DD is 5 and is now invited to many birthday parties. 75% of them say "no gifts please" on the invite I HATE this. why? 1st time I didn't bring a gift, we were the only ones who didn't. I felt like a schmuck. next time this was on an invite I brought a small gift. Many people brought big gifts. So i just started ignoring it too. Now a good friend of DD is having a party. invite says "no gifts please". I plan to ignore it. I didn't state any gifts things on my DD invites. this friend spent around $50 on a gift for my DD. so now i am going to ignore the no gifts on her invite and spent what i usually spent ($20). The whole thing makes me feel uncomfortable.
Re: NBSR: "No gifts please"
This is one topic that I never understand why our etiquette based 'need' to give a gift trumps showing respect for someone's wishes!
Yuck. I would feel like a schmuck too.
This is why you don't mention gifts one way or the other on ANY invites. Let people do as they wish for a kid's birthday party.
Edit-- to say you are not a schmuck, but I understand why you felt like one! Also-- I love the word schmuck!!
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Yup. I assume people are also raised to respect other people's wishes. I'm not sure why giving a gift out of "not showing up empty handed" trumps this.
4/25/14 12:41am