T&Ps Please

mweav1025 · May 2014

So I got an email this morning from my mom that my grandfather(her dad) isn't doing very well. He has been in a care home for a few years and I guess now they have gotten hospice care involved. At first it was just to help with his meds and see if they could improve his quality of life. Hospice care isn't always the end, but now it seems like hospice will be more of a make him comfortable while the inevitable happens. He really started declining after my grandmother passed away. He spent every ounce of energy he had trying to take care of her and stopped taking care of himself and it really worn him down.

Now this is going to sound horrible, but I hope that if/when he passes it happens fast. My mom has been his support for the past couple years when she moved him to the town where they are living. Worrying about him has caused her a lot of stress and I know she hates seeing her father like this. I know that once he is gone she will have a weight lifted off her shoulders and she will know he is finally at peace. It's horrible to wish death for anyone but I know his time is soon and for my moms sake and health I hope it happens with little drama that will make her stress to the point where she gets ill.

So any thoughts and prayers you have to spare would be great. My grandfather has met both of his great grandchildren, but probably doesn't remember DD2 very much because he only met her at Christmas and his memory wasn't the greatest then. I know he took pride in DD1 before his health started to decline. At least he was able to meet them both and know that he has two wonderful great granddaughters.

carawasa · May 2014

So sorry

thinking of your family!

StefMurph · May 2014

It's always tough to lose a family member and I felt the same way about my grandparents passing. My grandma was 88, had many grandchildren, great grandchildren and great great grandchildren. I just felt she had a long life and I wanted her to go quickly and peacefully.

My thoughts are with you and your family during this time. It will be difficult on your mom no matter what--especially since she's his main caregiver.

cassey910 · May 2014

So sorry. Sending T&Ps.

tashad18 · May 2014

Our thoughts are with your family.

klewis888 · May 2014

Sending thoughts and prayers to your family.

mweav1025 · May 2014

Thanks everyone. My mom just informed me that both me and DH should inform our work that there will be a possibility of a sudden funeral. I hate this kind of thing.

vargasgurl · May 2014

I'm sorry , sending you T&Ps

Lee81 · May 2014

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I have a pretty similar situation with my grandfather and I know it can be rough.

mancila60 · May 2014

So sorry to hear this. It is a tough situation. T&P's for you and your family. Also t&p's for your mom being the main caregiver to someone like that is tough.

DanceM · May 2014

I'm sorry to hear your family is going through this. We have a similar situation. It's tough on the caregivers and the individual, who doesn't intend/want to be a burden. T&Ps for you.