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Rant - "Come on, baby!" at 38 weeks

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My HS friend who is now pregnant keeps posting things on Facebook like walking on the treadmill and other things to try to make the baby come with comments like, "Come on, baby!" "Hoping baby will decide to come tonight." "Hoping she will make her exit."

She is only 38 weeks pregnant! I want to tell her to cool it because maybe the baby wants to stay in a little longer.

I am unsympathetic because I never really reached a point in my pregnancy where I was really uncomfortable. I don't know. That girl's SIL also had a baby at 24 weeks, and the baby is holding on for dear life. It seems insensitive to me that she is wanting the baby to come any day now when she's only 38 weeks. Maybe there are factors I don't know about, and I know I should MMOB (which is why I'm not commenting IRL). Am I the only one who gets annoyed when people keep saying they want the baby to hurry up and come out, but they haven't even reached their due date?
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  • Yeah, thats annoying.
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  • winecastle14winecastle14 member
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    That annoys me too. I may have been guilty of thinking to myself that I wouldn't have minded if O came a little early, but I do find it insensitive to say that on FB, especially given her SIL's situation.

    I was very uncomfortable the last few weeks (was a week late), and I get being over being pregnant, but the baby will come when it is ready.
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  • Yeah, it's annoying. Though I had an easy pregnancy, too, all the way to 42 weeks. I did develop PUPPS around 39 weeks, but it was mild compared to many. 

    But like @bearsbearsbears said, it's mostly insensitive to the SIL with a super-early premie. Not cool.



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  • I don't think it's that bad to be ready to have a baby at 38 weeks, though I can see how it would annoy the ever-loving shit out of someone who was overdue. In fact, were I not on the bump, I wouldn't even be slightly aware that saying "come on, baby" at 38 weeks is side-eye worthy.

    That being said, I had to be induced at 38 weeks because of low fluids, and I bawled my face off because I thought I had 2 more weeks and wasn't ready yet. I'm sure the doctor thought I was a bit of a nut job. 



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  • I may roll my eyes at the constant complaining but it's no big deal. Some people really do suffer through pregnancy and some people really just want to move on to the baby stage. If her baby was born at 38 weeks spontaneously no one would bat an eye or say OMG too early! Yeah, maybe keep it quiet for her SIL's sake but obviously that's not her style. Let it go. Or let her go. HS friend on FB, doesn't seem like you're that attached.

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  • I just think that the constant "ready to be done being pregnant" updates are annoying. I am not judging... just think it's annoying.

    Also, for her specific situation, I do find it insensitive because of her SIL.

    I don't like when I see anyone complaining over normal pregnancy problems though because I feel bad for the people reading it that are struggling to conceive.
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    JFC, she's 38 weeks, not 30. If she had been downing castor oil for the last week, I'd judge that. Typing things on FB isn't going to change things. Even if she is walking, ball rolling, etc, it's not going to do anything if baby isn't ready. The baby could come any day now. 


    Don't hide, unfriend. You clearly don't like her. You'll probably be up her ass if she goes past due too. She doesn't have to embrace being uncomfortable because you and her SIL didn't get to. Only one being an insensitive ass is you.


    Wow, tell me how you really feel.

    I do think it's insemtive because her SIL probably would have done anything to let the baby stay in a little longer, and here she is 2 weeks before her due date complaining that her (presumably) healthy baby needs to come out. Plus, maybe I'm sensitive because of my own struggles with TTC. I'd love to be pregnant and uncomfortable right now. I'm sure I'm projecting.

    Whatever, I do like her, and I'm not going to hide or unfriend her because most of her updates are not this annoying.

  • Sometimes I get prickly when people I know hit 37 weeks and flip about the baby needing to come out because of my own preemie expireience.This woman is 38 weeks and maybe she has had a difficult pregnancy. I don't judge this.

    Personally, I want to actually hit my due date. Just to cook the baby beyond any doubt and to be able to say I did it.
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  • I had a fairly easy pregnancy and I was uncomfortable at 38 weeks. Starting at 19 weeks my hips would hurt so bad I would cry and forget sleeping.

    While I may feel different if it was me having issues conceiving or with a premie just because someone complains about pregnancy or is ready to give birth doesn't mean they don't hurt for your struggle.


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  • I really don't understand pain olympics. I have HG and have to get shots every week to keep this baby in there. I mentioned one comment at work that I was just tired of going to the doctor every week and vomiting nonstop. They took the opportunity to let me know that others would just be happy to be pregnant and that I shouldn't have conceived again because of the journey with Oliver. I wanted to back hand him.

