MTB's sister has asked if my co-host and I would hold a joint shower with her side of the family. We really don't want to. It's already a planning challenge for us as we live a few hours apart and already have a guest list of about 50 people, which would double. I have found a venue that works with our numbers and budget but won't accommodate more guests. Also, her family's tastes tend more toward high-end, higher budget affairs, and we aren't up for it. Co-host also thinks we would end up being the gofers in that situation, rather than co-hosts. So, I guess our decision is made, but how to decline without causing hard feelings?