I try not to think about how far along I would have been, but I was stalking people (I'm terrible) and came across someone whose due date is a day before mine would have been. Ouch. Ticker would have read 30 weeks, 3 days. Real ouch.
I finally had my f/u for my loss yesterday, and it went well. (As well as it could.) We discussed tests I could do and things I could change, and when I cried to my OB (thinking about it is making me tear up) about how difficult it will be to make it to first and second tri again (if I can do so), he said I could come in every day if need be to ease my mind. I wouldn't be there every day, obviously, but his offer to help really meant the world to me.
Anyway, I've been trying to focus on moving forward and I accidently knocked myself down by lurking in the wrong place. While I was cycling, I'd lurk occasionally on PAIF, and it didn't hurt until now. Even recently, I was able to lurk on PGAL without a problem. I'm okay with early pregnancy (all pg & children hurt, but they mostly don't destroy me), but I obviously cannot handle 3rd tri right now.
Lesson learned.
No real point to this post, just needed to vent and TB is the only place I can do that right now. Thank you, ladies. Sorry this was so long.
3/20/14 Fetal Demise 20 wks F/L 17 wks D&E attempted 3/21/14 & 3/22/14 Born Still 3/23/14 I love you B.T.
"Sometimes you try your hardest, but things don't work out the way you want them to." –Nani (Lilo & Stitch)
“All I can say is, it's a sort of kinship, as though there is a family tree of grief. On this branch, the lost children, on this the suicided parents, here the beloved mentally ill siblings. When something terrible happens, you discover all of the sudden that you have a new set of relatives, people with whom you can speak in the shorthand of cousins.” ― Elizabeth McCracken
8/2014 FET 8/7/14 Transferred 1 5-day blast (4AA): BFN
TTCAL September Siggy Challenge: Animals in Clothing
You eloquently wrote what I've been thinking about as I've been lurking on the multiples and second trimester boards! So sorry for your loss!! Your OB sounds great!! I have an excellent RE, but I know when we do conceive again I'm going to want/need a referal to a new OB.
BFP: 2/24/14 | EDD: 10/22/14 (triplets) US (with RE) 3/24/2014 (two healthy HB), US (with OB) 3/31/2014 (three healthy heartbeats)
US (with RE) 4/7/14 No Heartbeats | D&C 4/8/14 BFP#2: 10/22/14 | (beta #1 75, beta # 2 219) | EDD 7/3/15 ~*Please be our RAINBOW*~
Thank you @ashtog . I was just reading your post on the Loss board. I am so sorry about Sawyer; it's so hard not to think of what might have been. Loss just changes everything too, too fast.
3/20/14 Fetal Demise 20 wks F/L 17 wks D&E attempted 3/21/14 & 3/22/14 Born Still 3/23/14 I love you B.T.
"Sometimes you try your hardest, but things don't work out the way you want them to." –Nani (Lilo & Stitch)
“All I can say is, it's a sort of kinship, as though there is a family tree of grief. On this branch, the lost children, on this the suicided parents, here the beloved mentally ill siblings. When something terrible happens, you discover all of the sudden that you have a new set of relatives, people with whom you can speak in the shorthand of cousins.” ― Elizabeth McCracken
8/2014 FET 8/7/14 Transferred 1 5-day blast (4AA): BFN
TTCAL September Siggy Challenge: Animals in Clothing
Big (((hugs))) I definitely cannot look at my BMBs but I'm ok with PGAL for now. @ashtog my birthday is May 6th, so sorry about sweet Sawyer, so heartbreaking
Me 34 DH 31, Together since 2003, Married August 20, 2011, TTC since May 2013 BFP #1 August 24, 2013! MMC discovered Oct. 3, 2013, D&C Oct. 4, 2013 BFP #2 December 17, 2013! MMC discovered Jan. 28, 2014, D&C Jan. 30, 2014 Testing done: male with complete Trisomy 16, not hereditary. Tested me for clotting disorders, all normal. Feb. 2014 all clear again to TTC! Will start progesterone supplementation with the next BFP just in case. Oct. 2014 more testing just because, thyroid and autoimmune panels = normal. Diagnostic U/S = no abnormalities. Will keep trying for 3-6 more months, doctor still optimistic!
BFP #3 December 11, 2014! Beta #1 14DPO = 122.4 Beta #2 17DPO = 296.8 Please stick little one and be our Rainbow!
Perfect little heartbeat of 156 seen 1/7/15
***Everybody Welcomed***
EDD 8/21/2015Team Green!
August 2015 Siggy Challenge: Favorite mean girl from a movie or show: Kathy Bates in "Misery"
@DenaMaree I'm sorry about your triplets. I hope you find an OB you are comfortable with. I have no problems with my RE, but I have no brags either, so we'll see what happens a couple cycles from now.
