Just found out I am pregnant yesterday and am having a hard time weaning off alcohol...any hints?

Charest

I'm ashamed to say but I am having a tough time going cold turkey and my fiance is not very understanding. It's only about 2 beers a day and I know I have to stop, I'm just having a hard time with withdrawals. I feel so guilty.

myatala

Charest said:

I'm ashamed to say but I am having a tough time going cold turkey and my fiance is not very understanding. It's only about 2 beers a day and I know I have to stop, I'm just having a hard time with withdrawals. I feel so guilty.

Your doctor should be able to refer you to resources to help you quit.

bf43005

If you are having withdrawals then there is no way to stop that will keep the withdrawals away, but you should find a supportive team like AA, family and friends.  This will give you the mental strength to deal with the withdrawal symptoms. 

kristinat0807

I used to have a glass of wine at night..and even though it sucks it was never difficult stopping. I think you have a bad habit Not judging at all... I know it is a sudden change. But I do think picking up a new drink that you really like would be a great idea...

And fyi there is a delicious non alcoholic beer. I had it in Europe and my goal is to find it here! It is Bavarian Original non alcoholic beer. Tastes likes beer and it is amazing!

lookame3639

Contact your dr...sooner rather than wait for a scheduled appointment. Find a support system and try to have no alcohol in your home. If your finding all your steps aren't working then maybe check into a rehab facility.

ASmallWonder

I say this without judgement but you only found out yesterday and it seems you were unable to successfully go one day without a drink.  That means you have a problem that you need help for and there's no shame in that.  It's easy to downplay because the quantity of alcohol you're consuming isn't seen as excessive but it's not about the amount, it's about the addiction so please do reach out to your doctor for help.

GinnyJ2012

I just wanted to say good luck and I hope you get the help you need to quit!

LaStella25

I agree with surrounding yourself with positive influences.  I would talk to your doctor right away.  You're not the only person that is going through this.  I wish you the best.

becks2012

Call your OB and be brutally honest about your alcohol consumption. There are medications that can be prescribed to help with withdrawal symptoms. Please note I do not know if these are pregnancy compatible.

AA and other support groups are helpful and may be something you want to look in to eventually.

Bigboneded

Talk to your doctor, if you dont have one, get in to a clinic or urgent care. Withdrawals can be very serious! Also drink more water and tea, etc to help flush you out. Good luck. T&Pfor you. Fiance needs to grow up or keep away while you get better....

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Erze

OP, I just want to wish you the best of luck. Definitely talk to your doctor about withdrawal because it can be very dangerous depending on your level of dependency. Also, if you need help finding AA meetings in your area, let me know and I'll do my best to help. My thoughts are with you. 

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racheldiaries

Everyone has pretty much stated what is needed to be said. Just wanted to pop in and say good luck. 

Cailin12345

I have family members and friends in recovery from alcohol. While aa is a wonderful support your withdrawal needs to be treated. Think about checking yourself into rehab. They can give you both the medical and emotional support. Best of luck.

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spaceykatie

Maybe I am reading it wrong - I think she's saying that she's *currently* drinking 2 beers/day to wean herself off and keep withdrawals at bay. Not that a level of 2/day is what caused the withdrawals to begin with. 

To the OP - please get yourself some help. Withdrawals are serious business and you can't just willpower your way through this alone. You need to reach out to organizations that can help you. Drinking two beers per day when pregnant is more than just a "tough time going cold turkey." It's a serious addiction.

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AudeSapere89 said:

The OP has not been active since she posted this and hasn't responded to anyone. Starting to think this is MUD.

For once, I'm actually hoping that is the case.

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momthatlifts

OP, please do not feel ashamed of admitting you have this problem. I am no stranger to addiction and sometimes it can be much easier speaking to a room full of strangers than someone you may know on a more personal level, especially if those strangers are all suffering from the same problem and can relate to you. It makes you feel less alone. AA classes can be a good first step. I can not help you in figuring out a way to wean off while pregnant. Good luck

momthatlifts

And wow for those of you confused on what addiction means (ahem @Bliss+Berry‌ ahem) here is a simple definition.

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 Definition of Addiction Public Policy Statement: Definition of Addiction Short Definition of Addiction: Addiction is a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry. Dysfunction in these circuits leads to characteristic biological, psychological, social and spiritual manifestations. This is reflected in an individual pathologically pursuing reward and/or relief by substance use and other behaviors.

