My daughter wanted to honor her baby brother's memory today, so...

Cocoasushi

Today my son would be 1 month old. The loss of our baby boy, Link, has been hard on the whole family. Luckily, our 4 year old daughter Piper has been a huge factor is helping us accept what happened and heal.

She asked me, "Mommy, can I dye my hair blue?" I honestly didn't think twice when I said yes. I didn't know why she wanted blue hair. Her father and I encourage her to express her individuality and be herself, and it isn't the first time she's wanted to experiment with her hair, so it wasn't really a big deal to me to help her do it. We bought her some hair color while we were out today, and put it in right away after we got home. I asked her, "What made you want to dye your hair blue?" The last time she dyed her hair, she wanted a streak of Manic Panic brand red in her hair. I asked her why red then, too. Back then, it was because she had seen a picture of me in high school and she loved my hair, and wanted to have hair like mommy used to. This time though, her answer made me cry both tears of joy and pain. She said, "Well mommy, blue is a boy color, right? And Link was a boy. And I miss him bunches and wanna remember him by making it a boy color, so every time my hair falls in my face I see blue and remember him! And when people ask my why I have blue hair, I can tell them ALL about him!" I'm heartbroken because I know she loves and misses her baby brother so much even though she never really met him, but I'm so, so incredibly proud of her for being so honest and wanting people to know that she is a big sister, even if her mommy doesn't have a living baby for her to hug.

 

 

gabbagal

So bittersweet, but it melted my heart. Piper is a very special girl and I'm so glad she is helping to honor Link's memory. Squeeze that girl extra tight!

Maxsmommy123112

Beautiful. I just want to thank you for raising such a thoughtful sincere little girl. Truly a testament to her upbringing. Made me cry.

Yaz14

How gorgeous. You have a very special young lady on your hands there 

stephy1221

That is so sweet of her and it seems like a good way for her to deal with the loss of her sibling.

LisaG09

That's a beautiful story and a beautiful little girl.

ambmama

Ticker warning.

This is just so sweet. What a wonderful thing for her to do!

AggieBeth06

(((Hugs))) Piper is a sweetheart. You are one fortunate Mama with her. I can see how beautiful and hard this is. I don't want to push my beliefs on anyone, but it has helped me to think about how my angel baby would want me to embrace the beauty after I dealt with the pain. I think our lost LOs would want us to find happiness, keeping them in our hearts along the way.

This is a sweet gesture by a thoughtful little darling!

Eveiii

Beautiful

nohalo21

How sweet! I  love that you don't hold back her creativity. It's amazing how in-tune these little ones are to what has gone on around them.