DH Business Trip

amberrrjade

DH has been offered this really cool trip for his job. It's a 7 day health immersion conference that cost 5000+ dollars. His work wants to send him and pay for it (hotel, flight, and food included). I know it's a great opportunity and it'll help him get a better position in the future but I can't help but be incredibly selfish and not want him to go. We've never been apart for more than a day and we have a 4 month old baby. I just don't want him to be so far, I keep having anxiety attacks over it. I keep thinking crazy things like what if he likes being without me for so long and decides to leave me? I know I'm pretty crazy but that's just how my mind works. And no, I can't go with him because 1. we can't afford that and 2. I have classes right now. What am I going to do without him for a week? How do you ladies, who have husbands that leave, do it?

mwhipple77

I'm used to the travelling DH does, so it's a little different.  It's part of his job, so I know it's something we had to figure out.  His first trip after E was born was for 4 nights, he went to West Virginia in February and I was in Kansas.  I was paranoid something would happen and it would take him forever to get home.  The first night I was super stressed, wondering how I would get anything done by myself.  After the first night, things were fine.  We had no problems.  His company is talking about sending him to CA for 2 weeks, they've been talking about it since I was pregnant, so who knows if it will happen. Two weeks is a long time to be by myself with her, so I'll probably have my mom come help me out on the weekend.

And I don't think you're crazy.  My mind works the same way with the worry.  I trust my DH, but we've had issues in the past, so I let him know my (insecure) worries.

None of that really helps, but I wanted to let you know you aren't alone with your concerns.

dugger116

Honestly, I enjoy when my husband goes on short business trips. It gives me time to set my own agenda and do whatever I want. It is good and healthy to have time apart in my opinion. When he's gone I make all my fav foods that he hates, enjoy hogging the tv, and all the extra space in bed.

I know it can be hard at first, but what also helps me get through it is knowing that he is doing it to get ahead at work and that is beneficial to our family in the long run, so he needs my support.

And in most cases absense makes the heart grow fonder, so I doubt he'd realize he likes being without you

fluttergirlmoonchild79

Like Sarah - I actually enjoy DH being gone.  I can eat what I want for dinner and watch whatever I want.  DH has never been gone while having a kid but other than being the only one to get up in the middle of the night I wouldn't think it would be all that different

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DH and I always say we are homesick when we aren't with each other. Like even the one of us that is home feels homesick All I can offer is on the bright side it will be really exciting when he comes home because you will have missed each other so much!

mskatiep

Every 6 weeks my SO goes away for school for a week. We are currently in our 3rd week apart since Layla was born. I'm in the camp of it is kinda nice to be apart. Her and I manage just fine, and it is nice to just do what I want for a little bit. He misses us a lot though, and it is always so nice to welcome him home. I make one of his favorite meals, we cuddle as a family, and just chill out together.

dobrydney

I know this isn't really what you asked....  But...maybe you could have a friend or two over to hang out while you're alone?  You could have like a girls week and do fun stuff with the baby.  I know you said you have school, but that's not ALLLL the time right?  That may help take your mind off of DH being gone and give you something to look forward to.

3Dewdrops

I majorly wig out beforehand but then when he's actually gone it's NBD.

sarenu1

It will go by so fast you'll be amazed.

The only time I really miss my husband is at night, I have a hard time falling asleep when he's not home.

Skype and FaceTime when you can.

earlgreygirl

My husband has to travel all the time for work....we hate it but we need the money and it has to be done!  My husband was gone for two weeks, back for one, and gone for another week.....it really sucks but what can ya do?  We have a 3 month old.  

bglovesbabyk

I love him, but I love when he's gone. It reminds me of my single days when I could not shower or get out of my pjs for 2 days if I didn't want to. It's good to remember that you can live without them.

sands42

My husbands been overseas for work since the day after Christmas and before that he had been gone since May. I know it's hard when you aren't used to being apart but you just have to keep yourself busy. Spending time with other people is super helpful.

I pretty much agree with what everyone else has said. You can doooo it!