OK so a) I am very pregnant, b) I am not on my anti-anxiety meds, and c) I am pretty freaking OCD anyway. That is my preface for this ridiculousness.
We are a no shoes household. Which I think is completely normal, especially when you have little kids, right? So last year at DS's birthday party, we put a sign on the front door (in case I couldn't be there to greet everyone as they came in), that said, "Welcome! Please come in and remove your shoes and place them on the mat." And 99.9% of the guests had no issue with this, because really, most people take their shoes off when entering someone's home anyway, or they at least ask, "Should I take my shoes off?"
Well my grandma's husband had a huge fit. And before you ask, no he does not have a medical condition or anything that requires him to wear shoes. My mom overheard him and my grandma arguing, and he was just saying, "But I don't WANT to take off my shoes!" "Please just take them off, dear!" "NO, that's RIDICULOUS! I have every right to wear my shoes!" And it was like a big episode. Ultimately my grandma made him take them off, but my mom said she was so glad I wasn't there, because it was a big scene.
This year, we are making the same request. My question is, do you think I should talk to my grandma beforehand and give her the heads up...like, hey, I know last year there was some concern about shoe removal, and I just wanted to warn you that we are still asking people to do that, so you can prepare your husband (I would refer to him by his name, but didn't want to share personal info online) in advance so he isn't upset when he gets here?" Something like that. My concern is a) I will have a complete meltdown if I witness anything like what happened last year happening this year, and b) I got the impression from my mom that he made kind of a scene right at the front door and I don't want other guests to be made uncomfortable by a big argument right when they walk in. Should I just leave it, given that my grandma reigned him in last year? Yes, this is a stupid thing to worry about. Please forgive me.
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Re: Need advice re: literally the stupidest thing ever
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How about going to Walmart or something, getting some cheap house slippers, then call grandma and say "hi grandma, I know your H doesn't like being barefoot in the house, so in order to make him more comfortable and keep our house shoe free, I bought him these slippers"
I'm the same way with hand washing....I make people wash their hands when they come over.
So I did take the majority's advice and contacted my grandma beforehand, and she talked to him about it and he took his shoes off without any drama (as did everyone else). We have carpeting so there is nothing that grosses me out quite as much as shoes on carpeting. I mean carpeting in general kind of grosses me out because you never know what the F is living in there, and it's not like you can just sweep or mop it up or whatever, but at least we put in the carpet ourselves last year so it's semi-new. I am glad I contacted my grandma beforehand so she could talk to him and they could work it out beforehand.
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