unwanted nicknames

catch5n

I have announced our baby's name, Charlotte, which I love and took DH and I forever to come up with. Now people are asking if we are calling her Charlie and some close friends and family have started calling her that. I'm not a huge nick name fan and feel like if I wanted to name her Charlie I would have. How do I get this across without being totally rude? How have others dealt with unwanted nicknames??

catch5n

Thanks for the reassurance! This is what I have been doing. I just hope people get it before she arrives! 

NerdyLucy

Agree with pps. 

Or if you're feeling snarky...

Them: "How's Charlie?" 

 You: "Who the hell is Charlie?"

 Them: "Your daughter." 

 You: "Oh, you must mean Charlotte. I have no daughter named Charlie."

Jags8

Yep, exactly what @Joy2611 said!

@2013mommy -I have Henry picked out for a future boy name, in part because I thought there were no nicknames that could come from it. Then I found out "Hank" is a nn. Ugh. I will definitely be correcting people if they call him Hank!

NerdyLucy

Jags8 said:

Yep, exactly what @Joy2611 said! @2013mommy -I have Henry picked out for a future boy name, in part because I thought there were no nicknames that could come from it. Then I found out "Hank" is a nn. Ugh. I will definitely be correcting people if they call him Hank!

Prince Harry is actually Henry. I dislike both Hank and Harry as nn for Henry, since I find lovely on its own. 

I'm the same way about most nn for Margaret. 

emmy236

See I'm the opposite, I don't care if people want to call my kid a NN. I feel like it's a term of endearment not the end of the world. Plus NN will develop no matter how hard you fight it. Just seems like a ridiculous thing to get that worked up over. Once our baby came, I didn't care who you were or what you called him as long as you held him long enough for me to pee.

Dr.Loretta

They may drop it once she's here. My mom wanted to give my DD a nickname, and then immediately stopped as soon as she was a real person.

ELauren88

Agree with PP's, never stop correcting them. It's not rude to correct them if they're not using her name.

FWIW - I have a friend who used the name Charlotte with her DD as well. The NN craze only last a month or two before people let it go.

MeganM0710

I feel the same way about nn's. My daughter is Kherington and people kept calling her Kerry before she was born. Yeah no not happening. I just kept saying her name is Kherington. And it stuck. Even if she gets a natural nickname based on who she is that's different but I in no way want her to be called Kerry. I'm Megan not meg. Same with my siblings. My mother never used nicknames with us and it just followed suit throughout our lives.

ConversationFear

You simply tell people what you said - "Her name is Charlotte. If we wanted to name her Charlie we would have." This is not something you need to worry being rude about. It's your child's name. I have known several ladies (my mother included) who were not on the NN bandwagon for their children and they made no bones letting other people know it either.

Vangiejo

You should draw the line now. My SIL named her DD Charlotte, then it went to Charlie, then it went to Chuck, and now they call her Chuckles.

zaramarie81

Our son's name is Nathaniel. We want him to go by Nathaniel at least until he decides otherwise when he is older. Family, friends, even strangers have tried to turn him into "Nate" or "Nathan." I just kept repeating Nathaniel and finally it stuck (and at 18 months he only responds to his full name because that's what I call him all day long). With one particularly stubborn relative, I finally said outright, "Yes, Nate is a nice nickname for Nathaniel. If *he* likes it when he is older, *he* can decide to go by it." This relative hasn't called him "Nate" since (it was also nice that other relatives were present for that comment because it seems to have settled the matter finally). 

DanandVan

I think you can correct family members
and friends, but my dd Charlotte gets called Char by random people all the time (like her Sunday school teacher or her friends at school). Can't control everyone!