Hard time

bridetobe9132013 · May 2014

A week and a half ago my grandpa was diagnosed with lung cancer and was told he had 6 weeks to live. That 6 weeks quickly turned into 2 weeks and then it was by the end of this weekend. He passed away earlier this evening. Im due next Sunday so im really hoping my baby girl allows me to attend the funeral before arriving. I was close to my grandpa and I cant imagine missing the funeral

Has anyone else dealt with a situation like this?

lavendergiraffes · May 2014

I don't have any experience besides dealing with a loss while pregnant especially at this point but I do have experience with loss of someone close. I am so very sorry to hear about your grandpa and my thoughts and prayers will be with you. I hope you can attend just for your own closure but I'm sure your grandpa would be good and thrilled if you missed for that reason.

bridetobe9132013 · May 2014

Thank you, I definately think its more for my closure.

spacepotatoes · May 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss

Nmooney1 · May 2014

No experience, but I am sorry for your loss.

chillypenguin · May 2014

No experience, but I am so sorry for your loss!

pistolpackinmomma · May 2014

My great grandma passed the day after DS was born. I was pretty close to her and it killed me that she didn't get to see him (my grandma found her when she went to get her to bring her in) or even know his name. The funeral was when DS was 6 days old and despite the snide remarks of a few family members we attended with baby in tow. It wasn't the easiest but we did the best we could. I sure as hell wasn't going to miss it. I'm sorry for your loss, it's never easy but I think it's even harder when pregnant/just having given birth.

bridetobe9132013 · May 2014

@pistolpackinmomma im so sorry to hear about your loss. That must have been very hard! I was excited he would get to meet my little girl. Two weeks ago we thought he was mostly healthy. I went and saw him Wednesday (last day he woke up) and my sister got a picture of him touching my belly. He would always ask how the baby was doing.

ho11yday · May 2014

No experience quite like yours and I'm sorry about your loss. It sucks losing a family member that you were close to.

babyaotw · May 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you're able to attend to funeral.

LoveIsAll25 · May 2014

I don't have any advice but I am so sorry for your loss.

bumpuser10194737 · May 2014

I haven't in terms of a funeral being close to time to give birth, but I am so sorry for your loss! **Hugs**

talkthewholetime · May 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you can attend his services.

spinsoffresonance · May 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. I remember your earlier post about your grandpa.

My dad passed away when DD was 6 weeks old. It was crazy. My sister called ready after Christmas to say he had been admitted to the hospital ad they didn't think he would make it. I scrambled around like crazy trying to figure out if I should try to go see him, go alone or go with DD and DH on a12 hour international flight. I was breastfeeding and didn't have much milk stashed yet. We got an emergency passport for DD that day, prebooked plane tickets for the 3 of us. Talked to the pedi to figure out if it would be ok taking DD on such a long flight so young, he didn't really give us an answer. Then apparently my dad who had been in/out of a coma all day overheard my sister explain te situation to the nurse, woke up and said "no way, do not put the baby on an airplane she's way too young." those were his last words. I bought my flight for me alone and he passed away while I was boarding the plane. I stayed home with my mom for 24 hours then came back to be with DD. DH had to switch her to formula while I was away but she took to the breast just fine when I got back. Then a week later I went back for the funeral., again I was only there for 24 hours.

JKTTC1 · May 2014

When DS1 was only 3 days old my grandmother passed away. A few days leading up to her unexpected death she got sick with a cold that progressed into something more.

I was devasted and couldn't decide if I should travel with my first child but knew I would never get a chance to attend her funeral and grieve if I didn't go. So 6 days after he was born, my hubby and I packed up on the day of her visitation and drove 3 hours. We go into town as it was taking place. LO slept the entire car ride and we never stopped. I pumped on the way and fed LO as soon as we got there.

I held him and I did have someone approach me who got upset that I wouldn't let him hold him but told him he's only 6 days old and I didn't want him passed around. I'm so glad I went even though I had a VERY difficult delivery and was hard to get around.

Roufi · May 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss - do what you need to do. *hugs*

QOTR · May 2014

I'm very sorry for your loss.

bridetobe9132013 · May 2014

Thank you everyone for your kind words. Im sorry that some of you also had to deal with losses so close to having your babies

I actually told my ob today about it and she was saying the mind is pretty powerful and that my body may wait until my mind is more calm and the funeral is over with. She said she will be shocked if I made it to my due date on sunday.

kramja01 · May 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss.

awc1986 · May 2014

So sorry for your loss. I hope you can attend the funeral, but I'm sure your family and your grandfather would understand if you couldn't.

mirdamae03 · May 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. My uncle passed away last week, and I was unable to attend the funeral this past weekend (8 hours away and I'm 3cm so doctor said no way). It was very, very hard to come to terms with not being there. I'll be thinking of you and praying for your family.