One of my friends did this. She called it a shower but it wasn't like any shower I had ever been to.
It was a co-ed BBQ party/shower that did not mention a registry on the invites, nor did it indicate the desire for gifts, but was more about celebrating their rainbow baby. Granted, we all brought gifts, but gifts were never mentioned by my friend at any point. So I guess it was more of a party than a technical shower.
Why host your own shower? Is there not someone who has volunteered? No close friend(s), no mom, no sister/sister-in-law? No annoying neighbor who sees this as an opportunity to be the center of attention? Etc.
I would find it awkward because it would be so... sad.
BUT, if there were "appropriate" individuals in the MTB's life (meaning, people who typically step up to host such things), and she still hosted her own, I would assume she was a control freak. So, awkward because I would be annoyed.
It's not the norm. But your you and they're them so do what you want lady
No. No. No.
But I guess it's to be expected coming from the dude who posted bragging about all the gifts he got. LOL. It's too bad nobody got you a book on etiquette.
Go away
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I am so relieved to hear that I wasn't crazy for being offended by an invite to a co-worker's self-hosted baby shower!
The MTB sent FB invites and made a post on her wall of 2 different invite versions - both with the registries prominently displayed.
The second version of the invite asked for books instead of cards, which I also found tacky, as she specified "your favorite childhood book" which is not going to be a cheapie, but a $10-20 classic book at Barnes & Noble or something - not to mention that I was raised to treat the personal message of the card as the most important part of a gift, so saying straight out that she doesn't care about that just sounds rude to me.
I felt so uncomfortable about how she had humiliated herself or "lost face" by hosting her won shower, that I could not bring myself to RSVP(hey, it was a mass FB invite anyway!), thinking it was kinder to pretend it never happened and she must be regretting it or something?? I just honestly could not imagine someone doing this.
The icing on the cake was that she sought me out Monday morning (it had been a Sunday night Super Bowl shower) to say she was so worried I was offended that she must have forgotten to invite me since I didn't come or RSVP (she definitely wasn't worried, just wanted to point out that it was rude of ME not to RSVP I guess).
In retrospect, I guess it was a bit of an etiquette breach not to RSVP to her mass FB invite, but I honestly could not fathom the embarrassment of acknowledging her self-hosting invite!
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One of my friends did this. She called it a shower but it wasn't like any shower I had ever been to.
It was a co-ed BBQ party/shower that did not mention a registry on the invites, nor did it indicate the desire for gifts, but was more about celebrating their rainbow baby. Granted, we all brought gifts, but gifts were never mentioned by my friend at any point. So I guess it was more of a party than a technical shower.
That's why you don't throw these kinds of parties for yourself. Because people feel obliged to bring a gift.
Well we all know how scared shitless people are of committing a social faux pas. They just wanted to be extra careful so they didn't seem tacky.
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One of my friends did this. She called it a shower but it wasn't like any shower I had ever been to.
It was a co-ed BBQ party/shower that did not mention a registry on the invites, nor did it indicate the desire for gifts, but was more about celebrating their rainbow baby. Granted, we all brought gifts, but gifts were never mentioned by my friend at any point. So I guess it was more of a party than a technical shower.
ITS A GIRL!
A LOT THAT MOST DADS WOULD LAUGH AT ME FOR!
HAVING OUR BABY ABROAD.
military family
Go away
ITS A GIRL!
A LOT THAT MOST DADS WOULD LAUGH AT ME FOR!
HAVING OUR BABY ABROAD.
military family
This (and the OP) is sauteed in wrong sauce.
4/25/14 12:41am