I'm due early July with our first child & I've always known that there'd be a possibility of two showers for me (one in my home state with my family/friends and then one in my current city with dh's family). My mother has already offered to host a shower for me in May, so I've already bought plain tickets and everything.
Now nobody in dh family has formally offered to throw me a shower (I was prepared for this happening & I am ok with not having a shower if nobody offers). But lately family members have asked either me or dh if someone is already throwing me a shower. There was even one family memer who asked "are we supposed to throw her a shower?" as if bc I am family they are obligated to throw me one.
Me & dh family have not always seen eye-to-eye or gotten along, but I try to be the bigger person & know that I would not say no to anyone offering.
My question is how do I respond if one more person asks me if someone is already throwing me a shower. I know that I can politely respond with "no nobody has offered", but do I follow it up with your more than welcome to if you like? I have this feeling that some of them feel obligated to throw me one & I'm not really ok being at a shower that was only thrown bc they don't want to look bad.
Re: How to respond to baby shower offers
Agree with pp. However I kind of feel like your DH's close family should be invited to your mom's shower. Especially his mother and any sisters. Even if they can't travel to attend it is nice to let them know that they are thought of and included.
Oscar born October 2011
Miscarriage at 8 weeks (August 2013)
DD due September 1, 2014
If anyone pushes and asks about in your area, just say "no shower is being planned that I know of". And leave it at that. DO NOT say "you can if you'd like". For being worried about people feeling obligated, that's exactly what that comment would do - make them feel obligated!