Shame on me for not being an active poster.

Momnaof2

I just thought I'd share this, I have been on this site since the day I found out I was expecting. Some women on here are very judgemental and like to put others down. Okay, if that's your thing, great! I've chosen to not join in with posting rude comments on certain crazy posts or questions. I don't want drama and I don't want to be a bully on an internet site for pregnant women. There is so many women on this site, do we all need to post questions when most of the questions are being asked? Do we all need to throw stones at someone for asking a "dumb" question? I don't think so. But that is just my opinion. I've enjoyed learning so much on this site from so many women. Baby products, cures for our pregnancy issues and getting a view on how other women handle pregnancy. It's sad that the group of us that chose not to join in the drama, but have a history here can not continue on a FB group.



I'm sorry, but we have decided as a group to only allow active posters to join this facebook group.  Because you have such limited posting history, I can't approve you at this time.
Momnaof2 7:59AM
Wow!!! It's true what they say! Have you ever thought that maybe some of us women don't post as frequently because there are so many members and things tend to be repeated several times as far as questions and comments. I was really sick at the beginning, so I posted a question. I later wasn't feeling baby move, so I posted. I post every week on Wednesday when I gain a week. I guess since I don't put other women down or join in on the drama I don't post enough. Shame.

aelhunt

But in all honesty, you can just start to post more on here and show us that you are active. Why would you want in the FB group if you don't participate?

Nuclearcupcake

Momnaof2 said:

I just thought I'd share this, I have been on this site since the day I found out I was expecting. Some women on here are very judgemental and like to put others down. Okay, if that's your thing, great! I've chosen to not join in with posting rude comments on certain crazy posts or questions. I don't want drama and I don't want to be a bully on an internet site for pregnant women. There is so many women on this site, do we all need to post questions when most of the questions are being asked? Do we all need to throw stones at someone for asking a "dumb" question? I don't think so. But that is just my opinion. I've enjoyed learning so much on this site from so many women. Baby products, cures for our pregnancy issues and getting a view on how other women handle pregnancy. It's sad that the group of us that chose not to join in the drama, but have a history here can not continue on a FB group.



I'm sorry, but we have decided as a group to only allow active posters to join this facebook group.  Because you have such limited posting history, I can't approve you at this time.
Momnaof2 7:59AM
Wow!!! It's true what they say! Have you ever thought that maybe some of us women don't post as frequently because there are so many members and things tend to be repeated several times as far as questions and comments. I was really sick at the beginning, so I posted a question. I later wasn't feeling baby move, so I posted. I post every week on Wednesday when I gain a week. I guess since I don't put other women down or join in on the drama I don't post enough. Shame.

Are you there offering support during the hard times? Are you finding you only ask/post about your self? Posting in HDBD/weekly update isn't really contributing to the community. Also, A14 has like NO drama nor are we bitchy to each other?!

Edit:words.

salsy2012

dogperson11

There are PLENTY of ways to be involved in this community without bashing or putting others down. There's a topic EVERY day, plus loads of other posts from people asking questions or asking for support. Involv yourself - we can't personally invite every member to each conversation.

poofwok

Nuclearcupcake said:

Momnaof2 said:

I just thought I'd share this, I have been on this site since the day I found out I was expecting. Some women on here are very judgemental and like to put others down. Okay, if that's your thing, great! I've chosen to not join in with posting rude comments on certain crazy posts or questions. I don't want drama and I don't want to be a bully on an internet site for pregnant women. There is so many women on this site, do we all need to post questions when most of the questions are being asked? Do we all need to throw stones at someone for asking a "dumb" question? I don't think so. But that is just my opinion. I've enjoyed learning so much on this site from so many women. Baby products, cures for our pregnancy issues and getting a view on how other women handle pregnancy. It's sad that the group of us that chose not to join in the drama, but have a history here can not continue on a FB group.



I'm sorry, but we have decided as a group to only allow active posters to join this facebook group.  Because you have such limited posting history, I can't approve you at this time.
Momnaof2 7:59AM
Wow!!! It's true what they say! Have you ever thought that maybe some of us women don't post as frequently because there are so many members and things tend to be repeated several times as far as questions and comments. I was really sick at the beginning, so I posted a question. I later wasn't feeling baby move, so I posted. I post every week on Wednesday when I gain a week. I guess since I don't put other women down or join in on the drama I don't post enough. Shame.

Are you there offering support during the hard times? Are you finding you only ask/post about your self? Posting in HDBD/weekly update isn't really contributing to the community. Also, A14 has like NO drama nor are we bitchy to each other?!

