1st Trimester

My husband changed the rules on me!

We have always said that we would not find out what our baby was at U/S. 

We just found out that his cousins are both expecting. So there will be 3 babies in 4 weeks!  At dinner tonight, the cousins both said they are going to find out.  Now my husband says he wants to know. He is serious and I am ticked. I don't think I want to know and I don't want to feel pressure to find out.  He is serious and I am ticked!  Sorry just had to vent for a few.

Re: My husband changed the rules on me!

  • i hear you! dh really wants to know.....i would like a surprise.  guess we'll cross that bridge when we come to it!
  • We decided that we would actually find out in advance. But neither one of us cares what we are having as long as it is healthy! We are still going to do gender nutural things like bedding and such since we do plan on trying for more in the future.
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    i hear you! dh really wants to know.....i would like a surprise.  guess we'll cross that bridge when we come to it!

     

    I want to not get mad too and think that too, that we will wait and see.  But he is so focused on it and if his cousins are there reminding him it is going to be an uphill struggle.  Yikes, glad to know I am not alone in this struggle.:) 

  • Last year I was pregnant with two of my sisters.  Only one of us found out what we were having.  Myself and my other sister did not.  I must admit for me between the two of them I was more excited for the one that didn't find out because we didn't have any idea WHO was coming!  Both were exciting...but there is an extra thrill.  I also did not find out for my first and won't be finding out for this one either.  It's so much more exciting this way! 

    Don't get me wrong it gets stressful near the end when the whole family is hounding you to find out and you just want to buy boy or girl stuff already!  But it is SOOO worth it to hear "It's a __!"  So worth it.

  • I agree with Josie the exrta thrill in the deliveryroom is priceless. I would be frusturated with DH as well, luckily we are on the same page about this. However I think if I pushed he would agree to find out, but i really want the surprise.
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  • Thanks girls!  I read him the responses and he is at least "thinking about" it now.  I am such a planner and this not wanting to know is so not me.  But I think it is just once in a life time!
  • I have a friend in the same position as you, and he found out and didn't tell her. She found out at the birth. It was nice that he kept if from her, although it was very hard for all of the rest of us.:)
  • Luckily you still have quite a bit of time before you have to make a decision. That said, I don't think that you should let other people's decision of finding out affect your own. We have good friends who are due 6 weeks before us, they aren't finding out the sex or revealing names while we find out and told everyone our baby boy's name! I say stick to your guns and hopefully DH will come around and agree with you.
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  • You still have time to talk to him and maybe get him to change his mind and see your point of view.

    DS was a surprise as will be #2 - it was fun finding out that day...especially, while I was pushing and my MW was telling me: "I see his or her hair, c'mon, PUSH!!" LOL.

  • aww there is definitely time to hash it out- i just found out dh does not want to know the sex and i have always wanted to know right away! so this put a damper in my christmas (when i found out lol) but in any case- i will find out and keep it to myself if it comes down to that- i want to respect his wishes but i don't want to give in on what i want either- it's only fair- why not have it both ways?

  • i should add too, that i wasn't planning on telling anyone else- wanted it to be our secret until birth- wasn't even going to tell immediate familiy- so it will be easy to keep from dh - plus he works all of the time and doesn't go to the doc appts typically with me- so that will help!
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