First Overnight with Grandma

onewayticket

How early will you leave LO with a caregiver over night? My friends bachelorette party is in Vegas in March so Bennett will be 4 months old. Daddy works weekends so I would leave LO with my mom. I'm thinking it's still too early though...

cammyisagirlsname

I think that's fine! My LO is not even 2 months yet and I'm about to leave him at my parents house soon just so I can get a full night of sleep!

Crgardner957

I left DS1 at 5 months old. DH, me and a group of friends camped out on the beach for the weekend. It's not too early.

Lawren

I think it's fine.

mamashan12

I think whenever you are comfortable is fine.

hfitz

I think whatever you're comfortable with is fine.  I think it's still too early for me but if I felt comfortable, I wouldn't hesitate to leave her at grandma's!

iranwithscissors

I personally don't leave my kids til they're consistently STTN just because I'd feel bad for someone else to have to do MOTN feedings other than myself or DH. But in your case, it's a big event and if your mom is happy to watch him it'll be fine.

KFiori1

I'd do it.

MommyEllenSue

Our closest grandparent is 5 1/2 hours away so it's not an option for us. But if we still lived back home I'd do it.

NurseKMM

Do it.

I think my mom would have kidnaped DS if I would have waited until 4mo. She has been asking since she found put when I was pregnant to have an overnight. At first I thought it was to soon, but then I had DS and never slept again. So he had his first overnight at grandparents house this past weekend. He'll be 6 weeks tomorrow.

Tigger & pooh

Around two and this is only with my mom and dad. My 5 and 7 yr old haven't stayed overnight with anyone else.

Tigger & pooh

Tigger & pooh said:

Around two and this is only with my mom and dad. My 5 and 7 yr old haven't stayed overnight with anyone else.

After reading the other responses I am going to assume I am definitely a "special snowflake". In my defense I EBF and I am way to lazy to pump and introduce a bottle so they have to be with me for 12+ months until I wean. Then they have to be sleeping through the night .

notkateanymore

I'm leaving DS with a sitter for a long weekend next month or the month after that, depending on when we decide to go to NOLA. DD spent the night out at 5 days old thanks to a trip to the emergency room, so that kind of tore the band-aid off with her. With family I'd leave them in a heartbeat. Go and have fun.

notkateanymore

Tigger & pooh said:

Around two and this is only with my mom and dad. My 5 and 7 yr old haven't stayed overnight with anyone else.

Your 7 year old hasn't ever been to a spend the night party?

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amberpro

We left DS1 with my parents for 3 nights when he was 4 months old. I pumped enough to cover the trip and pumped while I was gone (which was a bit if a pain), but it worked out and we had fun.

DS had occasional overnights with my parents starting around 3 months, too, so DH and I could have dates. He was STTN mostly by then.

MissyC979

We booked a night away in May for our anniversary. I'm hoping the baby will be sleeping reasonably well by then and will be able to hang with the grandparents for the night, along with DS1. I think we also did it at about five months (also for our anniversary) with DS1.

KFED103

I'm drooling at the thought of drunken debauchery in Vegas.

KateVA

I'm just jealous of anyone with a parent willing to keep their baby overnight!

lilypienmessimy

I have two Bachelorette parties that I'm debating going to..one is in New Orleans, one is just a night in the city. The city one LO will be with DH and I'll go to that, the New Orleans one, LO will have to stay by my parents for one night then just with DH for 2 nights..these would be when she is 5 and 6 months old. I have no problem leaving her with family...I just don't know if I want to leave her and it will probably make me stop Bfing..it's a hard decision. To answer you though, I definitely don't think 4 months is too young, as long as you feel comfortable. 

hjweber

KateVA said:

I'm just jealous of anyone with a parent willing to keep their baby overnight!

This!  With DD1, both mom's couldn't wait to keep her overnight.  I'm convinced they wanted to try out their baby gear they bought for their homes and they thought it would be all cute and "funsy" to play house with a baby again.  Once they realized how freaking hard it is, they changed their tune.  Now it's like DD2 is chopped liver.  No one's asked or mentioned that they want to take her overnight.  

Tigger & pooh

KateMW said:

Tigger & pooh said:

Around two and this is only with my mom and dad. My 5 and 7 yr old haven't stayed overnight with anyone else.

Your 7 year old hasn't ever been to a spend the night party?

No none of the boys we know we have done that. It seems more like something the girls do.

notkateanymore

Tigger & pooh said:

Around two and this is only with my mom and dad. My 5 and 7 yr old haven't stayed overnight with anyone else.

Your 7 year old hasn't ever been to a spend the night party?

