January 2014 Moms

Re: UO

  • Sorry about the FB repeat, but I think the new AAP recommendation regarding reading is excessive. If you do it and it works for you, that's fine. But there are other ways to develop language skills -- talking and singing, for example. All it does is make parents who are unable to read to their babies consistently feel inadequate.

    There are so many things for new parents to worry about with newborns. To make them feel like they are doing permanent developmental damage by not reading to a newborn is a pretty shitty thing to do. And false, in my opinion.

    I come from a big reading family. I read WAY more than any of my friends as a child, and at a much higher level. I think there is definitely a time when reading becomes important, and it is a good habit to get into. But at birth? Yeah, not so much.

    Agreed! We try to read to Patrick, but it's hard to get him yo sit still long enough. He's more interested in playing with the book.
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  • precious72381precious72381 member
    edited June 2014
    I might get flamed for this one...but I put Abby on her belly to sleep. She has rolled over back to belly since 3 months. If I put her down on her back, she wakes up, cries and screams and I have to soothe her back to sleep, but she flips over on her belly while she cries. So I save the time, and just put her on her belly to sleep. She did sleep on me that way for so long too.

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  • I hate the inequality of admiration for parents who stay at home. I feel men get all kinds of accolades, like "wow he's such an amazing father for SAH" while women get the side eye and the guilt of trying to clean house, cook, care for kids, etc.

    Everyone should be praised for their best parenting efforts - for some that's working outside the home for others it's SAH.  Don't matter man or woman!
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  • I might get flamed for this one...but I put Abby on her belly to sleep. She has rolled over back to belly since 3 months. If I put her down on her back, she wakes up, cries and screams and I have to soothe her back to sleep, but she flips over on her belly while she cries. So I save the time, and just put her on her belly to sleep. She did sleep on me that way for so long too.
    When DD2 was only about 2 weeks old I started putting her to sleep on her belly because she was in so much pain from gas, which we now know was dairy sensitivity.  Until the dairy was out of my milk and her system she started sleeping on her back.  I'm probably the one that will get flamed...
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  • I hate the inequality of admiration for parents who stay at home. I feel men get all kinds of accolades, like "wow he's such an amazing father for SAH" while women get the side eye and the guilt of trying to clean house, cook, care for kids, etc.

    Hmmm, I don't know that I agree with this.  I kind of think men who stay home are looked at as "poor guy must not be able to find a job to support his family, so he's staying home with the kids" while women, even if that is the situation for them, are looked at as doing the right thing for their families to stay home and tend the house.  

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  • I hate the inequality of admiration for parents who stay at home. I feel men get all kinds of accolades, like "wow he's such an amazing father for SAH" while women get the side eye and the guilt of trying to clean house, cook, care for kids, etc.

    Hmmm, I don't know that I agree with this.  I kind of think men who stay home are looked at as "poor guy must not be able to find a job to support his family, so he's staying home with the kids" while women, even if that is the situation for them, are looked at as doing the right thing for their families to stay home and tend the house.  

    Yes, but overall, anytime a mother does something for the children it is normal and expected she do that. Anytime the father does the same thing, it is treated like he is the first man ever to take his child to the bathroom or brush his daughter's hair. People fall over themselves to praise fathers. I get what @thegosiers was saying and I agree.
    I agree with @thegosiers and @sugarland726 here. I get what you're saying, though, @sunflowersbride. There is a bit of a double standard from either perspective, and it sucks.
  • @precious72381 -- I think a lot of people have their babies sleep on their stomachs now. Once they are strong enough, it's a good way to deal with infants who (a) like to be on their tummies, and (b) like the swaddled feeling. It's definitely not the same as when they were newborns. I don't think anyone will judge. :)






  • I hate the inequality of admiration for parents who stay at home. I feel men get all kinds of accolades, like "wow he's such an amazing father for SAH" while women get the side eye and the guilt of trying to clean house, cook, care for kids, etc.


    Hmmm, I don't know that I agree with this.  I kind of think men who stay home are looked at as "poor guy must not be able to find a job to support his family, so he's staying home with the kids" while women, even if that is the situation for them, are looked at as doing the right thing for their families to stay home and tend the house.  


    Yes, but overall, anytime a mother does something for the children it is normal and expected she do that. Anytime the father does the same thing, it is treated like he is the first man ever to take his child to the bathroom or brush his daughter's hair. People fall over themselves to praise fathers. I get what @thegosiers was saying and I agree.



    I agree with @thegosiers and @sugarland726 here. I get what you're saying, though, @sunflowersbride. There is a bit of a double standard from either perspective, and it sucks.



    I agree about how fathers get over praised every time they do anything patenting related. I'm constantly having to tell my mil that my husband doesn't babysit, he parents. But I also think that Sah dads get the short end of the stick sometimes. A lot of mommy groups and play groups won't even let dads join which is a bunch of bull. Sah is isolating and Sah dads need adult interaction too. I started a baby group for the coast guard unit we're at cause a bunch of us have kids under one and I made it a point to say dads could Join too. Turns out we don't have any Sah dads but still.

