Mom Bullies :(

GundoGirl

I didn't come on here to be bullied by other moms. We were all raised differently and we will all parent different. Can we not agree that if we are doing things out of LOVE for our children and wanting what is genuinely BEST for them then we are doing our best as parents? We will all make mistakes, and we will all learn what works and what doesn't for US and OUR family, not other moms and other families. I get mad when I see moms berate other moms for decisions they make. Its sad. Do you really think that you bully comment will make them change their mind? I love the community on here and certainly don't expect everyone to agree. I'm just asking that we all get a little perspective...

jesuisfatiguee

Slapping your 1 year old's hand and spanking him for doing normal 1 year old things is unacceptable, regardless of whether you consider spanking a valid disciplinary device.

I definitely wouldn't consider the comments on your post bullying.

DublinMama

I can say with all honesty and sincerity that I have no idea what you are referring to in this instance. What recent thread was there bullying in?

Edited for typos.

DublinMama

Ahhhhh I see. 

This is in reference to both the desire to get involved with this and spanking.

wifeofadam

As someone who has been the "victim" of some "bullying" on this board before, I do want to agree with OP that there is a right and wrong way to disagree with people.

OP - We do spank in our house, but not until they are much older and only for serious offenses (after other forms of discipline have been ineffective).  Spanking is a very touchy subject for many people on these boards.  Spanking toddlers is even touchier.  I disagree with your decision to spank your toddler, but I don't think you're abusive or anything else that may have been mentioned in the other thread.  If your baby keeps throwing food, just take it away, get the baby out of the highchair, and move on.  They learn pretty quickly to stop if they really want to eat.

We DO all make mistakes.  None of us are perfect.  Perhaps there is a better way to let the OP know that you disagree with her discipline style that would help her learn a different way of dealing with the problem.  One that wouldn't cause her to put up a wall.

Drea926

Rynleigh

WAIT, WHAT?? You hit a baby because it does things that you don't like, and WE are bullies?? WHAT? You need to seriously adjust your perspectives. 

Wow. Wow wow. 

Rynleigh

lrtrauth said:

I'm normally one who defends others,.. but in this situation, nope. I'm not sorry. I realize pregnancy brings frustrations as well as having a little one. HOWEVER, if something that your baby/toddler is doing is bringing about enough frustration to cause you to physically correct them, you need to just step the fuck away from the situation and take a deep breathe. 

I physically correct my kids all the time... by removing the thing they're throwing or breaking... or by picking them up and moving them somewhere... or by grabbing them before they can get into something.... 

Hitting isn't physical correction. It's hitting. 

kleigh926

Spanking is an extremely controversial topic and people have strong opinions on it. I am not anti-spanking in certain situations, BUT, babies and toddlers are way too young for this. I don't personally think that's a matter of perspective....

And yeah, this is the most tame board in the history of TB.

TarheelMama202

Damn, I can't believe I missed this thread. ::shuffles back through Bump files::

tamarar5

TarheelMama202 said:

Damn, I can't believe I missed this thread. ::shuffles back through Bump files::

When you find it, send me me the link! Lol

TarheelMama202

Here ya go, @TamaraR4

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12308491/throwing-food-help#latest

octobermama87

TarheelMama202 said:

Damn, I can't believe I missed this thread. ::shuffles back through Bump files::

I missed it too. That's a shame people think hitting a 1 year old is a solution.  Smh. I'm kinda glad I never opened that thread. 

TarheelMama202

may10587@hotmail.com said:

TarheelMama202 said:

Damn, I can't believe I missed this thread. ::shuffles back through Bump files::

I missed it too. That's a shame people think hitting a 1 year old is a solution.  Smh. I'm kinda glad I never opened that thread. 

Also noted: if May comes on the board and disagrees with your parenting choice, then you should probably reevaluate your life. She's one of the sweetest people on the board.