A sprinkle for 2nd baby?

Ravenbaby

Are any of you second or more time mom as having a sprinkle? I love the idea of it especially because this baby is a different sex. And just to celebrate a new life coming into the world.

PrimRoseMama

If someone offers but normally no

rlyttle

My aunts are throwing me one. I feel a little weird about it since I had a shower for DS, but they insist. My grandma, their mom, just passed away so they are happy to celebrate a new baby. Plus our family hasn't had a new baby since DS and there hasn't been a girl in about 7 years, so they are eager to buy pink!!

mb314

DS is only 20 months so we still have everything and I don't really need anything (even if this is a girl I have hand me downs promised to me). I don't judge sprinkles, but with my kids close in age and with our families out of town, I am sure no one will throw me one.

Ravenbaby

Yeah I doubt anyone will offer to throw me one too. I never thought I would have a girl and love the idea of opening all the frilly cute girl things. But let's be real it's not like I won't have fun buying them myself

MrsLaLaBug

STM and this baby is a different sex than #1. Not having another shower, and the only sprinkle I'm having is the colorful kind that come on the chocolate glazed doughnuts I love.

Alpinator

MrsLaLaBug said:

STM and this baby is a different sex than #1. Not having another shower, and the only sprinkle I'm having is the colorful kind that come on the chocolate glazed doughnuts I love.

Thanks a lot MrsLaLaBug.  Now all I can think about at work is how much I want a doughnut... :-)

lamcox

if someone offers, I will probably have one....I like the sip-n-see idea too!

allrightmeow

PrimRoseMama said:

If someone offers but normally no

This.  My girlfriend was adamant.  It will be small.  There will be cake for me and booze for everyone else.  

Roseypants

My mother is insisting. I did not want one, but she wants to celebrate the baby. I really don't think it's a huge deal since it's just my family coming. I think everyone's situation is different. I'm having my second girl, and don't need a ton. So it will be all small things like diapers and clothes and things like that.

Cchewning

Yes, I've had 3 different people offer to host one and I'm only 14 weeks so we don't even know if the sex is different. My friends/family love to celebrate a new baby and gawk over all the cute stuff. Not to mention it's just a reason to get everyone together!

Steflew

I say yes I'm having a girl. This is my second baby I already have a son. All of my friends insisted and I think it's great to celebrate the baby. Thou this sprinkle won't be as big as my first shower.

allrightmeow

What ever you do, do not plan your own and don't ask anyone to throw one for you.  

Jenrileysmom

I am having another shower. The sprinkle term is not used around here, at least I've never heard it. My daughter is 7 and we suffered from secondary IF. We did get rid of a lot of her stuff or it is outdated. Plus I'm having a boy. I didn't think I would have one but my mom talked to my aunts about it and everybody is all for it. I didn't want to be gift grabby and didn't really want to register but since a few aunts and cousins want to go together on a bigger gift and were asking what I liked so I put together a small registry. 

I also think we do things a lot less fancy than others on this board. My first shower was just family and a few friends and this one will be too. 

Manateearmz

I'm not planning on it. I would prefer not to.

kateronium

We had a very small one for my daughter when she was born and I didn't really plan on having another but Hubby's side of the family is insisting on throwing one anyways. Its a good way to get the family's together at least.

kateronium

Plus you can always use diapers

PrimRoseMama

Joy2611 said:

kateronium said:

Plus you can always use diapers

Of course you can. Babiesn need a lot of stuff. But, your family and friends didn't decide for you to have a baby and they shouldn't be obligated in any form to provide for it.

"Hey - we always need diapers" is like me saying "Hey - we always need $20s!"

Perspective, humility and a touch of class will get you far in life.

God I love you.

PrimRoseMama

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golfingdarwinfish

Some of the responses in this thread made my nausea a bit worse.  Though, I must admit, it was much tamer than I expected it to be when I read the subject.

allrightmeow

kateronium said:

Plus you can always use diapers

No.  Even though my friend is doing something for me Im not expecting anything from anyone.  There is no public registry, just a few things I have sitting in my "cart" in my Amazon account.  I've been buying stuff when I get that "the price has decreased" notification.  I got a ton of stuff off CL and plan on getting everything else before my free Prime/Amazon mom trial is up so I can take advantage of the 2 day shipping and the completion coupon.   

colonialbride

I had a sprinkle for my 2nd baby. We had all the big items, so just registered for smaller things that we needed replaced. People still wanted to celebrate baby and I didn't mind With this one, we didn't have printed invitations, and it wasn't as formal. If someone offers to host, then I say go for it!

