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so I am new here...

My boyfriend and I found out I was pregnant last Saturday. Got it confirmed by the doctor Monday.We have already discussed it and we aren't getting married right now because that wasn't our original plan. Neither was a baby, but we both are excited. When we told my mother on Thursday, New years, she flipped out. That is completely understandable, I come from a slightly traditional background. But she only flipped out at my boyfriend. She told him some terrible things and now she acts all fine towards me and gives me advice about the baby. She still won't talk to him and last night he told me he never wants to speak to her again. Its really stressing me out and I really need some advice on how to handle it. I feel really torn.This isn't the ideal situation for us, but we aren't running away from it. Any help is greatly appreciated. Sorry this is so long.

 

Plus side I am about 6 weeks along and we can't wait!

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Re: so I am new here...

  • I would talk to your mom and tell her it's not acceptable to speak like that to your bf. You are both responsible for the situation you're in, not just him. Shouldn't she be happy that he is excited and wants to be in the baby's life?

    Congratulations!

  • have you expressed to your mom that what she said was inappropriate and talked to her about him? You can't expect him to maintain a relationship with her if she treats him like that ... I'm sorry, welcome thou
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  • coming from a family who has faced?similar?situations, i bet that when the baby is born, she will realize how blessed everyone is and bygones will be bygones.
  • Thanks guys. I did talk to her. She didn't understand. I just hope when she comes around, its not too late.
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  • I would stand up to your mom and ask her to behave like an adult...I wouldn't come at her with those exact words, but be more diplomatic about it, of course. 

    Either way, there is nothing she can do about it not, your BF is obviously still there with you, and she needs to be accepting of the entire situation, not just the part she chooses to.

    I hope she is receptive to your feelings, and I'm sure everything will work out in the end.  

    Congratulations and best of luck to you!


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    Thanks guys. I did talk to her. She didn't understand. I just hope when she comes around, its not too late.

    Just give it time.  My grandmother did not lke my dad much, being that he was 16 years older than my mother... but after I was born she came around. 

  • Well, she is being a little ridiculous but you should give her some time to cool off. She's had less than a week to get used to the idea that this guy knocked up her little girl. How was their relationship before your big announcement?


  • I'm sorry you're having to deal with all of that. I would talk to your mom and tell her it's not acceptable to talk to the father of your baby like that. This is the situation and she has to learn 2 accept it. I hope things get better for you!
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  • their relationsjip was really great. she loved him, best thing sliced bread...etc but she called me about an hour ago to try to figure out how to make things better. its looking up. now the hope is my bf isn't too mad to accept an apology.
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