Monday Morning Whine (Wine?) Fest
keags5496
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This isn't really deserving of a thread of its own because its been discussed, but I wanted to whine and figure that I'm probably not the only one on this icky Monday morning (here anyways...its snowing...ugh).
We had dinner with my family last night and my mother asked how he was sleeping. N is pretty awesome (I think) and will sleep from about 9-2 and then from 2:30-5 or 6ish. He's 8 weeks old. For the most part he can self soothe, but sometimes if he spits his binky out he'll fuss until one of us replaces it. I'm not worried about it. My mom commented that we should start sleep training him and that a guy she worked with started CIO with his 2 month old and she'll sleep for 7 hours now. Oh, but it was okay because he sat in the room with her the whole time she cried. Uhhhh, no.
Why are we so obsessed with getting our LOs to STTN before their ready? And why is this the marker of being a "good" parent for so many? DS1 didn't truly sleep through the night for a while, but you know what? He's a great sleeper now and loves his bed and bedtime. It's his safe place. Why would I want to potentially create negative feelings about that already? Babies aren't supposed to sleep through the night...they're babies. And since I'm the one who's up with him in the MOTN and I don't care then why do others?
I'm all about setting healthy sleep habits and allowing babies to learn how to self soothe, but if I put my 2 month old into his crib when he's drowsy but awake and he starts to shriek you can bet that I'm going to pick him up and snuggle him until he calms down. And don't tell me that I'm spoiling him....I'm not and you're a cold bitch.
*end rant*
What's your Monday morning whine?
Re: Monday Morning Whine (Wine?) Fest
I pump three times at work but only remembered two sets of bottles (I usually bring that and one set of the Medela storage bags). I think I have a solution figured out, but I'm annoyed.
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DH and I have an agreement that we each get some alone time every other weekend and on alternating weekends we go out on a date together. I had already told him that I was going to take the kiddos shopping with his mother for a good chunk of time on Saturday ( which that right there should be double points b/c MIL). He called and asked if he could go out for drinks after work on Friday and in exchange I could go get a pedicure Sun. Fine, thought I would be able to do that anyway b/c of leaving him alone Sat but he just switched groups at work and I know he was excited to hang out with new people so I said yes. He said he would be home by 5:30-6 since they were leaving at 3:30. He texts me later to say it might be more like 7 and I text back saying that the baby was crying constantly and the toddler was being crazy and I needed him home. No response. 6:45 rolls around and still no DH. I call to see and he is still at the bar b/c he "lost track of time". How the fuck do you lose track of time when you are a 30 year old professional with a $4000 watch on your wrist?!? Of course we fought Friday night because of this.
He was pissy pretty much all weekend but then Sunday afternoon rolls around and I mentioned I might just take a nap for my alone time since LO has been so congested it's been hard for her to sleep so I haven't been sleeping (he does not ever get up with her). I go upstairs to take said nap, actually fall asleep fairly quickly (that NEVER happens for me) and he comes upstairs and yells what the Fuck?!? at me! He then tells me the baby has been crying for 15 minutes. I told him I'm taking a nap and that he needs to deal with it. I then hear the baby continue to cry and go downstairs. He watching TV and letting her cry. WTF? I take her with me and yell at him, not for the first time, that you can't let a 2 month old CIO.
Then Sunday evening both girls are in tears and having trouble getting to sleep so we are trading back and forth and whoever is with him is just crying so I'm constantly having to calm and soothe. It was a mess and because tired and no alone time even harder! And he got like 8 hours of alone time AND slept through the night both nights and he is the cranky one!
The crankiness continued this am when he swore at DD1. I let him have it, I am so pissed at him right now.
TL;DR, my H is a short tempered, inconsiderate asshole.
This Momma. Right here. :-\"
1. The trash collectors left our tote on the middle of the driveway. This means to leave my house I'm going to have to schlep us down to get it and haul it up the driveway.
2. DH won't be home until 9, which basically means I'm totally on my own today. This after he wasn't super helpful yesterday. I tried to take an hour to bake and be on my own. He decided that would be a perfect time to do his mother's taxes. Apparently that meant he couldn't soothe LO or get up to pop the paci back in his mouth. Picture me tossing an ingredient in the mixer and then having to go into the living room to keep LO happy. Not such a relaxing baking hour.
3. And I hate when people ask about lo's sleep or if he's eating enough. If he was sttn, he wouldn't be eating enough. How's that for ironic?
Today is my first day back to work(Lo is 8 weeks), and I didn't have a bit of guilt leaving him at home with my MIL, but now all my co-workers keeping asking me how rough it was to leave him and why am I back to work full time, I should be doing part time.
I don't even have a desire to check on LO. I'm really enjoying being back at work. I know its not right but it makes me feel "normal". WTF, now I'm depressed because I think there is something wrong with me.
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It's hard when other people's words play up on your own insecurities, and make you second guess yourself.
Also, I totally agree with you on the PT not really being a good work/life balance in certain feilds. I knew that it would not work well for me, so I just bit the bullet and went back FT.
It's all good- I was just so relieved that they figured out what was wrong. My intuition told me it wasn't normal. I really hope you get some relief tomorrow.
My whine: I caught the wretched stomach virus from DS1. I feel so awful and I'm afraid LO will end up with it. But all I can do is wash my hands and keep nursing him.
Then there's my bf who woke up this morning complaining about how he is now sick. Well at least you got to sleep for nine hours straight, I'm sure you feel better then me.
FWIW I have a really good baby who I feel like knows I'm sick because all she wants to do is cuddle. FX she doesn't get sick.