Holy separation anxiety, Batman!!!

Mandmeesh

Holy crap. Me and M went away Tuesday through Thursday this week. Mh stayed home with the pets. M WILL NOT let me leave his side. Even at home, he cries if mh tries to do anything with him-talk, play, leave the room. Mh said the time away was a bad idea. I say I need to leave the house and let them hang out together

How do I fix it???? I need some freakin alone time

flummadiddle85

DS screams whenever I leave him with DH...even if I just go to another room. He gets over it and is just fine after a couple min tho.

stoneycakes

NVandGZ said:

DS screams whenever I leave him with DH...even if I just go to another room. He gets over it and is just fine after a couple min tho.

This.  If you actually leave the house, he'll probably be totally fine with your H.

sarenu1

Yes, just make a run for it. Have your husband distract him if he can and leave.

ElleBeeDub

Yeah, the only way he's really going to get over it is to realize that you're coming back. If you're more comfortable going slow, leave him with your H while you take a quick walk around the block, then go back... Keep increasing the time until he's good. OR just leave him for a few hours. He really will be fine, and your H can always call you if he's just not calming down.

KLXVI

L is going through this as well.  It arrived the same time as we started part-time daycare.  I don't know how to deal with it yet because it just popped out of nowhere for us, too.  I thought that I would be the one having a hard time with daycare.

 

>:D<

farmrose

We had this issue right before I went back to work. LO fusses if Dh is holding her and I'm home but she cooperates just fine when they are alone. I think they know it's their only option when you're not there. Also, I had DH do everything except feed her the whole week before I went back so she'd get better around him. Seemed to work.

unaveragejane

Oh, I hated the separation anxiety days!!! DS's kicked in around 18 months. He was fine with DH but would melt down with anyone else (like church nursery). I like LBW's advice to just start with short times away unless you are comfortable going longer or if M is handling the separation okay. I was on the fence about whether to sneak out or tell him I was going when I had to leave him with someone. For N, he did better when I explained I was going and would be back soon. I'd then always leave his comfort item and make sure he was totally immersed in something (like reading a book with the caregiver) before I cut and run. Knowing that the caregiver would page me if N flipped out also relieved a lot of my anxiety and I really think N picked up on that.

Mandmeesh

This was a sudden change brought on by this three days away, though. I feel like it's my fault that he's like this

Or my brother's fault because he's the one who was holding M away from me when he was crying at bedtime-telling him not to cry and that it would be okay
I really feel like he's scarred now!

blondolphn

It gets better. Some days go better than others. Just keep trying.