The worst thing my sister-in-law (or ANYONE) could have said to me!

NataliasMOM0214

Hi there...I am having even trouble writing this at the moment, but I just need to get this down, and have others understand how I'm feeling right now!

I had my husband's family over to see our new home (we just moved! YAY! LOL), and to announce to them about our pregnancy.  I am very late in the game to announce, but since we lost our previous baby last summer at 21 weeks, we purposefully waited as long as possible to say something.

I gave my sisters-in-law a tour of the home, and decided to say something when showing the boy's baby bedroom.  I pointed it to them, and my one sister-in-law asked what room it was, and I told her, but she didn't seem to flinch at all...probably just figuring it was for a 'baby down the road' as even though, I'm so far along, I still don't show that much!  So, I proceeded to say, well, since we're due with a baby this summer! They were both in complete shock, esp. since I did announce it this late, and I don't look that far along, etc...HOWEVER, the worst thing I've ever heard someone say came out of my sister-in-law's mouth (my husband's brother's wife as the other one is my husband's sister)...'so, the miscarriage last summer, was that a JOKE?'

can you even fathom those words coming out of someone's mouth?  It hurts to even read/type that!  How could someone eve say that/ask that?  and to imply a person would EVER joke about something so serious?  I think she was HONESTLY just that stupid to ask, and didn't realize that I obviously haven't been pregnant for a year and a half, but c'mon!  I know they were close together, but to think that they were the same one, and that I would 'lie' about it?!

I don't even have words, I just don't!  How could someone DARE ask that?!  esp. after what we went through at losing our boy so late in the game!  It was a horrible time for us!

My husband plans to tell his brother what an awful thing she said to me, and let's see if she even APOLOGIZES or something...i just don't know! 

kateitho

I am so sorry.  People can  be so ignorant sometimes...  ((hugs))

JessicaG220

Ugh how insensitive and ignorant of her. People can be so rude. I'm sorry you had to hear that. ((Hugs))

psychmajormom

I am so sorry she said that! I am seriously imagining giving her a swift kick in the c*nt!! ((Hugs))

TheFutureMrsD

That's horrible.  I'm so sorry.  Some people just don't get it.  ((hugs))

KMW08

I'm sorry she said that to you. I don't think people realize how rude and insensitive things are when they say them. I'm just in disbelief that this happened at all. I too and sending throat punches to her for that.

princezjk

WTF?!?!?  First, I so don't understand her logic.  But more importantly, why the hell would you say that to someone?  I mean, thinking it is bad enough, but to let that thought actually escape your lips is just plain mind boggling.  I am so sorry you had to deal with that.  ((((BIG HUGS)))) to you and a big ol' TP to her!

LilNugget19

Ugh I'm so sorry she said that to you. Hopefully she realizes just how insensitive it was and apologize. (( hugs))

luciddreamer106

That is awful!  I can't believe that anyone could be that stupid and insensitive. Multiple TP to her.

alleycat39

So sorry that you had to even hear that. She sounds like a mix of dumb and ignorant.

Mom2anAngel2

((HUGS)). I heard some pretty awful things after we lost our son, but that might just take the cake. How can people be so insensitive.

[Deleted User]

Oh my gosh. What did you even say to that?! Or were you just shocked into silence? It really doesn't make sense...could she really be stupid enough to think gestation is over a year long instead of 9 months? How old is this girl?

So sorry you went through that. Incredibly insensitive. ((Hugs))

ToriGirl2014

alysonjill said:

So sorry that you had to even hear that. She sounds like a mix of dumb and ignorant.

This exactly.  Wow.  I am so sorry you were subjected to that nonsense.

Junebug060609

Sometimes people just don't think before they speak.

Hugs.

katiebartton

That's horrible. I'm really sorry you had to deal with such a shitty comment ((hugs))

carlsonbaby2014

WTF?  *SMH*  I can't believe she said that.  I know people say stupid stuff all the time but seriously that seems like one of the most horribly insensitive things that could have come out of her mouth.  I am so, so sorry you had to hear that and deal with her stupidity on the fly. I can't imagine how you managed not to deck her a solid punch.  Lots of ((((hugs)))) and TP to your SIL.

KJsbabe

OMG I don't even have words... WTF?!?! Why would you say that to some one??? She clearly doesn't have a brain, because even some one with have of one would never in a million years have said that. What a B!TCH!!

haleyusf

((hugs)) How horrible and ignorant of her to say that to you.

SamanthaLaura16

((Hugs)) I am so sorry that she said that to you. Some people clearly do not think before they speak.

rmpar29

Wow, how insensitive and rude!  You are a better person that me, I would've blown my top! 

Many (((((HUGS)))))

fallfever

People can be so stupid. I don't even understand how...but they sure can be. I think I would have gone totally nuts on her.

Eliz77

I'm sorry she was so insensitive. I bet she just assumes you have been pregnant all this time and therefore is not very bright, or else not very knowledgeable in how human reproduction works. ((HUGS))

aynjc

She is so dumb - so sorry you had to go through this (((hugs)))

peggels24

What an asshat!  How did she even come to that conclusion?  Ugh!  I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that.

Samuelismomma

That's awful:( so sorry it also brought back terrible feelings of pain and loss:( some people are insensitive and to stupid to realize it:(

Barihoop

Wtf does that even mean? I literally am not following her timeline or logic. I am so sorry she said that to you. I can't even imagine how that must have felt. Kudos to you for not punching her in the face.

LittleMsLewis

Wow, that's a special kind of stupid. Sorry. Amazed you didn't punch her in the throat.

NataliasMOM0214

Thank you all for your comments and understanding on how upset my SIL made me this weekend. Her timeline is obviously way off, not to mention, how could she even think or accuse me of 'joking' about something so serious and awful? She was insensitive when I first lost my son, and that's another reason we waited so long to announce. However, this takes the cake, for sure. She is in her 40's with 2 kids of her own (as someone asked that in their reply), so it baffles me even more on how she could respond that way! I was in complete shock whem she said thst to me, so that's partly why my DH will talk with his brother-- who knows his wife can be stupid (obviously!). So I hope he lets her have it!

SuperKim13

I cannot imagine what she was thinking....  or not thinking.  That's a terrible thing to say.  (((HUGS))) to you!

JCM285

That is not only crazy rude but it is crazy STUPID!!! I don't even know what my response would be. Ugh dumb people are the worst. Sorry you had to deal with that.

2redtulips

What a horribly ignorant and unkind thing for her to say. I am so sorry. {{{hugs}}}

HerHighness

I would have thrown her the eff out of my house! It would have been a race as to whether my husband could have gotten me out of the room before i clawed her eyes out!

Some people are ridiculous and have no filter. I'm very sorry that she said something so hurtful to you.

longcat07

i cannot actually figure out what she was thinking, no matter how hard i try.  OMG.  i mean, who even THINKS that kind of crap?  what an asshole.

Bigboneded

Wow! I am so sorry you had to get that from family, and at a happy time... new house new baby announcement. (((Hugs))) She sounds pretty ignorant. I hope she apologizes.