Opinions please, baby sprinkle for #2?

ladybug2785

Hi ladies. I'm not sure on the etiquette of 'baby sprinkles', but SIL offered to throw us a baby sprinkle, or something like a children's book shower or a baby dress shower.

This is our second baby, a girl, and is 2 years apart from DS.

We didn't ask her, she had been offering ever since we became pregnant and now that we know we are expecting a girl she emailed me asking if she could do one for us.

I'm flattered by her kindness in wanting to do this for us, but I don't want her to do it. It seems gift grabby to me.

What would you do? SIL and I don't have the best relationship and DH thinks she is only offering so she can show off her new house with another party. How do I word something so she doesn't get offended?

sschwege

The general consensus around here is that showers/sprinkles are for FTMs.

Helenahhandbasket

I would say something like "SIL-- I would hate to put you out in any way, shape or form.  Thank you for thinking of me, but I have to decline."

msmerymac

Just decline. 

But if you really can't, maybe suggest that the two of you (and maybe your mom and MIL?) go out for pedicures or a nice lunch or something to relax before the baby comes?

dufferoo

"Hey that's really sweet of you, but I think we just want to be a little more low-key since it's our second kid."

Jags8

Happy_Yahoo_Personaler said:

"SIL, I really appreciate the offer, but I would prefer not to have a second shower.  We still have everything from our first baby, and would like to keep this pregnancy a little more low-key.  It was a really nice gesture to offer to host one for us though."

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neverblushed

Just say no.  If someone surprises you with a 2nd shower, that's one thing, but you don't want to be seen as complicit in agreeing to a second shower in any way, shape, or form.  

Texasmomma13

I would decline the shower. If she really wants to host a party for you and you are ok with it, maybe a meet the baby party later.