Frustrated, Ultrasound questions

ejsweatt

I went in for my 2nd ultrasound in 2 weeks because I was spotting a little and was told to go to the ER. Then they had me check my HCG levels every two days and they weren't doubling so they kept having me come in for more bloodwork. Since last Monday at the ER, every two days my levels have been 1435, 1506, 1790, and Monday they were 2175, and I've been taking comfort in the fact that they're rising even though they're not doubling like most women's would. They had me come in for an ultrasound today and according to last Monday (9 days ago) the ultrasound determined me to be at 5 wks 3 days and they saw the gestation sac. Today looking at that, I should be 6 wks 5 days, but it said I was only at 6 wks 1 day. Could they have been a few days off or is that truly accurate? They did transvaginal and external ultrasounds and they didn't hear a heartbeat (although I didn't expect to so early, and from what I've read, it's normal). 

The nurse told me flat out I would be more likely to miscarry than not. I don't understand. She said there's "a gray area" with the heartbeat, which again, I'm not as worried about this early. I just want to know if my baby stopped growing. Tomorrow I'll get the rest of the results of the ultrasound, but I just feel like the physicians are being very negative. I understand these signs sometimes lead to miscarriages and they probably don't want to give me false hope, but I've spent a week and a half crying about possibly miscarrying and then moving on to worrying the baby isn't developing right with very little confirmation either way. 

I just keep thinking that a lot of women spot during pregnancy, and if I hadn't been urged to, I probably wouldn't have gone to the ER and right now I would still be in a blissful mindset thinking about my healthy baby. In my grandma's time, they wouldn't even see you until you'd missed 2 periods, couldn't this have happened to plenty of women and they not know it? Is there really reason for me to be alarmed yet, or is this an issue of liability for the physicians and unneeded appointments for billing (I hate to go there, but I wonder). 

GlitterMuffin914

I would try to stay calm until you find out for sure what is going on in there (easier said than done, I'm sure). With a measurement of a week behind It's very possible that you ovulated later than you think. I'm sorry your nurse was less than kind about the info she gave you. Keep your head up until you hear otherwise!