Did your DH stay with you at the hospital?

dmartin726

When you delivered your 2nd/3rd...

Just trying to see what others did...

LoriLee14

I am not there yet, but I will want him to. My parent's or his will keep little man, bring him up to the hospital or my husband go spend a few hours with him. But I will want him to spend the night.

I think.

Cherryblossoms07

DH stayed the first night and went home the following nights. Our neighbors watched DD.

penguingrrl

With my second he couldn't as I wasn't in a private room. With my third we felt it was better for him to be home with the girls so their routine would be closer to normal.

kcisthebombdotcom

Dd was born on a Tuesday. He took that day out of work. On Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he worked, took off an hour early to come spend a few hours at the hospital with dd and I, went and got ds from my parents and spent some time with him before he went to bed. He worked a half day on Friday and I got discharged that day. That meant his two week leave didn't start until that Monday when dd was nearly a week old and he was home until she was a day shy of three weeks home. I appreciated him at home longer than I would have at the hospital where dd slept the whole time and I had nurses to help.

jf198400

Yes DH stayed at the hospital with me. Dd stayed with my ILs. I'm sure you could manage by yourself if you Had to, but id certainly prefer to have him there. I think kids are perfectly fine to stay with their grandparents or other well known babysitter.

dmartin726

I'm just thinking because I am a section, it may be easier for me to have him there.  DD will be staying with a grandparent, and we are 2 hours from home.  Not like DH can sleep in his own bed, he would just stay with DD at his mothers.  

PhillyRN

DH did not stay with me for DS and I had a C-section. We are due in November and I will have a RCS. DH won't stay with me then either. We don't have any family nearby so DH will have to take care of DS. I was fine in the hospital by myself after my first c-section and I know I will be fine again.

barnwife

Well, we have homebirths. So yes, DH was with me. 

With LO2 and LO3, we had a relative come and stay for a few nights to care for the other LO(s) as necessary. I think J. and A. even went to that person' house for one night after S. was born. Is it bad that only 6 months later I can't remember?

Spin313

DD was born in the middle of the night/super early morning...so DH stayed until the afternoon, then went home to shower and get DS. The second night I was "alone" and he was home with DS.

sunnydays99

DS went to my parents house when I went into labor overnight, so dh obviously stayed with me then. I was in the hospital for one more night and dh went home to stay with DS. He would have been fine staying with my parents, but that's just how I wanted it. I didn't feel like I needed him there overnight really. I wanted things to be as normal as possible for DS.

mylittlesunshine

We lived about 15 minutes from the hospital and with DD2 my DH didn't stay with me. I had an uncomplicated vaginal birth and was only in the hospital for 1 night. I figured since I was feeling good post birth, that DH would get more sleep at home versus at the hospital.

tbmadeamistake

We're almost there as well, and right now the plan is for him to spend one night with me in the hospital and then stay home with C the other night/nights so that her routine can get back to normal.  I'm fine that, and so if he.  C will stay at my IL's the first night.  Of course, some of that depends on what time I give birth, but we'll roll with the punches as needed.

Andrewsgal

He will be with me during the day but not at night I see no reason for both of us to be tired and grouchy.

jesselayne8

MH stayed all 3 nights with me. He left in the afternoons to shower and change. My SIL kept DD at our house.

Arnegard

DH stayed there after #2 but not after #3.  His Mom had the kids both times.  I think the reason was that the floor was full and I was in a hospital bed.  He didn't want to sleep in a recliner.

Court0026

No, but we weren't even given the option.  His visiting hours started at 5 am and went until 10 pm.  No private rooms, so that was their rule.  Now they let you have your partner there if you don't have a roommate.  I would have sent him home to be with DS regardless, but with the first it would have been nice.  OH, and now they only do rooming in which is painful with  a c-section in the night.

meglew

Yes, DH stayed with me when DD2 was born.  DD1 was with my IL's and they brought her to visit us each day at the hospital.  DD1 was 5 when DD2 was born and was super used to their house and I think she saw it more as a vacation away from us.  :-)  We were only at the hospital for 2 nights and I did appreciate his support.

JENandJEH

dmartin726 said:

I'm just thinking because I am a section, it may be easier for me to have him there.  DD will be staying with a grandparent, and we are 2 hours from home.  Not like DH can sleep in his own bed, he would just stay with DD at his mothers.  

When DS2 was born (repeat C-section), if I wanted the baby to stay in the room with me, I had to have someone spend the night with me.  If it had been a vaginal birth, it wouldn't have mattered, the baby could room in whether someone stayed with me or not.  

That said, DH stayed with me both nights and my parents were with DS1 at our house.  

notkateanymore

Yep, I needed him. I wanted him to anyway, but I needed him with my rcs more than I though I would.

caybeh

I'm not there yet either, but I want DH to. I've already asked my parents to come up and take care of DS at our house.

joyfullyfound

DH didn't even stay the night with DD, so he wouldn't with #2 either, haha. We're planning a home birth, but if we do end up in the hospital for whatever reason I'll be sending him home for the night... To be with DD mostly, but also so he can get the rest he needs, shower, prep anything that needs it, etc. There's no use both of us being exhausted... When he went home for the night after DD was born, he came back the next day with a hot homemade breakfast, a bunch of goodies (snacks, small gifts, reading material, etc) for me, he'd tidied the house and got the last minute things ready, and he was showered and well rested.... it really made a difference! 

