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AW: Update after visit to my (soon to be former) OB

I'm back....

My betas dropped from 95 to 75 so my body is apparently trying to take care of this on it's own.  The tech was really nice and saw nothing in the uterus.  I have 3 large cysts on my left ovary, one that was "suspiciously" close to the tube but looked to be more of an ovarian cyst (her words).  She told me to get dressed and that my doctor would be in to see me in a few minutes.  The doctor came in quickly and said, "I'm sorry but your betas are dropping".  I told him that I was actually relieved because that meant my body was trying to take care of everything on it's own and that I hopefully won't need another D&C.  He said that he wanted to follow me down to 0 and handed me a lab slip for Monday.  He then got up to walk out of the door!!!  I said, um, excuse me Dr. (insert nasty name), can we talk a little bit about what I should do from here, why this happened??.....He cut me off and said, "I'm really busy today, I'll give you a call on Monday after we get your betas back and we can go from there"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I was/am furious!  Clearly I will be booking my next OB appt with a new office and I already have some great recommendations.

The only saving grace is that I have a very close family friend who is an OB (he is in a different state) and I called him immediately after and he couldn't believe what happened.  He's going to send my lab a proper request and take care of the results himself.  He is very concerned because with betas so low you can't see much on a vag ultrasound so you need more info to rule out an ectopic.  He thinks that it's very unlikely that it is one but wants to make sure I get proper care.  He's going to request a work up so we can see what my progesterone looks like and some other stuff (sorry for my lack of medical terms I'm so angry I can barely type).

So, I'm back here.  I am so thankful that I have found such a wonderful group of women to help me through such a shitty time.  I'll be benched for at least another month or two but as long as all of my blood work comes back normal my family friend thinks I'll be able to TTC again after one cycle.  And if I ever get 7 days of positive OPKs again I'll know it's not a good sign!!





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BFP #1 7/21/2013--EDD 3/30/14--D&C 9/24/13
BFP #2 1/28/14--MC 2/7/14

IUI #1 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
IUI #2 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
IUI #3 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
IVF #1, Stimmed for 12 days, ER 8/22/14, 9 retrieved, 7M, 7F!!  Freeze all due to fluid in uterus.
FET end of October 2014 cancelled due to fluid in uterus due to possible c-scar defect
Surgery scheduled 12/12/14 to fix possible isthmocele
3/26/15 transferred one 8 cell grade 4 embryo and one 6 cell grade 3 embryo = slow rising betas for 2+ weeks = ectopic MTX shot 4/29/15
Repeat c-scar surgery June 2015
2nd and last IVF cycle August 2015, stimmed for 12 days, 2 egg retrieved, both mature and both fertilized.  Transferred both 8-cell embryos on Day 3, beta 9/5/15 = BFFN
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Re: AW: Update after visit to my (soon to be former) OB

  • I am so sorry, sweetie. I cannot believe your OB was a complete and total tool like that! I hope all of this get resolved as quickly as possible and you find a great new doctor! ((Hugs)) hun. 
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  • (((Hugs))) your OB sounds like a jackass! I'm glad you have such a supportive friend who can monitor you until you find a new OB.

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  • I'm so sorry you're going through this.  Huge ((((HUGS))))

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  • Eeeeps. I am so sorry. That OB sounds horrible, and I'm glad that your friend can see to your care properly.
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  • I'm so sorry that you are back here.  Thank you for updating though - I was waiting for your post.  Your doctor sounds like a complete asshole and I can't even imagine how you felt.  I'm so happy that you have a family friend that you can rely on and who is going to take care of you for now.  ((hugs))
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  • I am so sorry you were treated the way you were. How awful. I am happy to hear you have a great friend who has been helping you, and that you have some recommendations for a new doctor. I hope that you get some rest this weekend after what has been such a stressful week. Thinking of you!! ((((HUGS))))

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  • I'm so sorry!!! Good for you for taking charge of your care. I hope you are able to quickly find another OB in your area.
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  • I am so sorry you are dealing with such an unsupportive OB on top of everything else.  FX you find a new OB soon and get the care you deserve. 
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  • @snegde My family friend told me to keep up normal activity.  I need to go get a second job to pay for all of the OPKs and HPTs I've used over the past 6 months.  