Edit:words.

THIS. Some ppl need to learn the meaning of a community. It's how active you are with others, not how many posts you've made. I think you're confused.

BlckRoses

salsy2012

noodles84 said:

This was also posted in August 2013 and got some funny responses fyi

Hilarious! She doesn't even know how to get to the right august board...so that's a pretty obvious sign that she's not a regular.

WildRumpus

Oh good, you found the right board.

chase16

zoegirlTX said:

Ehhh......I think you are over-reacting.  I don't join in too much drama, but my tolerance for stupid is going down quickly as each week passes. 

I don't think you have to be a drama queen or meanie to participate in the community.  There's always new topics to discuss, posts where people are looking for feedback or encouragement, some fun & silly stuff to go around.  I feel like it's super easy to be active around here without resorting to lurking.

This. If you had an IRL friend where all you did was ask a couple of questions, and send a selfie weekly to said person.. can you really call yourself that person's friend? No one is being "mean" to you here or excluding you. You are not part of the community because you have chosen not to be. A fix for that though? Comment on stuff and interact with the other members. THAT is a community. There are plenty of ways to partcipate without being redundant. So many threads to comment on!

shaylagirl

I still consider myself a lurker, but if you want to be a part of a community, it's usually expected that you participate to help the community.

What if everyone had your same attitude of "It's already been covered"?  What a boring place this would be.

Also, as has already been asked, if all you want to do is post 1 photo a week on HDBD, why would you want to be a member of a FB group that has the potential to be MORE active than the BMB?  You already don't post much here, so why be in two places? 

And, the solution seems pretty simple.  Participate.  Share with the group.  Join in on discussions, even if you feel it's already been covered.  Who knows, perhaps it's your perspective that someone else will find the most useful and helpful.

Also, wow, we do drama here?  I think A14 is pretty drama free.  It's all those other boards "out there" that seem drama laden.

haliebabyx3

I bet they are side eyeing you as hard, if not harder, as we are right now.

missmiss307

At this point, if I get a vote, I wouldn't be open to you being invited to the Facebook group. This post is a lot more rude than anything else I've seen posted on this board.

Raclla

The FB group is only for people who want to share BJ tips and tricks.  If you can't get that personal, we don't want you.

It's also just one giant bitchfest. 

Danielle0989

Yeah I'm pretty sure you aren't gonna get any support here. "YOU ARE THE WEAKEST LINK. GOODBYE!"

loulou182

Why would you even want to join the FB group if you think everyone is rude?

jamjoyful

I can't even take you seriously after you posted this same thing on the wrong board. I just can't. )

MC03

Wow.  I'm sad they are starting a FB group and we might lose some regulars.  But one thing I absolutely support is the "active participant" requirement.  And you are a perfect example of why it is needed!

haliebabyx3

toratoratori said:

DANG IT. You beat me to it!

Jennicillin

For. The. Love.

Posting an AW pic of yourself one day a week DOES NOT make you an active participant.  It just doesn't.

Do you know anything at all about what's going on with Madison?  What about Abby?  Have you offered support when, say my water broke last night?  Did you even know I AM NOT the first one who this has happened to on this board?  Did you know we've already had a birth here?  Is that the "drama" you're referring to?

No.  You didn't know.  And if you did, you definitely didn't care. It's obvious in your posting history.

Get over yourself.

Jennicillin

ThoseThreeWords said:

Jennicillin said:

For. The. Love.

Posting an AW pic of yourself one day a week DOES NOT make you an active participant.  It just doesn't.

Do you know anything at all about what's going on with Madison?  What about Abby?  Have you offered support when, say my water broke last night?  Did you even know I AM NOT the first one who this has happened to on this board?  Did you know we've already had a birth here?  Is that the "drama" you're referring to?

No.  You didn't know.  And if you did, you definitely didn't care. It's obvious in your posting history.

Get over yourself.

Speaking of which, how are you feeling today @jennicillin ?  I just read the update - it sounds like things got even crazier.  I'm glad you are home at least.

Feeling ok.  Just have to take it really really easy.  Luckily I have an amazing support network of friends helping.  Seriously, they rock the casbah.  My husband is deployed, I'd be lost without them!

My back is killing me, it will be that way until I pass the kidney stone.  It hurts, a lot, but I'm just focusing on the fact that with everything else baby is ok and that's what matters :-)

Allison7

No one is trying to be a mean girl here, but with our real names out in FB it is just going to be more restricted. It is a privacy thing. No one said you can never ever ever in a million trillion years join...it is just not right now. So just get a little more active. There are others on this board who have gotten more active since the FB group started and I am sure it is because they want to join over there. 

