A friend of mine requested yesterday to help plan the baby shower and I honestly haven't even given it a thought. I don't even know where to start with a guest list! I don't have many friends & my co-workers live all over the place, so invites would mostly go to family... who also live pretty spread out. I just kind of figured that I wouldn't have one. If anything, I think a cookout with close family would be nice, but my friend wouldn't have much to plan -or much fun & comfort- crashing at the ILs. I feel like it would be in poor taste to have a more traditional shower, though, since there's not really a lot of people in my life with whom I've stayed particularly close. Thoughts?
Re: Yeesh! Offering already?
If you feel weird about her planning a shower you can decline.
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Honestly, a small traditional shower in someone's home/a restaurant is totally lovely to me. I think giving her the names of local friends and close family, keeping it to the people that are closest, is perfectly okay. This isn't a wedding. You don't have to invite every female member of the family. Great-Aunt Ethel and Third Cousin Linda don't need courtesy invitations if you just see them once a year at Thanksgiving. My mom's family is huge, our wedding invitations went out to 250 people. My shower invitations went to less than 20.
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@Helenahhandbasket - thanks for getting it.