Can I just gripe a minute?

TX08Aggie

My mom told me my sister is coming sometime this summer to visit for a week (parents live close by, so people always stay at their house and my mom lets me know when people are coming down).  I texted my sister asking when - sometime late June.  I thought that was cool - will be close to DD1's 2nd birthday.  Maybe she could come to her party!  My sister told me she was so excited to come see her friend and her friend's son (who is her godson).  Can I believe it's been almost 2 years since she has seen him??

Uh, it's been that same amount of time since she has seen her first niece and she hasn't seen her second one yet.  No mention of my girls at all, like she could care less.  She didn't even acknowledge DD1's 1st birthday, so I'm not sure why I expected better...

She was at my parents' when DD1 was born.  When DD1 was a few days old, my mom would come help us at night because I got sick and really needed it.  My sister (who was 30 at the time) told my mom she needed her mommy time too and my mom shouldn't come stay the night with me.

Just so irritated...

TX08Aggie

If it was just me - eh whatever.  But, when it involves my kids it's hard to let it go.

pattipants

Jealous? Selfish? Passive-aggressive? Like bears said, it's probably best to lower your expectations of her. It's too bad -- you'd think she'd be thrilled to be an aunt!

SurpriseAt39

Nope. I've got siblings like that.
I quit making efforts to see them because that's how they've treated me for the last 15 years.
I don't bother mentioning birthdays anymore.

DD has come to realize how strange my siblings are. She will play with her cousins when they are around, but she doesn't expect to see them much.

I can't even get one sister to commit to a date/time when I say I will visit HER.

You need to decide how strong your bond is and whether its worth the fight.

TX08Aggie

Thanks for listening ladies - it's nice to vent!  It's hard to not expect more from family than that.  I keep waiting for her to grow up and realize it's not always all about her.