My boyfriend and I found out I was pregnant last Saturday. Got it confirmed by the doctor Monday.We have already discussed it and we aren't getting married right now because that wasn't our original plan. Neither was a baby, but we both are excited. When we told my mother on Thursday, New years, she flipped out. That is completely understandable, I come from a slightly traditional background. But she only flipped out at my boyfriend. She told him some terrible things and now she acts all fine towards me and gives me advice about the baby. She still won't talk to him and last night he told me he never wants to speak to her again. Its really stressing me out and I really need some advice on how to handle it. I feel really torn.This isn't the ideal situation for us, but we aren't running away from it. Any help is greatly appreciated. Sorry this is so long.
Plus side I am about 6 weeks along and we can't wait!
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I would talk to your mom and tell her it's not acceptable to speak like that to your bf. You are both responsible for the situation you're in, not just him. Shouldn't she be happy that he is excited and wants to be in the baby's life?
Congratulations!
I would stand up to your mom and ask her to behave like an adult...I wouldn't come at her with those exact words, but be more diplomatic about it, of course.
Either way, there is nothing she can do about it not, your BF is obviously still there with you, and she needs to be accepting of the entire situation, not just the part she chooses to.
I hope she is receptive to your feelings, and I'm sure everything will work out in the end.
Congratulations and best of luck to you!
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BFP 3/17/12 at 12dpo CP 3/21/12
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Just give it time. My grandmother did not lke my dad much, being that he was 16 years older than my mother... but after I was born she came around.