This is where I do my IL complaint post

Mysterious_wife

I have not complained about my SIL in a long time. Here is a little back story. H and A went to TN to see SIL and niece who are in from TX. H is working from the Nashville office. Cousin is a medically impaired due to a car accident several years ago. Today GMIL, SIL, the girls, and BIL went to see H's cousin in the nursing home. When they got back to GMILs, H said Allie looked awful. He said she complained with a headache and a tummy ache. He asked why she felt bad. That's when GMIL said she had a corn dog, a Slim Jim, a baby bottle candy thing (WTF is that?), a powerade drink, a tummy drink (WTF again?), and a bag of chips for lunch. H questioned it. GMIL said she had lunch with K and SIL took the girls for lunch. They stopped at a fucking gas station. My kid barely has candy (unless Fred gives it to her ) H asked if she had any water today and they said no. It is hot as fuck in TN and the girls have been playing outside on the nursing home playground. H said he gave her carrots and water for a snack. He said she was feeling a little better. I am shocked they fed my kid all of that. I get she is on vacation and having a little junk isn't going to kill her. Its having it in one sitting. I want to get worked up, but I can't. I am not there and cannot control what has already happened. H did tell SIL not to feed our kid that shit again. H is off tomorrow so he will have control of what she eats.

Mysterious_wife

and why didn't my paragraphs take?. grrr

Mysterious_wife

Greeneyes842 said:

Sorry to hear that, it would piss me off too.  Especially since for me I try to stick with organic foods.  I definitely had a bunch of those candy baby bottle things though as a kid, my parents didn't really restrict too much around candy, etc.

I'm not sure I know what they are.

Mysterious_wife

sweet Jesus. no wonder he feels bad!

theholmanherd

I would be livid. I'm sorry I, too, try to stick to organic food. And I have gluten and soy intolerances, so I would be even more angry if someone gave my (currently non-existent) child all that and didn't ask about dietary restrictions first.

BlueBirdMB

OMG This is going to me some day with a  kid.  My SIL's family and my MIL and FIL were just over this past weekend- we only see them a few times a year, so I forget about things.  SIL has ZERO discipline with her kids- ZERO.  Those children have never heard the word no and they eat such crap all the time!  My MIL and FIL go along with it all.  Hell, that's how they raised their own kids and why my SIL is such  spoiled brat.  H got away from them as soon as he could and he did a lot of growing up in his early twenties.

When I have a kid, they are gonna think we are hard ass parents… which we will be only in comparison to them!  

Mysterious_wife

She ended up vomiting. he said she's feeling a lot better and looks better.

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Jags8

Mysterious_wife said:

She ended up vomiting. he said she's feeling a lot better and looks better.

Poor girl. At least maybe you and your husband can make this a teachable moment? It's ok to have a little junk food here and there, but do it all at once and you will probably get sick, because it's not what your body wants/needs. Even if people are offering it to you, you can say no.

Mysterious_wife

Jags8 said:

She ended up vomiting. he said she's feeling a lot better and looks better.

Poor girl. At least maybe you and your husband can make this a teachable moment? It's ok to have a little junk food here and there, but do it all at once and you will probably get sick, because it's not what your body wants/needs. Even if people are offering it to you, you can say no.

That's what we did. She called me. She tried blaming niece. I told her it wasn't niece who made her eat a whole bottle of candy. She needed to take responsibility.

Mysterious_wife

It should be noted we are dealing with a very mature 6.75 year old. I refuse to say the other s number word. lol

BlueBirdMB

Good for you.  She needs to take responsibility and your ILs… they do too, lol but that won't happen. 

kelle017

Eek!  That's a lot of crap.  I'd be sick too.  

