A somewhat new couple at church (with a very shy/sensitive MTB) is expecting, and I got the okay from MTB and MIL to host her shower in June. I am really excited to do this, as we are close in age, and I know I will be sensitive to her wishes and preferences.
The last few Sundays, I've been accosted by 2 ladies who apparently have decided the date, time, place, colors, theme, food, decor...and it sounds exactly like those awful showers I went to as a kid in the 1980s. I reply to each statement that I am making those choices in conjunction with the MTB, and will let them know.
I want to be a good team player and find ways for anyone interested to contribute to the decisions/preparation, but at the same time it is clear that these ladies don't see me as the host. I'm concerned that if I don't complete every item on the list way ahead of time, then they will absolutely take over (which stresses me out because I was planning to do these preparations after a busy few weeks at work). And I'm pretty sure they will try and take over on the day of the shower anyways.
Anyone experienced this with family members, friends, or church sisters? It is important to me to be Christ-like in my interactions with them. At the same time, I am feeling hurt that these ladies don't see me as capable/worthy of planning an event, or at least are not willing to let me have this special experience with the MTB.
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Re: Church Ladies Taking Over Shower I'm Hosting!