Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

Intro

Hi ladies,

DH and I got pregnant with twins after our first round of IVF back in March.  We found out at 7 weeks that one of the twins wasn't doing well.  We lost the twin at 9 weeks.  The other twin was doing well during that 9 week scan and a 10 weeks scan.  We were feeling very positive and hopeful.  When I went in for my first trimester scan at 11w6d on Wednesday I found out that the other baby didn't have a heartbeat.  We opted for a D&C (I don't know if I could have emotionally handled the wait and process for a natural miscarriage). 

We went in yesterday for the D&C.  Everyone at the hospital was wonderful, especially my OB/GYN.  He said all the right things.  The anesthesiologist was also reassuring as they rolled me into the OR in tears.  Yesterday morning was horrible. 

Thankfully I have had minimal bleeding and cramping so far.  I am planning to get out of the house tonight for dinner.  We are going out with neighbors that are struggling with IF and have been through 3 miscarriages themselves. 

My husband isn't ready to discuss next steps and I'm afraid that he may take a lot more time to be comfortable moving on than myself.  Part of me wants to get started again as soon as possible.   We'll see how it goes.  I'm grateful that there is a forum for this on the boards.  I've found great support from the IF boards and the birth month board I was briefly part of.

Thank you!

***BFP and Loss Mentioned in Siggy***

Me: 39 (PCOS)
DH: 47 (slightly low volume...considered MFI)
TTC since 11/2012
10/2013:  IUI#1 BFN - 50mg clomid, two .75mg shots of Bravelle, ovidril trigger...1 follicle
11/14/13: IUI#2 BFN - 50mg clomid, two .75 mg shots of Bravelle, ovidrill trigger..2 follicles

IVF #1 w/ICSI:  ER 3/12/14; ET 3/17/14:  BFP!!!  Beta #1 3/31/14=1540;  Beta #2 4/2/14 =2551

Twin A became an angel on 4/30/14 (8w6d)

Twin B became an angel on 5/21/14 (11w6d)

D&C 5/23/14

FET#1 - 9/2/14 - BFP!!! Beta #1 (9/15): 926.  Beta #2 (9/17): 1946.

MC -9/20/14
FET#2 - 4/20/15 - BFP!!! Beta #1 (5/4): 1277.  Beta #2 (5/6): 2817.  US#5 -153 heartbeat.
Due Date: January 6, 2016

Re: Intro

  • LisaG09LisaG09 member
    I'm so sorry for your losses. My BF and I had some trouble agreeing when to start trying again. I was ready as soon as the doctor cleared us. He told me that he thought that he was ready but later he told me that he was too scared. I told him how much thebump had helped me and how much reading stories similar to ours that went on to have healthy pregnancies had also helped me. We spent some time online together and he slowly started to get excited again like he was when we first started trying. We both still have our moments of fear and anxiety but we're slowly doing better. The saying that you are ready to try again when the desire for a child overcomes the fear of losing one also really helped him (and me too) Welcome to the board and I hope that you had a nice time at dinner tonight.

    TTC #1: February 1, 2014
    BFP #1: 2/21/14 EDD: 10/31/14 (my birthday!) MMC: discovered 3/31/14 (blighted ovum) D&C: 4/3/14 at 9w6d

    TTC #1 (Round 2): May 16, 2014 

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  • cait613cait613 member
    Sorry for your losses. I had an m/c on 4/26 at 11 wks, however the baby stopped growing at 8 wks. My husband is definitely nervous but we tried again right away. Feeling a little guilty that I'm moving on so quickly tho...
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  • tlc35tlc35 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss and welcome to the board.  When to try again is a very personal decision and I hope you and your H can come to an agreement.
    Me: 37                                               
    DH: 45
    BFP #1 3/19/14  EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
    BFP #2  12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
    Saw heartbeat 12/29.  Please be a rainbow.
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  • So sorry for your losses.
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    AMA 35 :  DH 33
    BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
    Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

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