3/20/14 Fetal Demise 20 wks F/L 17 wks D&E attempted 3/21/14 & 3/22/14 Born Still 3/23/14 I love you B.T.
"Sometimes you try your hardest, but things don't work out the way you want them to." –Nani (Lilo & Stitch)
“All I can say is, it's a sort of kinship, as though there is a family tree of grief. On this branch, the lost children, on this the suicided parents, here the beloved mentally ill siblings. When something terrible happens, you discover all of the sudden that you have a new set of relatives, people with whom you can speak in the shorthand of cousins.” ― Elizabeth McCracken
8/2014 FET 8/7/14 Transferred 1 5-day blast (4AA): BFN
TTCAL September Siggy Challenge: Animals in Clothing
I glanced at my BMB a few weeks ago (even though I knew better) to leave a message to change my status on the blog. I saw what the current topics were over there. I just can't.
3/20/14 Fetal Demise 20 wks F/L 17 wks D&E attempted 3/21/14 & 3/22/14 Born Still 3/23/14 I love you B.T.
"Sometimes you try your hardest, but things don't work out the way you want them to." –Nani (Lilo & Stitch)
“All I can say is, it's a sort of kinship, as though there is a family tree of grief. On this branch, the lost children, on this the suicided parents, here the beloved mentally ill siblings. When something terrible happens, you discover all of the sudden that you have a new set of relatives, people with whom you can speak in the shorthand of cousins.” ― Elizabeth McCracken
8/2014 FET 8/7/14 Transferred 1 5-day blast (4AA): BFN
TTCAL September Siggy Challenge: Animals in Clothing
When I first got here I'd go and lurk on multiples and my BMB frequently. It's such a slippery slope. ((hugs)) I'm so sorry you got caught in that trap.
((((Hugs)))) ladies. When I got here, not going to my BMB was one of the hardest things I did but also one of the best. There are enough reminders that we cannot escape of where we should be and what should have been without subjecting ourselves to our BMBs.
(((Hugs))) lady! It is so hard sometimes. I'm glad your ob is so helpful. I'm so sorry you are feeling low.
Me: 38 DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant DH: 34 MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012 IVF w/ICSI #1 10 little polar bears FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!! Beta 1= 276 Beta 2= 662 4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel 5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel 5/3/14 ~ D&C FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014 October 13, 2014 ~ BFN Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL Animals Interacting with Snow
Big ((Hugs)). I used to go to the first tri board when I first had my MC...and it hurt...bad. It was almost like I was trying to make myself feel it more or something. That stopped pretty quickly. I stay way far away from those boards now...occasionally lurking over on PGAL just to see how people who have graduated from here are doing. You are definitely not alone.
Married 07/2006, TTC since 2010 08/2011: Clomid 50mg, IUI --> BFN , 10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN 04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d 05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN 03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C 4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
5/31: Femara 7.5mg --> cancelled cycle, no follies 7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS. 9/20/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d 10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN 2/6/15: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP --> MC at 5w4d 3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15 6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen 2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN 3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
3/20/14 Fetal Demise 20 wks F/L 17 wks D&E attempted 3/21/14 & 3/22/14 Born Still 3/23/14 I love you B.T.
"Sometimes you try your hardest, but things don't work out the way you want them to." –Nani (Lilo & Stitch)
“All I can say is, it's a sort of kinship, as though there is a family tree of grief. On this branch, the lost children, on this the suicided parents, here the beloved mentally ill siblings. When something terrible happens, you discover all of the sudden that you have a new set of relatives, people with whom you can speak in the shorthand of cousins.” ― Elizabeth McCracken
8/2014 FET 8/7/14 Transferred 1 5-day blast (4AA): BFN
TTCAL September Siggy Challenge: Animals in Clothing
So sorry you're going through this. I'd be 3rd tri with my first loss, too. I have several friends who are gearing up to have babies around the same time I would have. I love them dearly, but it kills me, too.
(((Hugs)))
I try to avoid looking back at my BMB. Protect your heart. Unfortunately, I've learned of two friends IRL that are due when I was supposed to be. I'm happy for them, but it still hurts.
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Married April 9, 2011
TTC since October 2011
Me 34, DH 40
IUI #5 w/ Tamoxifen+Ovidrel+Acupuncture Oct 24, 2014-->BFP!!! EDD July 17, 2015. Panorama=low risk...and it's a GIRL! DD born July 10, 2015 -------------------------------------------------------- Trying for baby #2! IUI #1 w/ Tamoxifen+Ovidrel+Acupuncture July 10, 2017-->BFP!!! EDD Apr 2, 2018. Panorama=low risk...and another GIRL!