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  • Soccer/football is boring. Looking forward to the World Cup being over.
    @sugarland726, In the past, I would have agreed. And I will be honest, I am not a habitual soccer spectator. But I did develop a respect and interest in soccer about 10 years ago.

    Time for an early FFFC? FFTC? I was a professional dancer/cheerleader for the Rochester Rhinos soccer team in 2003 and 2004. ;)
  • @precious72381 -- I think a lot of people have their babies sleep on their stomachs now. Once they are strong enough, it's a good way to deal with infants who (a) like to be on their tummies, and (b) like the swaddled feeling. It's definitely not the same as when they were newborns. I don't think anyone will judge. :)

    This exactly!!!
    DS rolls both ways now and the last couple nights he rolls onto tummy in the MOTN and sleeps so damn good, he hardly wakes now. He use to wake a few times now it's just once or not at all
  • karah4816 said:
    I hate the inequality of admiration for parents who stay at home. I feel men get all kinds of accolades, like "wow he's such an amazing father for SAH" while women get the side eye and the guilt of trying to clean house, cook, care for kids, etc.

    Hmmm, I don't know that I agree with this.  I kind of think men who stay home are looked at as "poor guy must not be able to find a job to support his family, so he's staying home with the kids" while women, even if that is the situation for them, are looked at as doing the right thing for their families to stay home and tend the house.  

    Yes, but overall, anytime a mother does something for the children it is normal and expected she do that. Anytime the father does the same thing, it is treated like he is the first man ever to take his child to the bathroom or brush his daughter's hair. People fall over themselves to praise fathers. I get what @thegosiers was saying and I agree.
    I agree with @thegosiers and @sugarland726 here. I get what you're saying, though, @sunflowersbride. There is a bit of a double standard from either perspective, and it sucks.
    I agree about how fathers get over praised every time they do anything patenting related. I'm constantly having to tell my mil that my husband doesn't babysit, he parents. But I also think that Sah dads get the short end of the stick sometimes. A lot of mommy groups and play groups won't even let dads join which is a bunch of bull. Sah is isolating and Sah dads need adult interaction too. I started a baby group for the coast guard unit we're at cause a bunch of us have kids under one and I made it a point to say dads could Join too. Turns out we don't have any Sah dads but still.
    Yes, my UO was how dads seem to get praised for being so involved when I'm thinking, you're a parent too, dude!  I also see the other side too, though, that it's less traditional for dads to SAH and in some ways it can be tougher socially.  I just wish the world would mind its own beeswax and let families choose what's best for them and stop judging!
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  • Everything @tarajeannette‌ said.
    My H is now SAH and it's amazing! It feels like such a weight was lifted off of our shoulders when we made the decision and acted on it. What's even better is that the far after he declined the job offer to SAH, the local academy of performing arts called and wants him to do part time for for them, which works perfectly with my schedule.

    Thanks universe!!

    Sorry, don't have a UO right now.
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  • Just saw a picture on fb and it reminded me of a UO....

    I can't stand all of the anchor designs on clothes. What does it even mean? It's even all over kids clothes. People are getting anchor tattoos. WTH?
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  • Inspired by the bridesmaid thread, I don't think being a bridesmaid is all that great, unless you are friends with all the other bridesmaids.

    Two of the weddings I've been in, the other girls were all some of my closest friends, and it was awesome and SO much fun. The third was for my BFF (been best friends since grade 7). We had gone to different universities and made different friends, so all the other girls were friends and I was MOH and not close with any of them. I love my BFF and was happy to do all the party planning and help her, but I didn't have much fun at the bachelorette party or sitting at the head table at the wedding.

    I love my fSIL, but I am so relieved that she didn't ask me to be a BM with her friends/sister that \i don't know!
  • @esd My H was in the Navy so it has meaning to me as well, just not necessarily a good one lol ;)
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  • pinkyxboopinkyxboo member
    edited June 2014
    Going off the anchor tattoo thing... i find it ridiculous when people get the same old generic tattoo. The anchor and bow/ribbon? Yea, you and thousands of other people. Infinity sign? Yea, that's original. Infinity sign with words like love, hope or faith? Sigh. I feel like a tattoo should be more personal and meaningful. Not some cutesy design a bazillion other people have that you think you are making original by adding a certain word. If you find a tattoo ARTIST (and I put artist in caps because some tattoo artists are not ARTISTS), and you tell them what you are thinking and what's important to you. .. The drawings they can come up with are pretty amazing...and not something every other person has.