Mrs.Greg

When the babies were born, DH stayed with me during the day, left around 4pm. He went home and made dinner for himself and Lydia, gave her a bath and put her to bed. After she was in bed, he came back to the hospital overnight. My mom watched Lydia during the day and could have put her to bed for the night but I insisted DH went home so he could shower and stuff. It was only for 2 nights.

sschwege

Yes, vaginal birth 48 hour hospital stay.  I told DH he could go but he didn't want to.  DS wasn't even in the room with us for the first  1 1/2 days because he had breathing trouble, but DH stayed anyway.  

new+tothis

I think so. That's sad since it only happened a few months ago. DS was with his bio-dad that night. Had he been with us that night DH would have gone home to be with him and be there when he woke up.

mandymack

Yes and no. 

When I went into labor, we called our neighbors and very close friends that live a few doors down - it was 1:00AM! She came over and stayed with Emily while she slept. My mom flew in on the first flight at 6:30AM and took a cab to our house to relieve my neighbor and get Emily to school and keep her on her normal schedule.

I had Nolan at 4:00pm that afternoon. DH wanted to be home with Emily to do her dinner, bath, and bedtime routine AND had no interest in staying overnight at the hospital (I don't blame him!) being woken up all night long so, he drove home, gave my mom the car, and she came back to the hospital to meet Nolan and stay the night with me.

The next day, once Emily was off to school, my mom drove home and switched with DH again so he could spend the day with Nolan and I at the hospital and help check us out later that evening. 

dizzycooks

Yes, both times he stayed and I'd expect he would in the future. I'm glad he'd ones because he goes back to work as soon as we get home from the hospital so it's the most uninterrupted time he gets with the baby until he takes vacation time.

Disneygeek77

Yes he stayed with me with c-sections.  DD stayed with my mom when DS was born.

Personally, I liked having him there to keep me company and to help with moving around.   The hospital was only 20 minutes away so he did go home a few times to check on things.  

rockyrollgirl

Probably the first night, but not the whole time. I will most likely be there for 3 nights (RCS) and I don't think I could bring myself to ask MIL to watch DD that whole time when H can. I do not really need him to be there every night anyway.

irishgrl317

DH has stayed with me every time. My MIL was able to come early and stay for a week after both DS2 and DD2 were born. My mom stayed with is when ODD was born.

eaglesfan700

With DS he stayed the first couple nights post labor, but I sent him home the last night. With both DDs, I sent him home. DD1 was born in the afternoon and DS was with my brother and SIL. H stayed the first night and I sent him home for the 2nd. With DD2, I went into labor overnight and she was born early am. A neighbor came over to stay with the kids and he was with me through that. Then the kids went to my brother's. But I sent H home anyway both nights. We live 5 minutes from the hospital and I didn't need him.

blondegirl22

Yes, he stayed with me when DD2 was born. My mom stayed at home with DD1. He went home and did bath time and stories and came back after she went to sleep just to keep things kinda normal for her after all the excitement of her coming to the hospital.

rach10782

He didn't stay overnight with either of our kids.  He would have but I insisted that he go home and get a good nights sleep.  I had two uncomplicated vaginal births so there was nothing I needed his help with overnight.

bumpuser924057

He stayed with me in the hospital all four nights with DS.  With the twins, he and my mom did shifts so I always had someone with me at night.  I had one twin in the NICU and the other rooming in with me, so I was expected to trudge through the hallways of the hospital every 2-3 hours to try and nurse him, then nurse the other back in the room in between.  It was extremely helpful to have someone there who could stay with DD in the room while I made trips to the NICU.  

littlemermaid

He went home at bedtime to stay with our son who was 2.5 years old. 

AZ123

DH didn't spend the night with either babies. I had c/s and he would stay at the hospital from the morning until I kicked him out at 9 pm. I sent the babies to the nursery so I could sleep and the nurses brought them to me every 2 hours to nurse. DH went home to sleep in bed and so he was well rested when I came home from the hospital so he could help me (like the nurses did).  It worked well for us to not start off both being heavily sleep deprived!

LatteLady5

He stayed both nights when DD was born. He stayed at home with DD after DS was born. I didn't NEED him but I did miss him. I knew it was best for DD though. They both spent the entire 2 days at the hospital though. DD even took a nap there.

babywisher

He did stay with us the whole time. Ds stayed with my sister.

jlpev

He stayed both nights with ds who had breathing issues & I couldn't get up the first night after my csection. With dd (RCS) he stayed the first night but not the 2nd. I didn't need the help & I wanted one of us to get a good nights sleep