    OP, don't make people want to back hand you. She is allowed to complain once in a while and it has nothing to do with anyone else, including her SIL. It especially does not concern you.
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  • go ahead, get ready to flame me.
    I would waaayyy rather have my baby at 38 weeks than 42 weeks. its considered full term, and it starts to get stressful on baby when it gets so tight in there, and it is certainly more stressful on the way out. 

    and unless you are super involved with the relation ship between the poster and the SIL, I'm not sure how you can compare the two situations.  Now personally, I would never post anything regarding pregnancy on facebook, I don't find it an appropriate venue.

    also over pregnancy at 19 weeks.  
  • go ahead, get ready to flame me.
    I would waaayyy rather have my baby at 38 weeks than 42 weeks. its considered full term, and it starts to get stressful on baby when it gets so tight in there, and it is certainly more stressful on the way out. 

    This is not supported by science.  Science is important.  Learn science.
    ok I should have said if you have a big baby it can be stressful. I have learned science. 
  • go ahead, get ready to flame me.
    I would waaayyy rather have my baby at 38 weeks than 42 weeks. its considered full term, and it starts to get stressful on baby when it gets so tight in there, and it is certainly more stressful on the way out. 

    This is not supported by science.  Science is important.  Learn science.
    ok I should have said if you have a big baby it can be stressful. I have learned science. 
    also, risk of meconium aspiration quadruples (in some studies) from 37-38 weeks to 41-42 weeks
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    now I just feel like you are arguing for the sake of arguing. I most certainly have "learned science" I believe we have read and taken different information from different studies, and perhaps have had different things told to us by doctors and nurses, perhaps midwives. 

    I didn't come here to start a fight about learning science. I have two undergraduate degrees and a masters in science, not that this is relevant to our argument as they aren't in health care, but i know my way around a study.
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    I am not trying to compete in the pain Olympics. I know my issues are minor compared to some. I am just saying that I am annoyed by her 3 updates in a 24 hour period about getting the baby out, and I'm admitting that part of the reason why I'm annoyed is me and not her. I ignored it on FB. Maybe I should just go through these feelings in my head like a normal person and then keep them to myself rather than posting it on TB. I just wanted to get some other perspectives, which clearly you all have.
  • I'm having flashbacks of "You should be happy your kid has diarrhea because MINE HAS CANCER."
    That was some hilarious shit, yo.

    She was the queen of the Pain Olympics.  

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  • I am amused when I see people on Facebook who say things like this at 38 weeks, because they could have another 4 weeks of pregnancy provided that they are having a healthy pregnancy, and baby doesn't want to exit.  

    If they are truely in pain, or have had complications, it's understandable.  But if I know they are just impatient, it's funny.

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  • At 38 weeks I'd already been in active labor for nearly 3 weeks so I get the "come on baby!" sentiment. I was out of my head at that point.

    But posting that on FB is pretty insensitive, and slightly clueless. 38 weekers wind up in the NICU, too.
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  • I'm having flashbacks of "You should be happy your kid has diarrhea because MINE HAS CANCER."
    That was some hilarious shit, yo.

    She was the queen of the Pain Olympics.  
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  • At 38 weeks I'd already been in active labor for nearly 3 weeks so I get the "come on baby!" sentiment. I was out of my head at that point.

    But posting that on FB is pretty insensitive, and slightly clueless. 38 weekers wind up in the NICU, too.
    Wait.  WHAT?

     

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  • pobrecita said:
    At 38 weeks I'd already been in active labor for nearly 3 weeks so I get the "come on baby!" sentiment. I was out of my head at that point.


    3 weeks of active labor? What is happening in this thread?!
    I went into labor at 35w,4d. Admitted to the hospital contracting every 3 minutes and 4cm dilated at ~5pm. By 8pm I was at 7cm, contracting every 2 min. And then labor fizzled (sort of) and I stayed at ctx every 10 min and 6cm dilated til 38w4d when my water broke. Super fun.
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  • pobrecita said:
    At 38 weeks I'd already been in active labor for nearly 3 weeks so I get the "come on baby!" sentiment. I was out of my head at that point.


    3 weeks of active labor? What is happening in this thread?!
    I went into labor at 35w,4d. Admitted to the hospital contracting every 3 minutes and 4cm dilated at ~5pm. By 8pm I was at 7cm, contracting every 2 min. And then labor fizzled (sort of) and I stayed at ctx every 10 min and 6cm dilated til 38w4d when my water broke. Super fun.

    So you un-dialated?  I didn't even know that was possible?

     

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  • I'm missing what is insensitive about her being done?


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  • pobrecita said:
    At 38 weeks I'd already been in active labor for nearly 3 weeks so I get the "come on baby!" sentiment. I was out of my head at that point.


    3 weeks of active labor? What is happening in this thread?!
    I went into labor at 35w,4d. Admitted to the hospital contracting every 3 minutes and 4cm dilated at ~5pm. By 8pm I was at 7cm, contracting every 2 min. And then labor fizzled (sort of) and I stayed at ctx every 10 min and 6cm dilated til 38w4d when my water broke. Super fun.