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    BFP #1 7/21/2013--EDD 3/30/14--D&C 9/24/13
    BFP #2 1/28/14--MC 2/7/14

    IUI #1 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
    IUI #2 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
    IUI #3 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
    IVF #1, Stimmed for 12 days, ER 8/22/14, 9 retrieved, 7M, 7F!!  Freeze all due to fluid in uterus.
    FET end of October 2014 cancelled due to fluid in uterus due to possible c-scar defect
    Surgery scheduled 12/12/14 to fix possible isthmocele
    3/26/15 transferred one 8 cell grade 4 embryo and one 6 cell grade 3 embryo = slow rising betas for 2+ weeks = ectopic MTX shot 4/29/15
    Repeat c-scar surgery June 2015
    2nd and last IVF cycle August 2015, stimmed for 12 days, 2 egg retrieved, both mature and both fertilized.  Transferred both 8-cell embryos on Day 3, beta 9/5/15 = BFFN
    MOVING TO ADOPTION!  


  • (((HUGS)))

    How awful of that Dr to treat you like that!!!!  Glad that you have a great friend to help you figure this all out. 
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  • Poppy715Poppy715
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    I'm so so sorry you are back here. Dr. Asshole is not ok. I would find wherever you need to complain about him and give them a piece of your mind. His lack of attention to this situation is negligent and scary. I'm so thankful you have a friend who can help you through this. Don't go back to Dr. Asshole, find a new OB that will take the proper anoint of tome with you.

    I'm so sorry you had to go through that on top of your already heartbreaking situation.

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  • I'm so sorry your doctor treated you like that. That is so unacceptable. I'm glad that you have a friend who can help you out in the meantime and that you've gotten recommendations for a new OB. ((hugs))
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  • I'm so sorry you're back and good for you for getting a new OB. The old one sounded terrible. 

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  • I'm so very sorry. I'm sorry that you had a hellish experience with this ob while going through this. I am glad that you have a great friend who is willing to go the extra mile for you, even being so far away. ((((Hugs))))

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  • ((Hugs)) So sorry your OB is being a jerk.  That's no way to treat a patient.  GL with your search for a new OB - I hope you find one that will never be too busy to answer your questions and discuss what happened.  
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  • I'm so so so sorry. You have every right to be livid. Your OB sounds like a complete jerk. The way he treated you is completely unacceptable. (((Hugs)))

    I'm so glad that someone else is handling your care until you can formally switch.
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  • I'm so sorry you find yourself back here and that you had to deal with a terrible doctor on top of everything else. ((Hugs)) to you, I hope you are able to find a new doctor quickly!

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    I am so sorry you had to go through all of this. You are lucky to have a family friend who is able to help you out. I'll be thinking about you ((HUGS))
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  • I'm so sorry that you're going through this and that your OB treated you like that. Many (((hugs)))

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    I'm so sorry you're going through this and that your OB is a douchebag. Patient care should be his #1 priority! (((Hugs)))

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  • I am so sorry Hun that you're going through this. I'm also sorry for your clown of an ob. I'm so glad your friend is able to help point you in the right direction. I think a new ob is exactly what the doctor ordered here.

    Sending you lots of ((hugs))

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  • I am sooo sorry that you are going through this and that you are back here. Please find yourself a better Dr as well, it is soo important. Please try and take care of yourelf. Sending Big ((Hugs)) your way
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  • NO! I'm so sorry you are coming back to us. I just hate this for you. And also....
    TP to your OB....what a jerk. ((Hugs))
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  • big hugs honey...what an A-hole doc!! Glad you have your friend

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  • That's horrible. Im glad you have such a good family friend ((hugs))

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  • I'm sorry that I'm just getting to this now. I will PM you tomorrow but wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts. I'm so glad that your friend can help you through this and I hope you can find a new OB soon. Many ((HUGS)) and much love sweetie!
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  • I am so sorry. ((Hugs)) Your OB sounds like a jackass. I'm glad you have a friend who can help you.
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  • I am so sorry you are back and had to deal with that dr... >:D<

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  • (((Hugs))). So sorry you had to deal with that jackass!! I'm very glad your family friend is going to take care of you!!
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  • I'm so sorry that you're going through this. And that your OB was a jerk. (((HUGS)))

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  • really really sorry! ((hugs))
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  • I'm so sorry, that's terrible. What is wrong with some people! Glad you can find a different doctor. (((hugs)))
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