4PrivetDrive

Jennicillin said:

For. The. Love.

Posting an AW pic of yourself one day a week DOES NOT make you an active participant.  It just doesn't.

Do you know anything at all about what's going on with Madison?  What about Abby?  Have you offered support when, say my water broke last night?  Did you even know I AM NOT the first one who this has happened to on this board?  Did you know we've already had a birth here?  Is that the "drama" you're referring to?

No.  You didn't know.  And if you did, you definitely didn't care. It's obvious in your posting history.

Get over yourself.

shaylagirl

Check it out!!!  We are apparently:
a lot of great ladies.

So, there's that!!!

But, on the womp-womp front:
But we are quickly discovering it's for the click of women that can be overly rude to people.

Man, such a backhanded....compliment?

Also, for the record, we need to know who the 'great ladies' are and who are the 'click of women' that are so overly rude?

Discuss...share...please.    I'm genuinely curious, because I don't see a clique happening on this board.  That or I'm just THAT oblivious.

Okay ya'll...I'm out...

Nuclearcupcake

Was that a freaking drive by tantrum?

Rannndi

Momnaof2 said:

I just thought I'd share this, I have been on this site since the day I found out I was expecting. Some women on here are very judgemental and like to put others down. Okay, if that's your thing, great! I've chosen to not join in with posting rude comments on certain crazy posts or questions. I don't want drama and I don't want to be a bully on an internet site for pregnant women. There is so many women on this site, do we all need to post questions when most of the questions are being asked? Do we all need to throw stones at someone for asking a "dumb" question? I don't think so. But that is just my opinion. I've enjoyed learning so much on this site from so many women. Baby products, cures for our pregnancy issues and getting a view on how other women handle pregnancy. It's sad that the group of us that chose not to join in the drama, but have a history here can not continue on a FB group. I'm sorry, but we have decided as a group to only allow active posters to join this facebook group.  Because you have such limited posting history, I can't approve you at this time. Momnaof2 7:59AM Wow!!! It's true what they say! Have you ever thought that maybe some of us women don't post as frequently because there are so many members and things tend to be repeated several times as far as questions and comments. I was really sick at the beginning, so I posted a question. I later wasn't feeling baby move, so I posted. I post every week on Wednesday when I gain a week. I guess since I don't put other women down or join in on the drama I don't post enough. Shame.

First of all, I'm so confused.  Why not just up your posting here so that we actually know you, and then get accepted to the FB group?

Second of all, I doubt that this thread upped your chances for ever getting approved.

Third of all, since I've been here establishing relationships since November/December, I'm now pissed that you called my friend out---who has ALSO been here since November/December establishing relationships.

Finally, you THOUGHT wrong.  You shouldn't have shared it.  Also, where did you go?

What were you thinking @snowflake91011?!  I totally want OP having personal information about me.  I give it out to strangers all the time.  

ETA: more thoughts

Jennicillin

shaylagirl said:

Check it out!!!  We are apparently:
a lot of great ladies.

So, there's that!!!

But, on the womp-womp front:
But we are quickly discovering it's for the click of women that can be overly rude to people.

Man, such a backhanded....compliment?

Also, for the record, we need to know who the 'great ladies' are and who are the 'click of women' that are so overly rude?

Discuss...share...please.    I'm genuinely curious, because I don't see a clique happening on this board.  That or I'm just THAT oblivious.

Okay ya'll...I'm out...

I think a couple months ago we had another BSC complain about "cruelsound and her groupies"  I think they're the mean ones

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M&Max

OP - I haven't been super active on this board due to my job but I could never expect these ladies to want me to join their FB group.  If you want into the group, get more involved and get to know these ladies.  It's pretty simple actually...

Rannndi

scarfbandit said:

I need to get up earlier!!

You're JUST getting up?!?!  SOOOOO jealous!

Valancyy

I don't get how we're mean.  I think everyone is pretty nice here, and I don't see any cliques. 

I came from TTGP and there was definitely a lot of snark over there.  It's very tame here!

 

M&Max

snowflake91011 said:

M&Max said:

OP - I haven't been super active on this board due to my job but I could never expect these ladies to want me to join their FB group.  If you want into the group, get more involved and get to know these ladies.  It's pretty simple actually...

It's a little late at this point for her....she's now on my post-it!