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  • pinkyxboo said:
    Going off the anchor tattoo thing... i find it ridiculous when people get the same old generic tattoo. The anchor and bow/ribbon? Yea, you and thousands of other people. Infinity sign? Yea, that's original. Infinity sign with words like love, hope or faith? Sigh. I feel like a tattoo should be more personal and meaningful. Not some cutesy design a bazillion other people have that you think you are making original by adding a certain word. If you find a tattoo ARTIST (and I put artist in caps because some tattoo artists are not ARTISTS), and you tell them what you are thinking and what's important to you. .. The drawings they can come up with are pretty amazing...and not something every other person has.
    What about a rose tattoo?  Gag me. "Mom" written on a heart with an arrow?  What, you're your mom's boyfriend, you sicko?  I agree. Let's be original. I should shut up bc I don't have tattoos and prob will never get one. I was going to to commemorate my loss, but got a necklace with an angel and an emerald instead. (Was due may '13)

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  • Random, a friend and I were discussing anchors the other day. But I think the anchor began being used (by those outside the navy) in tattoos and such as a way for some to camouflage the Holy Cross. Obviously, this is not the reason we see it everywhere anymore. Anchor with pink bow on your breast =/= religious display.


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  • peanutmusepeanutmuse member
    edited June 2014
    @sapatel1 - there is a link on the AAP home page. But it doesn't say anything about length of time. IMO that is irrelevant. 30 seconds versus 30 minutes to a newborn -- do you really think that will make a difference?

  • pinkyxboo said:

    Going off the anchor tattoo thing... i find it ridiculous when people get the same old generic tattoo. The anchor and bow/ribbon? Yea, you and thousands of other people. Infinity sign? Yea, that's original. Infinity sign with words like love, hope or faith? Sigh. I feel like a tattoo should be more personal and meaningful. Not some cutesy design a bazillion other people have that you think you are making original by adding a certain word. If you find a tattoo ARTIST (and I put artist in caps because some tattoo artists are not ARTISTS), and you tell them what you are thinking and what's important to you. .. The drawings they can come up with are pretty amazing...and not something every other person has.

    What about a rose tattoo?  Gag me. "Mom" written on a heart with an arrow?  What, you're your mom's boyfriend, you sicko?  I agree. Let's be original. I should shut up bc I don't have tattoos and prob will never get one. I was going to to commemorate my loss, but got a necklace with an angel and an emerald instead. (Was due may '13)


    I knew a guy in high school that got a pin up nurse tattooed on his arm. She had fishnet stockings, boobs hanging out, etc. It would have been fine, but it said "mom" right next to it.
  • pinkyxboopinkyxboo member
    edited June 2014


    pinkyxboo said:

    Going off the anchor tattoo thing... i find it ridiculous when people get the same old generic tattoo. The anchor and bow/ribbon? Yea, you and thousands of other people. Infinity sign? Yea, that's original. Infinity sign with words like love, hope or faith? Sigh. I feel like a tattoo should be more personal and meaningful. Not some cutesy design a bazillion other people have that you think you are making original by adding a certain word. If you find a tattoo ARTIST (and I put artist in caps because some tattoo artists are not ARTISTS), and you tell them what you are thinking and what's important to you. .. The drawings they can come up with are pretty amazing...and not something every other person has.

    What about a rose tattoo?  Gag me. "Mom" written on a heart with an arrow?  What, you're your mom's boyfriend, you sicko?  I agree. Let's be original. I should shut up bc I don't have tattoos and prob will never get one. I was going to to commemorate my loss, but got a necklace with an angel and an emerald instead. (Was due may '13)


    I knew a guy in high school that got a pin up nurse tattooed on his arm. She had fishnet stockings, boobs hanging out, etc. It would have been fine, but it said "mom" right next to it.
    Lol....awwwwkkkwaaarrrddddd.


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  • @sapatel1, I see what you're saying. You are absolutely right, it was a bad interpretation. I'm surprised about that, coming from the NY Times. That is one news source that I typically trust to do their research.

    I agree, the rest of the initiative is fantastic.

    So I will amend my UO to say that the NY Times sucks for making parents think that they need to read to their kids from birth. ;)
  • @Bookshelves -- whether it's coming from the AAP, or via my pedi as recommended by the AAP, it really doesn't matter. If my pedi had said anything about reading during the first week of his life (during which we had four pedi appts to make sure he was thriving, one to the ENT specialist, my BP spikes nearly landed me in the hospital again, my milk didn't come in so we had an LC come to our house -- in addition to "normal" newborn and recovery stuff)..... well, I probably would have looked at her like she had two heads. ;)
  • I knew a guy in high school that got a pin up nurse tattooed on his arm. She had fishnet stockings, boobs hanging out, etc. It would have been fine, but it said "mom" right next to it.
    @SandFHasse, until you got to the mom part, I was sure you were talking about my BIL. He has the same tattoo.

  • On the pp about anchors I will agree the generic anchor tattoo is waaaayyy overdone. That being said DD does have a two pack of dresses from Carter's with anchors and I love them. It could just be the navy/pink combo that I really like, but I think they are adorable!
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  • I don't mind the anchors on clothes. I think it's very summer ish. :)


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  • last14reallast14real member
    edited June 2014
    This one's a little mean, I REALLY don't like the mailman that comes to my work office. He is weird and always stands there staring and talking to me. I just want to scream GO AWAY!!
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