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Ways to tell people you are pregnant

You'd think I would have thought this over a million times over the last 3 years, but it came to the point that I wasn't sure I would ever have the opportunity to say "I'm pregnant," and I blocked it out.  I can't believe I am getting to the point that it is my reality. (Still in disbelief!).

So, I am trying to find fun and different ways to tell my friends & family I am pregnant (outside of yelling "Holy crap, I am pregnant!" - which may happen, too ;-).  Not looking for anything elaborate & this is not for social media.  It's just different ways to share the news either in person or over the phone.  Any ideas?

My TTC Journey:
Dx: Hypothalamic amenorrhea / mild PCOS (Pretty much a hormone/ovulatory disorder)
Progesterone to induce period w/ the goal of Clomid - never got period (September 2011). Referred to RE.
Femera - never responded to the meds (December 2011)
Clomid with TI - BFN (February 2012)
Injectables (Menopur) - hyperstimulated/canceled (March 2012)
Injectables #2 (Menopur) with TI- BFN (May 2012)
IVF - OHSS (transfer canceled), but 11 frozen! (June 1012)
FET - 1 transferred on 8/09/12. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): 350.3; Beta#2: 365; Beta#3: 157. Biochemical pregnancy.
FET # 2 - 1 transferred on 11/01/12. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): 337; Beta#2: 769. BFP!!! 1st ultrasound 11/28/12 showed heartbeat, but measuring 5 days behind. 2nd ultrasound 12/05/12 - miscarriage.
FET # 3 - 1 transferred on 1/24/13. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): BFN.
FET # 4 - 2 transferred on 3/21/13.  Bet #1 (11dp5dt): 660; Beta#2: 1,300.  Miscarried at home @ 6 weeks.

FET # 5 - 2 transferred on 7/12/13.  Beta #1 (10dp6dt): BFN.
Attempted an IUI in late August 2013, but didn't respond well.
IVF #2 with PGS - Stims started 10/28 with retrieval on 11/11.  Of 14 mature eggs, 10 fertilized, 4 made it to Day 5 & 1 made it to Day 6. We did PGS on the Day 5 embryos, and 3 of 4 were normal. Had ET on 11/17. Beta #1 (8dp6dt): 203. Beta #2 (10dp6dt): 618. We since had two ultrasounds & on 12/19, our RE released us to the OB.  On 1/02/14, we had our first ultrasound with the OB where we heard the heartbeat.  We are so thankful for the blessing & crossing every finger & toe for a healthy & successful pregnancy.

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Re: Ways to tell people you are pregnant

  • Congrats! This is a happy "problem"!!

    I did something along the lines of, "so DH and I have some exciting news...*pause*...we are expecting! Baby is due in January!!!".

    Have fun telling! I confess that I was nervous. Not like we would get a negative comment or anything (we had been married 4.5yrs when we were telling). 
    TTC Since 3/2010
    Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
    Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
    Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
    IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
    ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
    ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
    Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
    Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!! 
    Baby girl J arrived two weeks early! Born into water, med-free. Hooray for Team Pink!

    TTC #2 - back to the RE, treatment started 12/2014. 

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  • For family we did picture frames that said grand baby or baby and put the ultrasound pic inside. And a note that said "updated picture due" on baby's due date.
    TTC with PCOS since November 2009
    IUI#1 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP, m/c
    IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
    IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
    beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
    beta #2 11/28 = 2055
    Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
    Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!
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  • With DS I gave my mom and mother in law a photo album we found at Hallmark that said "Great moms get promoted to Grandma" with our ultrasound pic inside. For the rest of our family we announced at a family get together. We had everyone get together for a picture and my DH took the pic and said "on the count of 3 everyone say Chris and Christine are having a baby"! That was a super fun way to announce and we actually took a video not a photo to capture the reaction.
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  • I phoned my mom who lives across the country and told her I had something to tell her but I was nervous about it. I then I was pregnant and we went from there. We had been planning on waiting until after our 8week ultrasound but then at 6 weeks I had a sudden urge and just did it. I wouldn't overthink things. Congrats again.
  • Is it weird that I don't love telling people? I prefer to let my belly do the talking so I don't have to spell it out... Or I let my yenta mom spread the word...
    Me: 34 - low ovarian reserve
    DH: 40 - no issues  

    3 failed IUI's 

    IVF #1 3/12 - 13 eggs, 9 fertilized,  2 transferred (1 grade 2 blast, 1 early blast), no frosties, 3/30/12 - 9dp5dt spotting, BFNs

    IVF #2. 7/12 - 18 days of stims, 3 mature eggs, 3 fertilized (ICSI), 3 transferred (9, 8, 7 cell) on day 3.  First beta - 8/21/12 = 105, beta #2 - 8/23/12 = 268, beta #3 - 8/30/12 = 2,352. 2nd u/s - 9/4/12. Baby Boy born 5/1/2013.