Meery82

Nicb13 said:

colonialbride said:

I had a sprinkle for my 2nd baby. We had all the big items, so just registered for smaller things that we needed replaced. People still wanted to celebrate baby and I didn't mind With this one, we didn't have printed invitations, and it wasn't as formal. If someone offers to host, then I say go for it!

Of course you didn't mind...you had your friends and family buy you things that YOU needed for this new baby. And just "replacement" items at that. How nice of them to provide for your child. Who doesn't like free stuff right?! ::eye roll::


This. I've said it before and I'll say it again: Buy your own shit.

cranberrycove06

Nope, we had a little celebration when we found out what we were having.

alysonmh

I never even had a shower with my daughter 10 years ago. My friend asked to throw me one this time around but I declined. We just got married a year ago and I feel guilty having a party where guests feel obligated to bring gifts when we already received so much at our wedding.

I don't know why but every time I think of baby showers I think of this one Sex and the City episode where Carry has her shoes stolen at a baby shower. She points out that she's spent hundreds or thousands of dollars on her friend's weddings and babies. She says shouldn't have to keep paying for her friends life choices. I kind of agree, I am the one choosing to get married an pop out babies. I don't want to appear gift grabby and make my friends pay for my life choices. I think more than one shower isn't appropriate. I think having a get together to celebrate the 2nd time around is great but I personally would not create a registry and would make it clear I don't expect gifts. That being said it's just my personal opinion and everyone's situation is different

Meery82

Nicb13 said:

@meery82 love the new pic of your little guy! So cute

Thanks! DH took that yesterday after telling him to make a mean face. LOL.

brownmouse

My DD and.this baby will be almost six years apart and I have family asking me about a baby shower. I've just told them all no thanks. Baby showers are so awkward anyways...

NLJ82

Bliss+Berry said:

No.  Showers are for first time moms, to welcome you to motherhood.  Once you are already a mother, you do not need re-welcoming.  

Also, are saying that your baby only deserves to be celebrated because it's a different sex than your first? I mean, if it's about celebrating the baby (which it's really not because, you know, the baby isn't even there yet), but if you say it 's about celebrating the "new life" is it any less worth celebrating if it's the same sex as your first?  I just don't get that.  At all.

Nope. Nope. Nope.

Meery82

NLJ82 said:

Bliss+Berry said:

No.  Showers are for first time moms, to welcome you to motherhood.  Once you are already a mother, you do not need re-welcoming.  

Also, are saying that your baby only deserves to be celebrated because it's a different sex than your first? I mean, if it's about celebrating the baby (which it's really not because, you know, the baby isn't even there yet), but if you say it 's about celebrating the "new life" is it any less worth celebrating if it's the same sex as your first?  I just don't get that.  At all.

Nope. Nope. Nope.

Dude, no. You're wrong. Walk away.

FrodaBaggins

My best friend is having her second and this baby is a different sex from her first. She's having a sip and see - no gifts. She's putting out lots of wine, cheese and crackers and fruit. People can come and go as they please, see the baby, and catch up with her. I think this is waaaaay better than a "sprinkle" or second shower. 

mrs190

I am having a full baby shower. I have a 10 year old daughter from a previous marriage. Let them of they are offering.

kimmybaby412

um no every baby deserves a baby shower!

golfingdarwinfish

kimmybaby412 said:

um no every baby deserves a baby shower!

A shower is a gift to the MTB, not the baby; it's to welcome a mother to motherhood, not welcoming the baby into the world. If the MTB wants to AW her baby she can choose to host a sip & see (an event not predicated on gift giving) once LO arrives.

kimmybaby412

lol these cracks me up! i meant every other mother! and its peoples lives, if they want a second baby shower then so be it. i just never heard a mother shower lol

golfingdarwinfish

kimmybaby412 said:

lol these cracks me up! i meant every other mother! and its peoples lives, if they want a second baby shower then so be it. i just never heard a mother shower lol

Wow.

allrightmeow

dorothyzbornak97 said:

kimmybaby412 said:

um no every baby deserves a baby shower!

Nope, everyone does not deserve a shower. Just because you get pregnant does not mean you should expect people to buy you things. It's entitled and greedy. Of course, coming from someone who thinks they're a victim for getting reprimanded for coming to work late on their first two days, this opinion does not surprise me. Your sense of entitlement is pretty ridiculous.

But @dorothyzbornak97, its totes disrespectful to be expected to be at work on time.  

ordinary1

No, I will not be having a sprinkle.  Second showers are tacky in my circle.  Showers are to welcome first-time moms into motherhood.  I am already a mother, it would be silly to be re-welcomed.