwaved California Roll sounds super gross? I mean there's mayo in those things! Girl, get yourself some real sushi and don't go eating microwaved mayo. 

Haha, it's actually good! Hot rice, good. Hot imitation crab, good. Hot avocado, why not. Although to be honest, I didn't know there was mayo in it. That does sound gross.

I think I just threw up in my mouth.

I'm sorry, but am I the only person who didn't know there was MAYO in a regular California roll?  I'm not sure where y'all are getting your sushi from...but I would never go for a sushi roll with actual mayonnaise in it...I'm not even a fan of the spicy mayo. Bleh

LarisaSky

I actually go out of my way to order coffee, sushi and alcohol as much as possible when I go out. When people say something to me about it, it gives me a chance to change their opinion about what pregnant women should and shouldn't be doing. That didn't stop my in-laws from looking shocked when I ordered a bourbon at dinner one night, but that could be because they're not bourbon fans. Anyway, I like getting the chance to educate people and the perfect opportunity is when they say something to me about something I'm eating or drinking. Besides, sushi was the only thing that would stay down in the first trimester. Weird.

Anyway, be loud and proud ladies! There's no other way to change people's opinions!

TinkL0ver

LarisaSky said:

I actually go out of my way to order coffee, sushi and alcohol as much as possible when I go out. When people say something to me about it, it gives me a chance to change their opinion about what pregnant women should and shouldn't be doing. That didn't stop my in-laws from looking shocked when I ordered a bourbon at dinner one night, but that could be because they're not bourbon fans. Anyway, I like getting the chance to educate people and the perfect opportunity is when they say something to me about something I'm eating or drinking. Besides, sushi was the only thing that would stay down in the first trimester. Weird.

Anyway, be loud and proud ladies! There's no other way to change people's opinions!

Er... maybe I'm reading this wrong. Was the bourbon for you? Please let me know if I really shouldn't side eye this if it was... I understand a small glass of wine once in a while, or drinking a bit of beer (I wouldn't do it but wouldn't side eye someone nursing ether one) but a hard liquor? I would have a hard time not judging that especially if someone I was with "went out of their way" to order it. 

braybee

The thought of a pregnant woman drinking bourbon disturbs me.

wrightpalomo

I love whiskey and I have missed it dearly since January. My OB said a weekly glass of wine is fine and even the most lax recommendations I've read say one glass of wine or one lower-alcohol beer a day but absolutely no hard liquor. @larisasky I'd be interested to know why you are ok with drinking bourbon. Do you have links to a study or an article on this? Did your OB give you the OK on an occasional hard liquor drink?

ETA: spelling

JD83

I've read similar things about hard liquor as opposed to beer and wine, but would love to see more information if it's available. I'm not sure why it would make a difference, as long as you're not knocking back shot after shot. I'll still take a sip of something DH is drinking if it looks tasty, but thus far have been able to resist the hard stuff. Although, sipping on an ice cold double Patron sounds like heaven right now.

(Sorry if this reads a little discombobulated. I'm sick and keep getting distracted and then coming back to it.)

Lollieg84

I went out for lunch with a friend recently, she ordered a beer and I ordered a non alcoholic O'Douls, which is actually rather tasty. I was unprepared for soooo many sideways glanses! A lady a few tables down very loudly said to her husband, can you believe she's drinking a beer?! Sucks feeling like a criminal when you know you're doing nothing wrong

Lizziemac217

First of all all men should be quiet, they never have to be pregnant. Second of all California roll is cooked and there is no reason not to have t!

wrightpalomo

@larisasky are you really not going to respond after posting that crazy shit? 

AmandaR204

I normally love sushi, but I had some when I was 17 weeks along and I got food poising, it was from reheated bacillus infested rice.