I am super bothered by what a nurse said today and I don't know how to handle it because now I am the bad guy.
Today DH couldn't go with me to visit Liam so I went alone, the plan for the day was to give him his first bath and then Kangaroo care time, I was really looking forward to my alone time with Liam. But then soon after I got there MIL showed up unannounced.
If that wasn't bad enough while I was waiting for his normal nurse to come in to help with his bath another nurse I have never met came in to examine him, but she kept calling him a girl until I corrected her, then she asked if I had any questions. I said no but MIL asked when she could hold him and touch him. The nurse told MIL she could actually touch him now and help with diaper changes etc...... I was so pissed! First off the rules we were originally told were that only DH and I could touch him while he was in the incubator and that when he moves to an open air crib DH and I can decide who holds and touches and the nurses will back us up and say it's their rules so we don't have to be the bad guys. I was really happy with that original plan. So when this nurse said that to MIL I had to speak up and say that I wasn't comfortable with that and I would prefer that only DH and I touch him right now, but now I am the bad guy and MIL is not going to believe that those are NICU rules, just that I won't let her touch her grandson.