So, we started CIO tonight. DH has been going in and out of there for over an hour now. He's hysterical, only calmed down for a few minutes a little while ago but started up again. When can I say enoughs enough and put him back in bed with me? This is breaking my heart.
Also, what do I do for middle of the night wakings? I know there will be many!
I should read the books but I haven't had any time lately. Any advice?
Re: How long do I do this?
If he's not calming down AT ALL, and you've increased the intervals, then I think it ultimately comes down to what you're comfortable with. If it goes past 2 hours, I would probably stop and try again tomorrow.
As for MOTN, consistency is key. If you really want him to learn to sleep on his own, you'll probably need to do sleep training for those wake ups as well. It's ups to you if you want to go full out and now feed, or feed and then put back to bed while drowsy and let him figure out how to fall asleep on his own after that. You might actually be surprised and he may, in fact, not wake up as often at night as you think he will. When we started our sleep training S went from 4-5 wake ups a night to once, maybe twice that very night. I don't know if that was because she tired herself out so much or if she quickly learned how to put herself to sleep, but I was pleasantly surprised.
Good luck!