would the initials B.J. make you not use a name?

TUGOsQueen

E The most logical choice for our first son and last child would be Bradley Joseph to honor my family and his. Bradley is my maiden name and both of m brothers passed leaving no one to carry on the last name. Joseph is husband's middle name and both of us have a favorite grandfather named Joe.
Should I just use it or forget it because of the initials?

NerdyLucy

I love Bradley Joseph. I'd use it regardless of the initials. I don't find it to be that much if a deterrent.

brooklynesque

I wouldn't let that stop me and wouldn't be too worried about it. Unless you call him BJ few people will be aware of his middle initial anyway.

Jags8

I wouldn't do it. But that's me.

Mommymorticia

It wouldn't bother me if I loved the name and felt it was perfect.

==N==

Great name. Wouldn't bother me at all.

LyndseylovesHugh

It would bother me if it was the first and last name, but BJ as a first/middle name is fine.

CitrusSwallowtail

hischelseababy said:

Nope. I woent to high school with a guy who went by BJ as a nn. He never cared and I never heard anybody crack any jokes about it.

I went to school with a BJ as well and no one made jokes.

Lisa&Mark

We have a Bronson James and BJ has never been an issue...

rosemeggie

Mommymorticia said:

It wouldn't bother me if I loved the name and felt it was perfect.

I agree. One of my best friend in high school's initials were BJ, first name and last name, she was teased a little but said it never really bothered her that much. She and all three of her siblings had those initials. 

queenbone

Yes, I would avoid BJ

Mnerani

no

ErinandScott

Since the J is from his middle name it would not bother me. Our last names starts with a J so first names starting with a B are out for us. With the middle namebeimf the J I would go for it.

lexusolsen

We are considering Benjamin too and are debating using john as a middle name. I prefer it over David but as a high school teacher I can only imagine the teasing.

NMW071000

Go for it! I have several students who opt to go by "BJ" and no one blinks an eye. Not a big deal!

TUGOsQueen

lexusolsen said:

We are considering Benjamin too and are debating using john as a middle name. I prefer it over David but as a high school teacher I can only imagine the teasing.

I teach High School also so maybe that is why I over think this. One of my daughter's monogram is tHc and they thought it was hysterical when they saw a pic of her with a jacket on and her monogram.

1A

hischelseababy said:

Nope. I went to high school with a guy who went by BJ as a nn. He never cared and I never heard anybody crack any jokes about it.

Same here.

lexusolsen

TUGOsQueen said:

lexusolsen said:

We are considering Benjamin too and are debating using john as a middle name. I prefer it over David but as a high school teacher I can only imagine the teasing.

I teach High School also so maybe that is why I over think this. One of my daughter's monogram is tHc and they thought it was hysterical when they saw a pic of her with a jacket on and her monogram.


Yeah I just can't get past it. We want to honor my dad with ds' middle name. My grandmother chose John after JFK but just chose David because it sounded good. It is making me reconsider Benjamin, which has been on the top of our list the whole time. Naming boys is difficult.

brooksidebride

Especially because it's first and middle, it's fine and wouldn't bother me. I would take pause if it was direst and last... But ultimately probably decide it was fine because of the famiy significance in your names.

It's a great name, by the way.

CarynJeanG

My sons name is Bryce Jacob. I personally have known a lot of boys with the nn name BJ and never got teased for it. I won't be nn him BJ but if he chooses to go by it then that's his choice.

Brandiewine11

Lurker here...

As someone who grew up with the initials BJ (first & last) honestly it was not a big deal. I think someone maybe tried to make a joke of it a couple of times, but no one else cared and it wasn't a big deal. If I ever had to put my initials on anything (a form or whatever) I always used first/middle/last just as personal preference, but it was no big deal. For a first/middle I can't see it ever being an issue.

Now my initials are BS....I get way more jokes about that, and it's just funny so I don't care.

cmw&tdm

I wouldn't be concerned in the least with BJ as a first and middle for a boy. I know a couple BJs (that's what they go by), and I don't think it has ever been an issue. I love Bradley in the first name slot with it being your maiden.

TUGOsQueen

Brandiewine11 said:

Lurker here...

As someone who grew up with the initials BJ (first & last) honestly it was not a big deal. I think someone maybe tried to make a joke of it a couple of times, but no one else cared and it wasn't a big deal. If I ever had to put my initials on anything (a form or whatever) I always used first/middle/last just as personal preference, but it was no big deal. For a first/middle I can't see it ever being an issue.

Now my initials are BS....I get way more jokes about that, and it's just funny so I don't care.

Awesome. My second name choice would give initials BS!

saham07

Use it! It is no big deal!

allardr

I"ve never written just my FN & MN initials and very few people even know my MN. I wouldn't worry. 

I have a friend who hated his first name and chose to go by BJ his entire life and I went to school with him for high school and never heard any jokes...I'm sure he got a few but nothing big.

happylady07

CitrusSwallowtail said:

hischelseababy said:

Nope. I woent to high school with a guy who went by BJ as a nn. He never cared and I never heard anybody crack any jokes about it.

I went to school with a BJ as well and no one made jokes.

Same here. Never heard any remarks. It wasn't a big deal.

tealowl

I knew a few BJ's and I never heard much joking about it. I'm sure every so often they would get an "lolollol blowjob loll" from someone, but no big deal.

I have wicked humor, so I would be one to call my kid The Beej if they had BJ initials. I'm just awful.

ConversationFear

Bradley Joseph is fine. I would't call him BJ though.

velvethearts

My mom's initials are BJ and I never heard any comments or associations.  Wouldn't bother me.

Dr.Loretta

Considering my initials are BJ, and I survived just fine, I'd use the names. They have importance to you, and it's really not that big a deal, I promise

rooftop

maybe switch it so its joseph bradley instead?

Cricket Bug

If there is any chance of him going by his FN/MN initials, I wouldn't do it.

brookerachelej

Brandiewine11 said:

Lurker here...

As someone who grew up with the initials BJ (first & last) honestly it was not a big deal. I think someone maybe tried to make a joke of it a couple of times, but no one else cared and it wasn't a big deal. If I ever had to put my initials on anything (a form or whatever) I always used first/middle/last just as personal preference, but it was no big deal. For a first/middle I can't see it ever being an issue.

Now my initials are BS....I get way more jokes about that, and it's just funny so I don't care.

Same here, my brother and I both have/had the initials B.J. Whenever I had to initial anything before I got married, I always included my middle initial as well. It's not that big of a deal at all. If I loved a name, I wouldn't let it keep me from using it.