    So you un-dialated?  I didn't even know that was possible?
    Yup, I did. Totally possible.
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  • pobrecita said:
    pobrecita said:
    At 38 weeks I'd already been in active labor for nearly 3 weeks so I get the "come on baby!" sentiment. I was out of my head at that point.


    3 weeks of active labor? What is happening in this thread?!
    I went into labor at 35w,4d. Admitted to the hospital contracting every 3 minutes and 4cm dilated at ~5pm. By 8pm I was at 7cm, contracting every 2 min. And then labor fizzled (sort of) and I stayed at ctx every 10 min and 6cm dilated til 38w4d when my water broke. Super fun.
    Well that sounds freaking awful.
    Yeah, I was seriously going nuts. Ctx didn't ever hurt but they were enough to wake me up through most of them so I didn't sleep much.

    I wound up with only an hour and 11 minutes of real labor (not sure what to call it, lol) and a really easy birth even with pit, though, so there's that.
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  • @debatethis-- that sounds horrible! 

     

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  • I really don't understand pain olympics. I have HG and have to get shots every week to keep this baby in there. I mentioned one comment at work that I was just tired of going to the doctor every week and vomiting nonstop. They took the opportunity to let me know that others would just be happy to be pregnant and that I shouldn't have conceived again because of the journey with Oliver. I wanted to back hand him.

    OP, don't make people want to back hand you. She is allowed to complain once in a while and it has nothing to do with anyone else, including her SIL. It especially does not concern you.
    If you have HG, make use of it. Throw up on the asswipes who tell you not to complain.
    I should do that. My poor coworkers have watched me vomit way too much. I started to crack jokes because some where feeling bad for me.
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    I really don't understand pain olympics. I have HG and have to get shots every week to keep this baby in there. I mentioned one comment at work that I was just tired of going to the doctor every week and vomiting nonstop. They took the opportunity to let me know that others would just be happy to be pregnant and that I shouldn't have conceived again because of the journey with Oliver. I wanted to back hand him.

    OP, don't make people want to back hand you. She is allowed to complain once in a while and it has nothing to do with anyone else, including her SIL. It especially does not concern you.

    If you have HG, make use of it. Throw up on the asswipes who tell you not to complain.

    I should do that. My poor coworkers have watched me vomit way too much. I started to crack jokes because some where feeling bad for me.





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  • I'm missing what is insensitive about her being done?

    Because other people has preemies and apparently if they carried to 38 weeks instead of having a preemie, they would love being super pregnant and never, ever complain about anything ever or hope that baby comes on it's own once they get into a range that is considered to be safe for labor to start.




    Got it. So no pregnant woman ever should bitch because you should smile through it all because someone else would love to be there. Fuck the fact that a baby is pushing on your ribs headbutting your pelvis and you haven't slept in days or ate because of the heartburn/full feeling.

    Fyi the woman I've known who have complained the most during pregnancy were the ones who had issues conceiving. Just because someone is uncomfortable doesn't mean she doesn't feel blessed.


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  • My anecdote:
    I was 384d on a Friday when my contractions started. They were bad enough to take my breath away, but 20 min apart. I bitched to everyone. When l&d sent me home Sunday and told me to rest as I still had time left I cried. I walked my happy ass around our neighborhood all day Monday because I was getting her out. She was born on Tuesday.


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  • I am amused when I see people on Facebook who say things like this at 38 weeks, because they could have another 4 weeks of pregnancy provided that they are having a healthy pregnancy, and baby doesn't want to exit.  

    If they are truely in pain, or have had complications, it's understandable.  But if I know they are just impatient, it's funny.

    I have better things to do than hate on people I consider to be friends for being hopeful that all is well and baby is ready to come at 38 weeks instead of going another 3-4 weeks.


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  • lildevil968lildevil968 member
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    After 2 high risk pregnancies, I can see being over pregnancy at 38 wks. I was over it with DD at about 25 wks, and with DS at 21 wks. That doesn't mean I was ready for the baby to be here, I was just tired of being in pain, the constant dr visits, the 6 times a day finger pricks, and the monthly 3 hour glucose tests with DS.

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  • Had a FB friend that once she hit 36 weeks, would post a status about wanting baby to come that day. Everyday I wanted to comment that baby would come when she was ready, but I bit my tongue. Three plus weeks of these annoying statuses and she went to an appointment during her 39th week and there was no heartbeat. I was never so glad I had kept my mouth shut and didn't tell her baby was safest on the inside, like I wanted.
  • I dont see why this would get you so up in arms TBH. My water broke and I had my DS at 37w 4d..and although I never really got to the point of being super uncomfortable, I'm not gonna judge someone who's 38 weeks along and is feeling that way. Like others have said...she's 38 weeks along, not 30.

    Im team not judging. Aint got time for that shit.
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