throwing shower for mtb who doesnt want a shower?

Jenny952

So this is kind of a funny situation. My cousin, whom Im close to, is pg with her first baby. She and her husband are very well off and she doesnt want a shower (god love her, lol). But all the aunts and grandmas are so upset about this and are still talking about how they didnt get to give her a bridal shower last year. I finally talked her into a party over memorial day weekend when she is in town (she is due in july and wont come back home until christmas).

She doesnt want anything too big or fancy so I was trying to think of creative ways to celebrate. She doesnt have a registry, which makes it tough. At this point we just want to show her how happy we are and get some special things for her baby. Im open to any and all suggestions!

Jenny952

Spa day! That sounds great. I dont want her to be uncomfortbale either and ffeelbad for her. But I also see the family's POV on wanting to do something special for her and the new baby.

VOR

MrsLee04 said:

Jenny952 said:

But I also see the family's POV on wanting to do something special for her and the new baby.

I don't.  What good is celebrating if they're making her uncomfortable?

100% this.  And there are other ways to "do something special" for her w/o forcing a party on her.  Their hearts may be in the right place, but damn.... at the same time, it comes across as really selfish that these people can't respect her wishes and are making this about them.

Jenny952

I should have clarified, she is not opposed to a party but she does not want gifts. So doing a party is in lieu of presents where she can hang out with the family. I lovethe spa day and she will love it too. Thanks!