Glad she's feeling better and hopefully she will make better choices herself. 

theholmanherd

aw, I'm sorry she threw up

A friend of mine runs an organic coffee shop and her daughter has a gluten intolerance. She tries to keep her from eating gluten, but she sometimes eats it anyway at a friend's house. She always ends up sick, and she knows she will end up sick. Sometimes, even when the kid knows better, their impulses take over. It probably won't be the last time she does something like this, but it's important that you are continuing to discuss good eating habits. Eventually, she'll make the decision not to do that anymore and will be glad you were there teaching her along the way.

BlueBirdMB

theholmanherd said:

aw, I'm sorry she threw up

A friend of mine runs an organic coffee shop and her daughter has a gluten intolerance. She tries to keep her from eating gluten, but she sometimes eats it anyway at a friend's house. She always ends up sick, and she knows she will end up sick. Sometimes, even when the kid knows better, their impulses take over. It probably won't be the last time she does something like this, but it's important that you are continuing to discuss good eating habits. Eventually, she'll make the decision not to do that anymore and will be glad you were there teaching her along the way.

That kid should be able to learn.  I've had a zillion food allergies since I was a small child and I always watched out for them.  Literally since I was 3 years old I've been saying "no I can't eat that."  She should know better and be able to control herself.  Her being a child is no excuse for making herself sick.

Mysterious_wife

BlueBirdMB said:

theholmanherd said:

aw, I'm sorry she threw up

A friend of mine runs an organic coffee shop and her daughter has a gluten intolerance. She tries to keep her from eating gluten, but she sometimes eats it anyway at a friend's house. She always ends up sick, and she knows she will end up sick. Sometimes, even when the kid knows better, their impulses take over. It probably won't be the last time she does something like this, but it's important that you are continuing to discuss good eating habits. Eventually, she'll make the decision not to do that anymore and will be glad you were there teaching her along the way.

That kid should be able to learn.  I've had a zillion food allergies since I was a small child and I always watched out for them.  Literally since I was 3 years old I've been saying "no I can't eat that."  She should know better and be able to control herself.  Her being a child is no excuse for making herself sick.

you obviously do not have children or deal with children on a daily basis. Kids live on impulse. They do what is in the min.

BlueBirdMB

Mysterious_wife said:

BlueBirdMB said:

theholmanherd said:

aw, I'm sorry she threw up

A friend of mine runs an organic coffee shop and her daughter has a gluten intolerance. She tries to keep her from eating gluten, but she sometimes eats it anyway at a friend's house. She always ends up sick, and she knows she will end up sick. Sometimes, even when the kid knows better, their impulses take over. It probably won't be the last time she does something like this, but it's important that you are continuing to discuss good eating habits. Eventually, she'll make the decision not to do that anymore and will be glad you were there teaching her along the way.

That kid should be able to learn.  I've had a zillion food allergies since I was a small child and I always watched out for them.  Literally since I was 3 years old I've been saying "no I can't eat that."  She should know better and be able to control herself.  Her being a child is no excuse for making herself sick.

you obviously do not have children or deal with children on a daily basis. Kids live on impulse. They do what is in the min.

Then I must have been a bizaro kid.  I never broke my diet.  I know plenty of other kids who understand their alleges or food intolerances and they know to say "I can't eat that."  I understand if she does sometimes, but "you're a kid" isn't an excuse.  She needs to learn and it shouldn't happen often.  It should be something that happens and she learns from.  

I get very offended when I get the "you don't have a kid so you don't know thing", also.  I'm an educator and teach children all day long, which means I have enough logic to understand that means that I don't know what it means to be a parent, but I also have enough logic to understand "kids live on impulse" is an easy excuse.  It's an explanation not an excuse- they should learn.  "Kids live on impulse" and need to learn not to and shouldn't repeat a mistake that causes physical issues, should be the answer and there's no excuse for her not learning after a few missteps.  You shouldn't set the bar that low.  Set the bar high and expect them to learn.  

Constantly eating something that makes you sick is damaging to your body and you should expect them to learn- that was my only point from my previous post.  She SHOULD learn.

Mysterious_wife

Fred- I will never let it go!