No none of the boys we know we have done that. It seems more like something the girls do.

Huh. Boys and girls do it around here, starting in first grade usually. Every weekend it seems.

Hannie3

Our daughter is 5weeks old tomorrow and we are booking a night away in a hotel this Saturday.
My mum is coming to stay at ours overnight with her.
She is the only person I would trust to stay with her though and I feel a lot better she's staying at ours.
You will be fine enjoy the break!

Crgardner957

KateMW said:

Tigger & pooh said:

KateMW said:

Tigger & pooh said:

Around two and this is only with my mom and dad. My 5 and 7 yr old haven't stayed overnight with anyone else.

Your 7 year old hasn't ever been to a spend the night party?

No none of the boys we know we have done that. It seems more like something the girls do.

Tigger & pooh said:

Huh. Boys and girls do it around here, starting in first grade usually. Every weekend it seems.

My brother is 8 and has sleepovers once a month and is usually sleeping over at a friends house. I thought it was pretty normal for both boys and girls.

leahraewku

We left DD1 at 5 months so we could go on our honeymoon. I was done nursing at that point and felt totally comfortable with it. It all depends on what feels right to you.

Tigger & pooh

KateMW said:

Tigger & pooh said:

KateMW said:

Tigger & pooh said:

Around two and this is only with my mom and dad. My 5 and 7 yr old haven't stayed overnight with anyone else.

Your 7 year old hasn't ever been to a spend the night party?

No none of the boys we know we have done that. It seems more like something the girls do.

Tigger & pooh said:

Huh. Boys and girls do it around here, starting in first grade usually. Every weekend it seems.

Beats me. He has never been invited to one. Maybe no one likes him

notkateanymore

LOL

swirl25

We left DD1 overnight for the first time when she was 3.5 months to go to my good friend's wedding. My parents watched her and I was a little stressed/nervous about being away from her and pumping enough milk, but I started my stash early and it was fine. I am already planning on my parents watching both kids for a weekend so we can go away for our 5-year anniversary, but that's not till July...she'll be nearly 7 months by then and I'm sure we'll be leaving her and her sister overnight well before that.

SweetPriz

As long as your ok with it more power to you I don't think that's too young at all
My other two spend the night at there grandmas(my mom) all the time but other than that they have play dates but I don't let them spend the night at other peoples house. one time they spend the night at my SIL and that's because my bf let them and convince me to it but it's not that I don't trust them at all but I like to just take precaution period.

nofcksgiven

I left LO with my mom when he was a little over three weeks. DH and I were exhausted and she offered to give us a break. We jumped on it.

He'll be staying with my grandmother overnight next weekend.

Do what you're comfortable with. I'm totally okay with my family caring for him. I trust them 100%.

mh89

So.. Dd1 didn't spend the night at grandma's until she was 3 years old, but that's because she was EBF and wouldn't take a bottle. She also had terrible separation anxiety from me when she was a baby. Now she has a sleepover at her grandparents house once or twice a month to give me a "night off" with only one kid to take care of, it's very nice. Since dd2 does take a bottle and a pacifier (hallelujah) I would actually have the opportunity to let her be away from me overnight if I needed to.. I don't think I'd do it at 3 months personally, but if you're comfortable with it there's nothing wrong with it.

MEP923

My husband has a work party tonight and I just couldn't hand DS2 off to anyone quite yet. I thought I'd be ready, especially as a STM, but I'm not. We are not big "going out" people so I don't know the first time we will give him up overnight. It may be October when it is DH's birthday and our anniversary. DS1 I had to give up earlier because his biological father took him overnight when he was about 4 months old.

MamaGrillo

DD1 was 15 mths ( we were away for a week- babymoon, DD2 was due 3 mos after). DD2 was 11 mo and bottle fed- also for a week. DD3 I forget (at this point too many kids to remember specifics.) I think maybe overnight after a year once she was STTN and no longer bf. Then we went away for a week when she was 2.
If my mum was closer I'd probably do it earlier. I have pumped and gone on errands. MIL is very close by, but is awkward with babies and gets flustered easily. She's awesome with the kids once they're older though.

I turn 40 the end of November , 4 days before J turns 1. I'm guessing she 'll have at least one overnight then !

MamaGrillo

Oh I'm strange about sleepovers. The girls haven't had many, but yes , they're common.
My oldest went to one (EVERYONE was having slumber parties for their 10th birthdays last year, it seems!), but someone's older brother ended up there too, and came into one of the rooms during the night. When I heard this I well nigh had a coronary.
And that was the end of sleepovers.