CHALLENGE #20: 1/29 - 22 Days of Fitness & Health

BumpJackie

Get the Help You Want (and Need!)

Many moms feel like they could use more help from their spouse but wrongly believe that their partner will simply know what needs to be done. “We need to debunk the myth that this should happen seamlessly,” says Lisa Spiegel, director of Soho Parenting, a support center for parents in New York City. “Adults need to say what they need. Partners would never run a business without meeting, but we think that our partners should just know what’s needed. It’s about meeting and talking and problem solving together.” Spiegel recommends that new parents have a 15-minute meeting each day to check in, talk about what’s going on and figure out what each can and should be doing.

 

What did/will you ask your partner (or mom, or girlfriend) for help on?

jaydamuhindra

I asked my DH to help with LO every Saturday morning. He takes her from 7am -10 am. I get to sleep in or get a nice little window for doing chores or having some alone time. My DH has a CRAZY / Hectic work schedule so he benefits from getting quality time with LO before he has to run to work yet again.

blinnea23

I'm usually the one to check on DD when she is waking up from a nap and she needs to be soothed back to sleep. Ive been asking DH to do it, it gives them extra bonding time and me a little break

HBirdie

I asked my husband to take the morning shift before he leaves for work. If baby is awake from 9pm-4am, it's my responsibility. After 4am until he goes to work at 7, it's DH (though I EBF so I still have to wake up enough to nurse). It's wonderful knowing I have a few hours that I definitely get to sleep.

He also helps me a lot around the house- the kitchen is mostly his responsibility and it's wonderful.

jasrun80

ground rules! if you think he should hang up his own jacket, ask if he agrees! ground rules make it so no one feels shamed or guilty & it's a matter if fact type of dealing with responsibilities!
also, I hurt my back & have seen WHAT he's capable of,,, I'm still in pain,,, but I may milk it!

HarleyKins

DH gets  to take care of LO when he comes home from work every day. I've spent all day with her and now he gets some one on one time. He's a great help and an amazing daddy!