What are your plans for birth/being in the hospital? With DS, obviously DH stayed with us from the time DS was born until the time we were discharged, other than to go run and get me Jimmy John's (my first request non-pregnant) and to install the car seat (whoops--DS was earlier than anticipated). This time, I am on the fence but had been leaning toward him staying with me the first night and then a good part of the next day, then going home for the night to be with DS and bringing DS back to the hospital in time for discharge (I recognize this might be a stupid idea so it may change). Well the plan all along had been that whenever DH was with me, my parents would be with DS. Well my parents have been a hot mess lately with a whole host of health issues and I'm not feeling confident that even one of them will be able to stay with DS...and then if they are, I'm not sure I'm confident that they'll be able to drive DS down to the hospital to meet his sister and spend some time with us (we live about an hour from the hospital I'm delivering at--I KNOW, WHAT A HORRIBLE IDEA, but I love my OB and it's one of the best hospitals in the country).
So now I am toying with the idea of DH really not staying with me very much at all...like sending him home so he can be with DS at night, coming back in the morning probably with DS and my mom (driving separately), then sending DS back with my mom after an hour or so, DH staying with me for a few more hours, then sending DH home. Then DH coming back (with or without DS, not sure yet) to get me for discharge. Does this sound like the worst idea ever? I definitely remember DH helping me a lot while I was dragging my lady bits on the floor after delivery, but at the same time, I'm at a hospital with a ton of nurses, if I really need help someone will help me. Also it's really REALLY important to me to have someone capable with DS, and lately that is not my parents, and we really do not have a lot of other options. I also don't want to take away DH's time with his new baby, but again, I'm not willing to leave DS with people that health wise I'm not sure can take care of him 100% just so DH be at the hospital with us. It seems to me like DH being at the hospital is more of a luxury, whereas a capable caregiver for DS is a necessity. What do you ladies think? WWYD? What are you doing for #2?
BFP #1 6/28/11 ~ EDD 3/7/12 ~ m/c 7/15/11 at 6w2d
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BFP #3 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/11/14. 4/27/14: Our second take home baby is here!