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Eta:because my iPad doesn't want to space anything out.

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LtColumbo

Bliss+Berry said:

WhoCanItBeNow said:

somerandomchick said:

I drink a pretty reasonable amount of coffee (1-2 cups a day) but I still experience physical withdrawal if I skip caffeine in the morning or even just sleep in 2-3 hours. I have no idea what kind of alcohol consumption is required to experience withdrawal (and I won't assume I do!) Also FTR alcohol is much more dangerous than various other illicit substances (most notably marijuana obviously) so using legality as proof of how dangerous/addictive something is is patently dumb. (Alcohol is not the same as heroin no but the evidence of the difference is not 'it's legal')

Hell, by that idiotic reasoning, nicotine isn't addictive either. Or sugar. 

Fatties just need to put the donuts down, right bliss? 

Please point out where I said anything about legality, fuckwit.  Oh, that's right, I didn't.  

Also, FWIW, AA has a 60-95% fail rate.  They are zero tolerance and their program is completely antiquated and almost guarantees failure.  Programs that teach weaning yourself from dangerous amounts of alcohol to moderate use are much more successful, i.e. HAMS. 

The fuck is this shit? NOT TRUE. ETA: Actually, why don't you go ahead and link me to that study. 

momthatlifts

Bliss+Berry said:

Lets do a little simple math, shall we?

1. 1st post in 10 years? 

2. The effects of alcohol decrease over prolonged usage.  Someone who is truly addicted to alcohol, so much so that they are having "withdrawal" symptoms is not going to be satisfied with two drinks. 

3. The OP said she was on her 1st day of not drinking after finding out she was pregnant (most likely unexpectedly since she hadn't attempted weaning herself from alcohol previously).  Is it possible that her "withdrawal" symptoms could be related to the fact that she's in her first trimester and could be chalked up to the general shitty feeling that comes along with that and possibly the nervous feeling of finding out you are pregnant before you are ready?

It's laughable to me that the very folks who continually spout "common sense!!111!!!!!" "calm your tits!1111!!!!!" and "perspective!!!!!111!!!!" on this very board are so very lacking in same. 

I went through the first trimester, and through withdraw. No they are not the same in any way. 

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drunkenhandstand

Add one more to team bliss' POV.

momthatlifts

She's comparing withdrawal symptoms to first tri symptoms. It's nearly comical

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momthatlifts

Bliss+Berry said:

JKBMA2014 said:

Bliss+Berry said:

Lets do a little simple math, shall we?

1. 1st post in 10 years? 

2. The effects of alcohol decrease over prolonged usage.  Someone who is truly addicted to alcohol, so much so that they are having "withdrawal" symptoms is not going to be satisfied with two drinks. 

3. The OP said she was on her 1st day of not drinking after finding out she was pregnant (most likely unexpectedly since she hadn't attempted weaning herself from alcohol previously).  Is it possible that her "withdrawal" symptoms could be related to the fact that she's in her first trimester and could be chalked up to the general shitty feeling that comes along with that and possibly the nervous feeling of finding out you are pregnant before you are ready?

It's laughable to me that the very folks who continually spout "common sense!!111!!!!!" "calm your tits!1111!!!!!" and "perspective!!!!!111!!!!" on this very board are so very lacking in same. 

I went through the first trimester, and through withdraw. No they are not the same in any way. 

I didn't realize that all pregancies are exactly the same in terms of symptoms. I mean, doesn't that get posted here 137 fucking times a day?

I'm willing to bet you were withdrawing from more than 2 drinks a day as well.

I have never heard of anyone who could compare first trimester symptoms to withdrawal. But continue with you're assumption that 2 beers=she doesn't have a problem. Because that's exactly how you're coming off.

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momthatlifts

Because you don't agree with her opinion does not make it wrong. You sound so ignorant (I hardly ever error use this word) but ffs shut up.

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momthatlifts

Bliss+Berry said:

JKBMA2014 said:

Because you don't agree with her opinion does not make it wrong. You sound so ignorant (I hardly ever error use this word) but ffs shut up.

FFS, who are you to tell me to shut up? Fuck off. Your lack of reading comprehension and critical thinking skills make you look embarrassingly ignorant.

Edited. iPhone.

Ummmm. Shut up, still.

nmrd

Bliss+Berry said:

Lets do a little simple math, shall we?

1. 1st post in 10 years? 

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That would be a pretty long con for such little payoff.

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