(((hugs))) there was a girl on PAIF that had the same due date as me and I haven't been to lurk on PAIF since we lost Jack in December because I can't even see her name without thinking about it. Now her and most of the others that I was on PAIF with have had their babies or are getting close and I'm just stuck in babyloss limbo, so I get where you're coming from. (((hugs again)))
Me: 33, Endocrine issues & FVL DH: 32, Nothing
NTNP 2009-2012 TTC since 2012:
Clomid, 2 IUI cycles, and 5 IVF cycles = BFN
FET #1 August 2013 = BFP! EDD 5/11/14
Jack dx at 19w1d with Dandy Walker on 12/16/13
Severe Pre-e /HELLP set in Jack born sleeping at 20w1d on 12/23/13
Re: Got in Trouble Lurking Other Boards & F/U Update
US (with RE) 3/24/2014 (two healthy HB), US (with OB) 3/31/2014 (three healthy heartbeats)
BFP#2: 10/22/14 | (beta #1 75, beta # 2 219) | EDD 7/3/15 ~*Please be our RAINBOW*~
9/2010 SA=Normal 9/10 HSG Dx Both tubes dilated; Rx bilateral salpingectomy & IVF; 9/2010-12/2012 Financial break
1/2013 Bilateral Salpingectomy 5/2013 Recent SA shows borderline morphology
5/2013 IVF w/ ICSI #1 6/25/13 ER=11R 9M 9F 6/28/13 3dt of 2 embies (8B & 6A-); no frosties: BFN
Me 34 DH 31, Together since 2003, Married August 20, 2011, TTC since May 2013
BFP #1 August 24, 2013! MMC discovered Oct. 3, 2013, D&C Oct. 4, 2013
BFP #2 December 17, 2013! MMC discovered Jan. 28, 2014, D&C Jan. 30, 2014
Testing done: male with complete Trisomy 16, not hereditary. Tested me for clotting disorders, all normal.
Feb. 2014 all clear again to TTC! Will start progesterone supplementation with the next BFP just in case. Oct. 2014 more testing just because, thyroid and autoimmune panels = normal. Diagnostic U/S = no abnormalities. Will keep trying for 3-6 more months, doctor still optimistic!
BFP #3 December 11, 2014! Beta #1 14DPO = 122.4 Beta #2 17DPO = 296.8 Please stick little one and be our Rainbow!
Perfect little heartbeat of 156 seen 1/7/15
***Everybody Welcomed***
EDD 8/21/2015 Team Green!
9/2010 SA=Normal 9/10 HSG Dx Both tubes dilated; Rx bilateral salpingectomy & IVF; 9/2010-12/2012 Financial break
1/2013 Bilateral Salpingectomy 5/2013 Recent SA shows borderline morphology
5/2013 IVF w/ ICSI #1 6/25/13 ER=11R 9M 9F 6/28/13 3dt of 2 embies (8B & 6A-); no frosties: BFN
9/2010 SA=Normal 9/10 HSG Dx Both tubes dilated; Rx bilateral salpingectomy & IVF; 9/2010-12/2012 Financial break
1/2013 Bilateral Salpingectomy 5/2013 Recent SA shows borderline morphology
5/2013 IVF w/ ICSI #1 6/25/13 ER=11R 9M 9F 6/28/13 3dt of 2 embies (8B & 6A-); no frosties: BFN
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant
DH: 34
MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012
IVF w/ICSI #1
10 little polar bears
FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN
FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
Beta 1= 276
Beta 2= 662
4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
5/3/14 ~ D&C
FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL
Animals Interacting with Snow
08/2011: Clomid 50mg, IUI --> BFN ,
10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN
04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d
05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN
03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C
4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS.
9/20/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d
10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN
2/6/15: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP --> MC at 5w4d
3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen
2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
9/2010 SA=Normal 9/10 HSG Dx Both tubes dilated; Rx bilateral salpingectomy & IVF; 9/2010-12/2012 Financial break
1/2013 Bilateral Salpingectomy 5/2013 Recent SA shows borderline morphology
5/2013 IVF w/ ICSI #1 6/25/13 ER=11R 9M 9F 6/28/13 3dt of 2 embies (8B & 6A-); no frosties: BFN
I try to avoid looking back at my BMB. Protect your heart. Unfortunately, I've learned of two friends IRL that are due when I was supposed to be. I'm happy for them, but it still hurts.
Married April 9, 2011
TTC since October 2011
Me 34, DH 40
IUI #5 w/ Tamoxifen+Ovidrel+Acupuncture Oct 24, 2014-->BFP!!! EDD July 17, 2015. Panorama=low risk...and it's a GIRL!
DD born July 10, 2015
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Trying for baby #2!
IUI #1 w/ Tamoxifen+Ovidrel+Acupuncture July 10, 2017-->BFP!!! EDD Apr 2, 2018. Panorama=low risk...and another GIRL!
NTNP 2009-2012 TTC since 2012:
Jack has handpicked his sibling up there
My blog about IF and loss ... Kate's IF Blog