adoption?

slepert

 We think financially it would be wise of us only to have one. We make less than $40,000 and husband stays home with LO most of the time. We are thinking (I am) think about adopting a child that is at least 4 when our LO is like 6 or 7. wise or not? anyone in that situation?

slepert

i geuss i mean wise to be one and done for finanical reasons for adopt an older child so my husband can work?

slepert

how long are you talking? 3 months or more than that?

Chapter79

slepert said:

how long are you talking? 3 months or more than that?

No one can answer this? All kids are different.

My BFF is fostering a child right now, and in the process of adopting her. They've had no issues with behavior or anything like it- but I know that's abnormal.

I'm OAD by choice, so I say it's unwise   Because I don't want two kids and see 0% appeal of it. Which is why you'd probably be better asking on a board that is more geared towards what you're looking for, so your answers aren't one sided

law&order

Chapter79 said:

slepert said:

how long are you talking? 3 months or more than that?

No one can answer this? All kids are different.
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Yes this. No one can answer this. I haven't adopted but practiced in child welfare law. If you are adopting an older child through foster care, a lot will depend on the reasons the child has been in foster care. Many foster, not all, have ongoing mental health needs and it's really a spectrum: some kids have anxiety some have PTSD some have RAD. Depends on their circumstances, foster history, and bio family history. Some kids have just very minor issues. Regardless, all kids and families must go through the bonding process.

hopefulmom81

EMarieMe

@lawandorder‌ said it well. The majority of adoptable children in this country come from really rough beginnings and will likely have major behavioral issues, health issues, and/or developmental delays. I am in no way saying that they don't deserve a wonderful and loving home, they most certainly do, but that it's not just something you decide to do out of the blue based on a random age requirement. Please, please read some books, and join a forum that has members from all parts of the adoption triad.