shower after babies arrival - too late?

maribelleNS

Hi all - question on shower timing.

Two good friends have been planning to host my shower. Initially it was to be when I would have been 34 weeks along.

I ended up hospitalized 4 weeks prior, and with no sign of getting out before delivery so I asked my hostesses to hold on shower planning and not send invites etc. My twins then came 7 weeks early. Since we didn't know how long they'd be in NICU, but it could be up to their due date (1st week of April). when asked about a shower date i suggested to the hostesses that they aim for mid-April so i could be relatively assured my girls would be out of NICU.

Now I'm questioning whether that's too late - given the babies will be almost 2 months old by then. Also, we received quite a few gifts when the girls were in hospital. If it's not too late for a shower, I'd still like to include those same people on the guest list as they are all close friends or family. I don't want them to feel like they are obligated to bring a gift since they've already given us something. Any suggestions on how to approach that?

maribelleNS

Thanks the girls are doing great and were actually discharged after just 17 days in NICU. I still don't plan to bring them to the shower though - too hard to keep people from touching them

jf198400

I think under the circumstances, it's perfectly fine to have the shower and include everyone even those who have already brought gifts. I know if it was a close friend of mine I would be more than happy to come and bring another little gift. Even people who have their shower before the baby comes often get gifts when the baby is born.

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