    IVF #3 Now (12/13). AMH is very low - 0.19. ER (12/5) 12 eggs, 10 mature, 7 fertilized using ICSI. 3 transferred (8,8,8 cell - all grade 2) on day 3. First beta - 12/21/13 = 126, beta #2 - 12/23/13 = 400, beta #3 - na (office was closed for new year's). First sonogram - TWINS aka OMG! -  


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  • LeoLauren said:

    Is it weird that I don't love telling people? I prefer to let my belly do the talking so I don't have to spell it out... Or I let my yenta mom spread the word...

    Me too. I don't like all the attention. To me it's very awkward to tell people about the contents of my uterus.

    For #2, at work I made cupcakes with a fondant pea in a pod on top, and with pink filling. Then I just waited to see if people figured it out.
    TTC with PCOS since November 2009
    IUI#1 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP, m/c
    IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
    IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
    beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
    beta #2 11/28 = 2055
    Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
    Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!
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  • I was on Face Time with my parents and just told them I saw something funny this morning and wanted to show them...the pregnancy test. They knew I was cycling, so it wasn't really something I could hide. With my siblings and in laws, we just blurted out that I was pregnant, talked about that for awhile, and then dropped in there that it was twins. 

    Easy and simple was a good way to go for us. Congrats!
    TTC in 2009, Dx: Unexplained IF
    Three TI cycles (BFP...miscarriage), five IUI attempts and 2.5 IVF cycles later...BFP!!
    12dp5dt: 765; 15dp5dt: 1979; 17dp5dt: 3379...TWINS!!!!!
    Our perfect baby boys were born at 36w1d!! 








  • Ditto @LeoLauren. I shared news via text or a phone call to all of our sibs and closest friends. We told our parents over dinner at a restaurant. I just slid the u/s photo across the table and told them we had some news - not a big show, but it was a special moment.
    dx: MFI 0% morph & low count. Occasional Anovulatory cycles.

    TTC #1
    • IVF #1 4/21/12 - c/p
    • IVF#2 8/1/12 - BFP! DD arrived 4/10/2013.

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    • FET #1 3/18/14 - BFP! DS arrived 11/19/2014.

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  • I didn't announce to anyone. My bump did. It was more fun watching people size me up then saying a word about it. I did tell my boss though.   It was the day before Christmas recess, so I went into my principals office and it went like this:  (he has twins btw)

    Me:  I hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday!
    Him:  you too!
    Me:  by the way, I just wanted to let you know that I'm pregnant and due in June.
    Him:  wow!  Congratulations!  I had no idea!  Careful, there may be more than 1 in there.
    Me:   The was but I lost one of my babies 4 weeks ago.
    Him:  I'm so sorry......I....,I had no idea.....I.....I...
    Me:  no worries.  Merry Christmas.

    That was the last time he brought up my pregnancy until April when he was hiring my replacement.  Jerk!

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    IVF #1 September 2012, beta #1: 213; beta #2: 580. Expecting Twins! 
    EDD 6/9 lost one angel at 9w3d :( 
    Baby boy arrived 6/1/13
    FET #1 10/14, BFP -Chemical Pregnancy :(
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  • We bought identical picture frames and grandparents to be cards. MH family lives close so we told them in person. My mom lives out of state so we sent her the package in the mail and asked her not to open it until she called us. We waited 12 weeks to tell them just to be safe and my mom had just finished her chemo and radiation it was a nice graduation gift for her. Anyway you tell people will be special :)

    Me 38 MH 41 - TTC since June 2010 - dx with Severe MFI. Straight to IVF with ICSI. IVF #1 - ER 06/13/12 - 9 Eggs Retrieved - 4 ICSI'd - only 2 fert. 06/15/12 - 2DT - 3 cell & 6 cell with fragmentation. Beta 06/29/12 - IVF #1 = BFN. 07/20/12 - WTF Appt -Told by our RE to quit IVF. Second Opinion from RE is good. IVF#2 - November 2012. Estradiol Pills Started 11/6. Stims start 11/16. ER 11/26 - 7 eggs retrieved - all mature. 4 fertilized with ICSI. ET 11/29 Transferred 3 embryos. Beta is 12/10. 1st Beta 81 2nd Beta 160 and 3rd beta 360!!! First U/S 12/21/12 - We saw one beautiful gest. sac. 2nd U/S is 01/04/2013 - H/B 183 02/05/13 - NT Scan - everything looks good and IT'S A BOY!  Aiden was born 08/20/2013.

    IVF #2 is in progress.  ER was 05/12/14 - 11 eggs retrieved, 8 fertilized with ICSI.  ET was 05/15/14 - we transferred 3 embryos as we did on the cycle my son was conceived.  We were able to freeze 3 embryos. Beta is scheduled for 05/26/14.  1st beta - 111.  2nd beta - 159 didn't double :( 3rd beta Friday 5/30) - not a lot of hope left. Beta # 3 is 247 - probably ectopic.  Beta # 4 is 813 - possibly vanishing multiple sydrome?  06/05/14 - 5w4days - first U/S - we see a gestational sac and yolk - still have hope!  06/17/14 - 7w1day - U/S and saw and heard the heartbeat - Finally!  06/27/14 - 8w4days - Baby and heartbeat look and sound great :)  EDD 02/01/14 and It's a boy!


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