I am writing this at the risk of sounding like "that" mom. You know, the hyper-sensitive, "My precious angel is a special snowflake who deserves you to treat him like a prince blah blah blah" mom… but I promise, I'm not. Or at least try not to be lol
Anyway, I took DS to the urologist today for a follow up ultrasound on his kidneys to make sure the fluid had cleared out. (It did - hooray!). I had to wake him up from his only nap at daycare after only sleeping about 30 minutes - vs. the ~2 hours he usually sleeps - to take him to the appointment. So, suffice to say, after a few minutes of laying on his back, which he's generally not a fan of anyway, and being mashed on with the ultrasound whatever-its-called, he started getting fussy. Which then turned to crying with actual tears. Around 11 months he started having these little dramatic fits, as he's figuring out that he can take purposive action to demonstrate he's frustrated or unhappy about something, so that's basically what he was doing. I wouldn't say the ultrasound tech was really rude per se, but he was sort of mocking DS' fusses a bit and made a few comments like, "Well, you're just not getting your way" and "Such attitude!" and it kind of irritated me. I struggle with being a gentle parent who focuses on trying to connect and empathize rather than be dismissive and punitive, and having this man talking that way to/about DS was kind of harshing my vibes (lol) while already dealing with a fussypants.
I guess if DS were older and if the man was a little more aggressive in what he was saying, I probably would have felt it necessary to say something to him, but I mostly just tried to ignore him and counter with telling DS, "I know, it's so frustrating!" and "I'm sorry you're frustrated, we're almost done" and things like that.
Am I being whiney by even complaining, or would you be bothered a bit, too? In situations that are a little more extreme, especially with kids who can understand what is being said around them, how do you handle people who are disrespectful to them?