I figured as much! You can't go pouting and expect people to be like aw poor you, now we'll let you in. 

rockyrollgirl

FrodaBaggins

salsy2012 said:

@salsy2012 I love this pic so much. The gentle paw of suggestion.

salsy2012

FrodaBaggins said:

salsy2012 said:

@salsy2012 I love this pic so much. The gentle paw of suggestion.

It's one of my favorites. I only use it in times of great need/stupidity. (:

poofwok

salsy2012 said:

FrodaBaggins said:

salsy2012 said:

@salsy2012 I love this pic so much. The gentle paw of suggestion.

It's one of my favorites. I only use it in times of great need/stupidity. (:



Kudos on the good judgement of using this gif
B-)

Momnaof2

My only response is that I'm not a newbie nor do I post just about myself. I have been getting on here at least 5 times a day since December. I've posted a question twice regarding myself and my pregnancy. I've offered advice on severe morning sickness a couple of times and have become friends with a few beyond on here. I don't feel like I need to comment or post more frequently to be considered a member. I've had a very bad experience with this pregnancy as many many others have to. So i enjoy reading the several posts that is posted daily to remind myself pregnancy is a beautiful thing. But there's also a lot of topics I don't feel like I can offer advice or an opinion on. I also don't post on HDBD because I don't have a full length or even a semi full length mirror. I do post on the Wednesday Ticker Change. I just think it's odd to be told "as a group you have decided" well last time I checked I was apart of the group. And as far as posting the reply. I've already received a response from The Bump. I didn't post a name, screen name or any information regarding the person. So I'mfine there, and I you really think that it was rude of me, you should go back and re some of the resporesponses given to a poster for asking a question that may have already been asked or that you qualify as "stupid". There are all different types of people here, different backgrounds, different situations and different education.

salsy2012

Momnaof2 said:

My only response is that I'm not a newbie nor do I post just about myself. I have been getting on here at least 5 times a day since December. I've posted a question twice regarding myself and my pregnancy. I've offered advice on severe morning sickness a couple of times and have become friends with a few beyond on here. I don't feel like I need to comment or post more frequently to be considered a member. I've had a very bad experience with this pregnancy as many many others have to. So i enjoy reading the several posts that is posted daily to remind myself pregnancy is a beautiful thing. But there's also a lot of topics I don't feel like I can offer advice or an opinion on. I also don't post on HDBD because I don't have a full length or even a semi full length mirror. I do post on the Wednesday Ticker Change. I just think it's odd to be told "as a group you have decided" well last time I checked I was apart of the group. And as far as posting the reply. I've already received a response from The Bump. I didn't post a name, screen name or any information regarding the person. So I'mfine there, and I you really think that it was rude of me, you should go back and re some of the resporesponses given to a poster for asking a question that may have already been asked or that you qualify as "stupid". There are all different types of people here, different backgrounds, different situations and different education.

QFP

she's baaaaaack.

ETA: I couldn't even read this because of the atrocious formatting. PARAGRAPHS, OP. Fucking learn how to use them.

rockyrollgirl

Momnaof2 said:

My only response is that I'm not a newbie nor do I post just about myself. I have been getting on here at least 5 times a day since December. I've posted a question twice regarding myself and my pregnancy. I've offered advice on severe morning sickness a couple of times and have become friends with a few beyond on here. I don't feel like I need to comment or post more frequently to be considered a member. I've had a very bad experience with this pregnancy as many many others have to. So i enjoy reading the several posts that is posted daily to remind myself pregnancy is a beautiful thing. But there's also a lot of topics I don't feel like I can offer advice or an opinion on. I also don't post on HDBD because I don't have a full length or even a semi full length mirror. I do post on the Wednesday Ticker Change. I just think it's odd to be told "as a group you have decided" well last time I checked I was apart of the group. And as far as posting the reply. I've already received a response from The Bump. I didn't post a name, screen name or any information regarding the person. So I'mfine there, and I you really think that it was rude of me, you should go back and re some of the resporesponses given to a poster for asking a question that may have already been asked or that you qualify as "stupid". There are all different types of people here, different backgrounds, different situations and different education.

What? 

poofwok

So...

Momnaof2

I'm not looking for support about this, I just think it gets out of hand. I chose to continue here because there are great women here and stories. There are some I feel are not my type which I've never commented on or anything. I don't feel like I need to post more to be considered a member or to continue being a member through a fb site. My impression was it was for Aug 14 members to continue beyond here. I do offer support and I'm definitely not an AW poster because I read previous posts and most of the time it answers my questions. There are a lot of women here, everyone definitely does not know everyone. I think it's sad and pathetic to not considered a person a member because of a handful of women don't know them.